Need your advice and prayers.

[netranger]

My girlfriend recently shared with me that she was assaulted at 14 (she is 20 now). She has never confide this with anyone out of what she called "shame". I went looking for advice online and a lot of the things she mentioned came up. She blamed herself and thought it was her fault. You know, thought she was dressed to sexy etc. I reassured her it was not her fault and that she did the right thing in telling me.

We both love each other very much and its because I care for her a great deal, that I'm here looking for help. Just trying to be there for her and be as helpful as possible.

I ask for your prayers for her and your advice.

Thank you.

 

[svl3p]

you could suggest counselling...but don't push it if she's not comfortable with it...it sounds like what you're doing is perfect...being there for her...being supportive....letting her know you love her....and most of all..believing her.....not sure if i'm being helpful or not....i'm no expert, just know from my own experience...but you're in my prayers!

 

[AngeliaTurner]

From my own experience I believe having someone there to lean on and get support is very important. She needs to know that you are there for her and that you love her. It maybe hard for her to accept love from someone because of feeling ashamed and dirty. I know that I have a hard time still trusting people. Just keep reminding her that you are there for her and you love her. Be there for her by just listening and being a shoulder to cry on. She needs someone that can try to help build her self esteem also. But the number one thing you can do for her is to pray for her. Only God can heal that deep wound. I hope this helps. I will keep her in my prayers and you also that God will use all that you say and do to help with the healing process.

 

[Ruth~]

I'm proud of how you are helping her. Support is one of the most important thing a SA survivor needs. Angelia had excellent advice and I agree with her.