Needing to VENT I think. LOL

[HeKnowsMyName]

A man I work with (cousin-in-law) is so nosey. DS who just turned 3 is not potty trained yet. He is doing better but he really is not even halfway there. He had surgery last year in that area and the doctor says that can delay his training so don't push. We're letting him decide when to train which is not the way I wanted to do it but it seems to have worked better.

Most of the time he tells us when he has to do #2 but won't when he has to do #1. Odd I know. However, this morning at work (I work in our family owned business so the kids come with me) he did #2 in his pants. He had gotten quiet and hid behind something so I thought that's what he was up to. I asked him in his ear if he had poo poo'd and he said yes. Then I said I thought so (not in his ear). After I got through with my customer, my cousinIL asked me what I was talking about when I said I thought so. I told him I was talking to DS. He said, yeah I know but what were you talkiing about. Rather than be rude I told him. He had to make a remark that he thought he was already potty trained blah blah blah. Where's the ANGRY smilie when you need it? I am still irritated by his nosiness. What do you say to peole like that?

 

[Birbitt]

So sorry that your cousinil is so rude. If it were me I probably would have just told him that since it's not his child he doesn't have to worry about if he's potty trained or not.

Just a thought have you tried using a treat jar to get him to use the potty? I did this with my oldest because he didn't potty train till just after he turned 3. I took a plastic jar and put it on a shelf where ds could see it but not reach it, then I filled it with skittles candy, every time he pee peed in the potty he got 2 skittles every poooo he got 3 skittles and if he tried to go but couldnt he got 1 skittle.

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

I've tried everything (well, not Skittles persay but we have tried candy). We rewarded DD with ice cream (some say that's wrong but believe me, it didn't affect her weight) and it worked like a charm.

Who knows? I might just run out and buy some Skittles and give it a shot. Thanks for the advice. Feel free to share more. LOL

 

[Birbitt]

Don't worry too much, he won't go to school still in diapers. My friend had an interesting way of potty training her dd. Her dd loved disney movies and one movie in particular (can't remember which one) so she put the potty chair in the living room, put on the movie and told dd that you can watch the movie if you sit on the potty chair... she sat and by the end of the movie had done #1 and #2 in the potty seat. Might be another way to get him to at least sit on it and maybe use it. Also with my second DS I kept a small collection of books next to the potty...he would take his pants down and sit on the potty just to read those books.

I think the key with any child is to make sure they are comfortable with the potty seat (or big potty if you choose), and find something they really like and use it to your advantage while encouraging them to use the potty.

Another tip, if your potty has a pull out part to use for cleaning it, take that part out and let your ds stand up and hold it up to him and let him pee pee standing up. My boys thought that was fun and so they would always ask to go pee pee just so they could stand and go in the "bowl".

 

[GolfingMom]

We found a candy that our kiddo's liked. It wasn't the same for both

And I made sure they NEVER got that candy unless they used the bathroom

We celebrated everytime they used the bathroom and they also had a little sticker chart hanging. We made a big deal about it b/c I was tired of diapers

OS trained even with a new baby and youngest son trained even with us moving 2X...

 

[myanchor]

Well, you could tell him "since you asked, he has had surgery and the doctor said he might be a little delayed, why do you want to help change him?"

A little TMI when people are being rude and nosy tends to forestall folks like that.

Note: I corrected my mis-spellings. I'm getting older and the glasses for nearsightedness don't help when I'm at a computer. So I just plain couldn't see. Went to the optometrist Saturday and can see much better now.

 

[tiredwalker]

I'm sorry that happened; it's totally rude.

I second the movie idea. I'm starting potty training with my dd very young (we do cloth diapers, so what's a few extra soiled pieces of cloth?). Anyway, my mom bought us the Elmo potty and the Elmo's Potty Time video. The child is 12 months old and she just loves it! We don't watch anything else at all, just a clip or two of that and she will just tinkle and poo away. I know she doesn't get it yet, but Elmo is so friendly and encouraging. I bet he would just love it.

 

[Macx]

After I got through with my customer, my cousinIL asked me what I was talking about when I said I thought so. I told him I was talking to DS. He said, yeah I know but what were you talkiing about.

At that point Cousin has already crossed the line into rude. "My kid, our conversation, somethings are private." is probably where I'd go with it. Just something short and boundry setting.

 

[myanchor]

Nah, I like my reply, embarass the snot out of them in front of other people by TMI.

 

[bliz]

The problem is not that your son is not yet potty trained. The problem is that your cousin is ignorant, rude and nosey.