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you shouldn't feel this way, being a mother is hard but with God's help you can do it. ask God for help he's on your side.
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Umm ^ not exactly helpful.
Anyway, yes it is normal (for lots of babies) to want to sleep with you. That's all she has known! And it's only a problem if you find it a problem, not anyone else. In terms of showering, do it when DH is home. I usually shower at night when they are little, or find a time when she will be happy to lie on the floor of the bathroom on a blanket or something. Shower with the screen/curtain open and talk and smile at her continuously. A bit weird to get used to but it works.
And you know my answer to eating and getting things done is.....a baby carrier.
And trust me, you get really really good as a parent at doing stuff one handed
Anyway, yes it is normal (for lots of babies) to want to sleep with you. That's all she has known! And it's only a problem if you find it a problem, not anyone else. In terms of showering, do it when DH is home. I usually shower at night when they are little, or find a time when she will be happy to lie on the floor of the bathroom on a blanket or something. Shower with the screen/curtain open and talk and smile at her continuously. A bit weird to get used to but it works.
And you know my answer to eating and getting things done is.....a baby carrier.
And trust me, you get really really good as a parent at doing stuff one handed
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"half an hour naps during the day" made me pause. Hmm...could she be too warm or too cool? I know Anina wouldn't take long day naps for a few days until I figured out her cosleeper mattress was too hard and we added a thick blanket wrapped around it. You are probabaly already doing this, but do you have some soothing music to play while she naps? Is the room dark enough? I'm trying to think of all the things that could keep a tiny baby from taking longer naps during the day......maybe a more experienced Mama can jump in here to help.
I DO so remember taking showers while holding my breath practically hoping she wouldn't wake up! All too soon, you'll be able to put her in one of those jumper things and play peek a boo with her while you shower
I DO so remember taking showers while holding my breath practically hoping she wouldn't wake up! All too soon, you'll be able to put her in one of those jumper things and play peek a boo with her while you shower
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angelsgirl
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I don't have music playing when she sleeps. (My CD player broke... i don't have one anymore!!!) But she may be able to sleep better with some noise. She sleeps really well out in the lounge room when I have the tv on. But then again she is sleeping on me then.
I'm pretty sure she's not hot or cold...
Maybe the room is too light for her. She sleeps pretty well during the night, so her bassinet must be comfy enough...
I'm pretty sure she's not hot or cold...
Maybe the room is too light for her. She sleeps pretty well during the night, so her bassinet must be comfy enough...
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Warning... this is a rant post!!!
Ugh... I'm not having a very good time of it at the moment!!!
I'm not dealing very well at all... I didn't expect to feel like this. Madeleine is 3 and a bit weeks old. I'm not really coping too well with the lack of sleep (even though she is quite a good sleeper), and she has been very unsettled the last few days. I feel like all I do is hold a crying baby, or put a crying baby on my breast. I'm also not coping with how unsettled she has been the past few days. I had to put her down and walk away the other day... I felt like such a bad mother...
I don't know why i am feeling so bad... Sometimes everything is ok, but then sometimes it feels like I can't do anything right.(Usually at night).
It seems like my husband is much better at being a parent than me. He comes home and within seconds of him picking her up Maddie is all calm and she goes to sleep better with him than me.
I so don't know what to do... I want to be able to deal with all this, but i'm finding it really hard. I have been bursting into tears so easily lately too. My husband has been awesome, but the lack of sleep is getting to him too and we have been fighting more and more the last couple of days which really hasn't helped things at all...
I'm also stuck at home most of the days cause I can't drive due to the caesar. So unless Mum comes up and takes me out, I don't get out much at all.
Does it get better??? People say the first 6 or so weeks are the hardest... and that it gets better after that... is it true???
I honestly feel like a bad Mum cause I feel this way...
I don't know if anyone else has said this to you, but you sound like you are suffering from post-partum depression. I had it with my first and it went on for months. I think you need to speak to your MD. Your baby is simply reacting to what she can sense coming from you. That is why Daddy seems to do better with the baby.
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angelsgirl
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She is asleep!!! I can't believe it! Granted she is sleeping in her bouncer thing, but still... she's asleep and not on me!!! YAY!!!
I put her in the bouncer so I could do a couple of things, I was only going to leave her in there for a couple of mins and I came out to get her and she was sound asleep. So I left her there. I figure I can get her used to sleeping without me in that and then move her to her bassinet once she is happy sleeping without me!!!
Lisa... I did think about PND, but I did the questionnaire thingy with the Nurse that came to see Maddie, and I answered honestly, and I'm way off what they class as even being close.
I was just having a bad couple of days. I feel great now and I honestly feel like I have bonded with my baby... FINALLY!!!
I can deal with her crying more easily now, I can deal with the fussiness...
I think I just had a case of the baby blues.
I put her in the bouncer so I could do a couple of things, I was only going to leave her in there for a couple of mins and I came out to get her and she was sound asleep. So I left her there. I figure I can get her used to sleeping without me in that and then move her to her bassinet once she is happy sleeping without me!!!
Lisa... I did think about PND, but I did the questionnaire thingy with the Nurse that came to see Maddie, and I answered honestly, and I'm way off what they class as even being close.
I was just having a bad couple of days. I feel great now and I honestly feel like I have bonded with my baby... FINALLY!!!
I can deal with her crying more easily now, I can deal with the fussiness...
I think I just had a case of the baby blues.
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EmilyF
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This is about as helpful as a kick in the head. It really can only hurt mothers who are struggling.
angelsgirl, sleep deprivation is a horrible horrible thing. I think that a lot of people really underestimate it. My baby didn't sleep through the night until he was 6.5 months old. His brother has night terrors. My husband and I were trying to live on 3 hours of sleep for four months (we were getting about 5 hours each for the first two). It did. not. work. We were miserable, sick and couldn't over illnesses, non functioning, wiped out and hating each other.
Sleep, anyway you can get it is a must. Don't feel bad, don't worry about what other people tell you about not spoiling the baby or keeping a clean house for her or anything. The mess will wait for you.
Check for the food sensitivities and go to your doctor as a follow up.
Also, if you feel like she is getting too tired, she may also be getting over stimulated. Try white noise or a classical music station (for my oldest it was our friend's Christian Rave music cd). If you have to go to the thrift store and buy a radio for a few bucks. Keep your home a comfy temp and keep lighting low.
It really does get easier and it gets a lot more fun.
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lottepotte
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Its good to hear you are over it
. I had ceasar in Feb and I was much better in two months, so keep up faith. I think I got too activ and I have right now a new hard period emotionally. I feel very tired all the time and have been "bad" mom with my older kids
, not with little one. So I have decided to sleep much more, hope it gets better very soon.
. I had ceasar in Feb and I was much better in two months, so keep up faith. I think I got too activ and I have right now a new hard period emotionally. I feel very tired all the time and have been "bad" mom with my older kids, not with little one. So I have decided to sleep much more, hope it gets better very soon.
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