Needing prayer.......please

[4jc]

I'm not sure where to start, but I am having a hard time with my wife.
Here's the story. I just recently got married and my wife is now pregnant.
She is extremely moody, I mean EXTREMELY moody. That is taking a great toll on me. I have a very hard time with this.
Another thing is: when we got married, it seemed like she wanted to go to church and be involved with the church, but now it seems like she doesn't want to go. Either she has pregnancy pains or headaches, not enough sleep, or something which will keep her from going. There is always something.
We don't pray together, go to church together. I am totally frustrated.
I feel like I have to have enough faith for the whole family. It is hard to do this all on my own.
It also seems like everything I do is wrong in my wife's eyes. I can't say anything right, or do anything right.
I need help. I need prayer. I need prayer from my brother and sisters in Christ.
I even put a card in the basket at church this weekend so someone can call me, cause I need help.I can't even talk with my wife about this cause she is too moody. I won't be able to talk to her about this until she has the baby, or until the moods go away, whenever that is? I need to talk to someone about this and my best friend is gone on vacation for a couple weeks, so I have no-one to talk to.
Please pray for me.......thanks...

 

[kristi124]

I'll be praying for you. I can't say I understand because I've never been in this situation before, but you will be in my paryers.

 

[4jc]

Thanks Kristi, much appreciated.

 

[Blessed-one]

sorry.... as i'm not married, i can't offer physical help in this area but i'll keep your family in my prayer. Don't be despaired, i'm sure some other males have also gone through it and have pulled through. Have faith in God, ask Him to help you.

 

[GodOwnsMe]

praying for you guys God Bless you

 

[VOW]

Pregnant women are terrible. Honestly. They are angry, weepy, argumentative, and even downright mean. Think of it as a turbocharged case of PMS. There are a LOT of things going on in your wife's body. Believe me, it boggles the mind that even though this is in YOUR BODY, you have absolutely no control over it any more. It's like you've been hijacked by the cruise control.

Education is your friend. Read EVERYTHING about pregnancy that you can get your hands on. Go to the checkups with your wife. Ask the doctor questions. WRITE your questions down and bring in a list!

Pregnancy is also extremely frightening. The loss of control over your body is a big factor in the fear. PLUS, it seems like everywhere you turn, you've got friends, family, mothers, STRANGERS, experts telling you DO THIS, DON'T DO THAT. Sometimes a woman feels if she takes a drink of WATER, she's going to damage the baby permanently.

Hormones are hell. That's the nicest thing I can say about them. Her entire body is being flooded with hormones, and they are almost like drugs doing crazy things to her. Believe me, she's standing outside of herself, looking at the whole situation, and she's probably even more bewildered than you are.

Church and God are important right now, but it seems like she's just overwhelmed with LIFE and she's trying to withdraw as much as she can, to protect her sanity. You didn't mention if she works outside the home. If she does, she's probably maxed out. Don't push the church stuff, God will take care of that.

And God will take care of YOU, too. You are doing what God commanded. Two have become one, and through your love for each other, you have created LIFE. It's a miracle! Once that baby is born, you will truly understand just how much GOD loves US. Your entire being will be filled with wonder, with awe, with bone-melting love, and an unbelievably powerful feeling of protectiveness. Soon afterwards, the madhouse begins, because a little tiny baby is an incredible amount of work, and for a little baby, he'll make his demands well-known! But the first time you hold your child, you will forget the craziness from the nine months it took to make that baby, and you will only know love.


Peace be with you,
~VOW

 

[4jc]

Thank you all for the prayers.
Vow- yes my wife does work outside the home. But for now she is on medical leave cause of morning sickness. She keeps telling me how she hates to be in the house.
The complaining gets to be "too much" for me to handle, so I took on a second job so we can make ends meet and also so I don't have to stay in the house too much, because it does not seem to make a difference what I do, I always seem to be in the wrong.
I have given this to the Lord to help me with and I soley rely on Him on this matter and every other matter. I know we can get through this, but it is really hard right now.
Thanks again for the prayers.

 

[HesMyAll]

I'll keep you and your family in prayer.  Hang in there, pregnancy can only last 9 months!

Pregnancy can be a very difficult thing to go through especially your first one.  It can be very frightening and VERY physically draining.

Keep praying for your wife and if you can find a prayer partner at church that would be very helpful too.

Don't push her about going to church but keep going yourself.  You might also want to counsel with your pastor.

God bless you.

 

[StruggleN2survivE]

I'll pray for you also..have faith and believe everything will work out fine.

 

[alwaysyoung]

Hi. I have been pregnant most of my marriage. We have 2 kids now. And just from a woman's perspective, pregnancy can be TOUGH! (for both of you!) She has a lot of stuff going on. I was VERY sick with mine and had a million other side effects...( and I'm not usually one to whine about whats wrong with me). It is a very physically uncomfortable time for your wife. Also, she can't control how her hormones are changing so often. And this brings us to the man. Men have a hard time because they have to put up with their wife! The best advice I can say is to LOVE her, and PAMPER her. This is YOUR child in her...just try your best to be patient...even though its hard.

About her spiritual life: try reading, "the power of a praying husband". Prayer does wonders!! Hang in there.
Lisa

 

[Amy]

May God bless you and help you through this, 4jc. Everyone seems to be telling you how hard it is on your wife - and they are right about that - but I think you know that, too, and you don't seem to be blaming her. It's just so difficult to bear, and you're asking for prayer support. I've been in a situation when whatever I did wasn't good enough, constantly, and it was terribly wearing me out. (No, it wasn't hubby doing that to me, it was before I got married.) So I know how you must be feeling and I fully sympathize.

Hang on.

 

[GREG]

GO TO CHURCH.... PRAY BY YOURSELF.... DON'T STOP BEING THE PERSON YOU ARE AND IN TIME SHE WILL COME AROUND. COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE...... TALK TO HER AND HOLD HER. FIX DINNER AND CLEAN HOUSE. SHOW HER YOUR THERE FOR THE LONG HAUL. I KNOW BECAUSE I AM WORKING ON THIS MYSELF.

 

[DaveKerwin]

Hey Bro, this has to be very tough. Maybe your wife just needs your support right now. Do something special for her, make her feel good about herself. Thank her for going through the difficulties of bearing your child, etc. Make a meal for her, you know what she likes, right? Rent a movie that she likes, watch it with her, stuff like that. Then if you have time to sit and talk, just bring some stuff up with a very humble tone. Say thing slowly with low tones, being sensitive to how she might react. But let her see that you care so much about her and your relationship with her. This is your chance to be strong for her since she is having such a difficult time with the pregnancy. And if she won't pray with you, then pray solo for a while, things will shape up soon. Peace of Christ be with you!

 

[brettcself]

I hear you brother. This is a challenge for you certainly, but remember that the solitary feeling you are experiencing is Satan's delight. You are a child of the Almighty God, and therefore in the hands of sovreignty. There is nothing that has befallen you that is not common. My wife and I had a little girl last year. We had another little girl this year. We're broke, and we're hungry sometimes. But the Lord is good. He is the sufficiency that we truly desire. We are not in the midst of anything that he is not aware of. The problem with our problems is US, my brotha, we are the ones that think we shouldn't have issues like we have to go through, but scripture plainly states that we WILL endure these times. It doesn't say 'this may or not happen to you, but if it does, then...' it says it WILL. Do not feel alone Brother. You are living a completely ordered life if you follow the scriptures and live according to the spirit of Christ.