Needing space

[K9_Trainer]

Ok, did you just compare your boyfriend to a DOG ?? Actually, that makes sense... If I ever find a guy that I enjoy being around more than my cat, he will be a keeper .

Yes, yes I did! And it works too

It's nice to just be able to be around each other. Like, we don't have to be doing something together or talking. He can be working on his homework, I can be reading for mine, and we can just coexist. Sorta like me and my dog right now. I'm on the computer and reading, he's sleeping, we're both on the bed. Every so often there's some affection and kisses. It's great

 

[SplendidTree]

I think a healthy balance is important.

For me personally, I do need my space and can become a bit irritable if I do not get it. I think part of it is because in the past I struggled with severe isolation issues for about 2 years.

 

[PinkSweetart]

I think it depends. Sometimes if the person I'm with seems to be more clingy I'll need my space. If it's the opposite, then I'll want to spend more time with them. I've been in both situations in other words. Sometimes I need my space (especially if I'm feeling restricted), and other times I need to be with the other person. It's odd.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Personal space is important to me, but so is together time.

Agreed ^^

 

[r035198x]

I'm not really sure how I'm going to be with someone in my life. It seems more fun to do things with someone than alone.
Will probably depend on how many common interests we share I guess.

 

[psalmtoday]

I value my alone time. I don't like someone who is clingly and puts demands on my time. People who are clingly and demanding tend to have control/insecurity issues. There has to be a healthy balance: It's important to spend time with one another and then on the other hand each person should spend time alone.

 

[trentlogain2]

this is why we are still single

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Are you someone who needs a lot of space from other people, especially in a relationship? Do you value your time alone or do you have to be around other people all the time?

I need a lot of space and I really value my time alone. I don't fear being alone. It actually recharges me so-to-speak. If I was in a relationship, I don't think I could be with someone who wanted to see me all the time. I think I'd get tired of them.

This is me 100%.

I really value my alone time, I need my privacy. I love my family and friends to death and I enjoy being around them, but I'm someone with a personality that requires frequent alone time to, as you so perfectly put it, 'recharge'. I believe I'll be the same way while in a relationship as well. My significant other would to understand that's it's them, it's me (it has nothing to do with liking/disliking them). I'm an introvert...and introverts need their alone time. They cannot go without it. Too much time socializing with others or whatever is very, very 'mentally' exhausting, which literally makes you feel as though you need to actually take a nap.