Need some help....plz.

[nwarguy01]

Ok, I’m just looking for some help or support…..or something. I don’t even know exactly what I’m looking for. I’ve been having homosexual feelings since I was 12 or 13 and it never hit me emotionally until I found Christ a few years ago. Since then it’s been nothing but downhill and I just don’t know what to do anymore. And I hate to sound rude but it’s very hard for me to hear people tell me to just put my faith in Christ and it will be ok, or to rely on His strength,….basically anything biblical right now. It’s just that I’m at the point to where I feel I have almost lost my faith in getting this healed. I’ve not lost my faith in Him or what he did for us…..I just can’t do it right now. Basically I would like to hear from some people that have gone or are going through this….what helps you when you have those thoughts? I’m just at a loss right now of what to do.
Thanks for the help.

 

[Cristiano]

Ok, I’m just looking for some help or support…..or something. I don’t even know exactly what I’m looking for. I’ve been having homosexual feelings since I was 12 or 13 and it never hit me emotionally until I found Christ a few years ago. Since then it’s been nothing but downhill and I just don’t know what to do anymore. And I hate to sound rude but it’s very hard for me to hear people tell me to just put my faith in Christ and it will be ok, or to rely on His strength,….basically anything biblical right now. It’s just that I’m at the point to where I feel I have almost lost my faith in getting this healed. I’ve not lost my faith in Him or what he did for us…..I just can’t do it right now. Basically I would like to hear from some people that have gone or are going through this….what helps you when you have those thoughts? I’m just at a loss right now of what to do.
Thanks for the help.

Hey bro, I just wanted to post for you since no one else did! It's great talking with you and I look forward to hearing from you again. God bless. Keep the faith and talk to you soon.

 

[bannaboat101]

Ok, I’m just looking for some help or support…..or something. I don’t even know exactly what I’m looking for. I’ve been having homosexual feelings since I was 12 or 13 and it never hit me emotionally until I found Christ a few years ago. Since then it’s been nothing but downhill and I just don’t know what to do anymore. And I hate to sound rude but it’s very hard for me to hear people tell me to just put my faith in Christ and it will be ok, or to rely on His strength,….basically anything biblical right now. It’s just that I’m at the point to where I feel I have almost lost my faith in getting this healed. I’ve not lost my faith in Him or what he did for us…..I just can’t do it right now. Basically I would like to hear from some people that have gone or are going through this….what helps you when you have those thoughts? I’m just at a loss right now of what to do.
Thanks for the help.

Hay don't feel bad at all because I went through it to all you need is help and I will try my best but I'm only going to talk in PM's so send me a message

 

[Kgreg]

Bro, it's my cross to bear.

Sometimes it's really, really hard. I had been sexually active with men for years and there are times when it's really hard not to fall into sin.

I've just jumped into serving as much as I can at my church. I'm in a small group that meets each week for study. My church is really big and emphasizes the small groups to create relationships. I have a good study Bible for home and church, and a smaller one I take with me to read on the subway and at lunch everyday. The busier I am, the less I am tempted.

How old are you? Have you acted on your feelings or are you a virgin? Do you belong to a strong church where you can get support? Have you thought about seeing a Chrisitan counselor? google American Association of Christian Counselors to see if there is one in your area who can maybe help you work through any feelings you have about yourself and your struggle. Are the pastors of your church any help? Some are and some can't. They just don't know where to start. I have GREAT pastors, but they can't begin to counsel a Chrisitan on same-sex attraction and on some of the issues we have to deal with. They just don't have that training, but they've refer people to a church that has a Christian Counseling ministry.

No one's walk is easy. The gate's narrow, and the path is hard Jesus said. You know the devil tempted him with the same things we are going through. He knows how hard it is.

Have you checked out Exodus International and pureintimacy.org? pureintimacy.org has some good, encouraging articles on our struggle.

I don't think Paul had a homosexual orientation, but who knows? Anyway, there is a place for us in serving God. If it's His will that I remain single and abstinent like Paul was, then that's what I'm going to do. If it's His will that I marry, then I trust God will change me in whatever ways are necessary to be a godly husband.

You can PM me if you want.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Ok, I’m just looking for some help or support…..or something. I don’t even know exactly what I’m looking for. I’ve been having homosexual feelings since I was 12 or 13 and it never hit me emotionally until I found Christ a few years ago. Since then it’s been nothing but downhill and I just don’t know what to do anymore. And I hate to sound rude but it’s very hard for me to hear people tell me to just put my faith in Christ and it will be ok, or to rely on His strength,….basically anything biblical right now. It’s just that I’m at the point to where I feel I have almost lost my faith in getting this healed. I’ve not lost my faith in Him or what he did for us…..I just can’t do it right now. Basically I would like to hear from some people that have gone or are going through this….what helps you when you have those thoughts? I’m just at a loss right now of what to do.
Thanks for the help.

"For if we sin willfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries."
"He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses."
"Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?"
"For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people. It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God."

-Hebrews 10:26-31

BUT if you are indeed saved/born again:

"We are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul." - 10:39

 

[nwarguy01]

How old are you? Have you acted on your feelings or are you a virgin? Do you belong to a strong church where you can get support? Have you thought about seeing a Chrisitan counselor? google American Association of Christian Counselors to see if there is one in your area who can maybe help you work through any feelings you have about yourself and your struggle. Are the pastors of your church any help? Some are and some can't. They just don't know where to start. I have GREAT pastors, but they can't begin to counsel a Chrisitan on same-sex attraction and on some of the issues we have to deal with. They just don't have that training, but they've refer people to a church that has a Christian Counseling ministry.

First of all I want to say thank you to all of you for your encouragement and prayers. I honestly didn’t expect this kind of support so fast. It does kinda scare me though, just for the fact that I’ve fallen so many times to the point to where I was/am afraid to get back up and try again.

To answer some questions,
I am 23 and yes I have acted out on my feelings. And I have so much regret for that at this point. Kinda sucks knowing that I can never truthfully say I’m a virgin. I wish so badly that I could take it back, but you can’t.

And I did belong to a church, in my opinion, was a very good non-denominational church. However I didn’t socialize at all or get to personally know the pastors, something I also regret. No matter what I don’t seem to fit in anywhere. But lately, He has been urging me to go back, but I keep finding excuses to stay away. I know that needs to be one of the many first steps I have to take to conquer this.

Yes, I have seen a Christian counselor in the past. At my previous job, they offered chaplain services and I went there. It helped for a little bit, but he had never dealt with that before….he was more accustomed to the drugs and alcohol. Anyway, he could only offer scripture and prayer which is the best thing I’m sure, but I wasn’t far enough along in my faith to rely on that alone. He just didn’t understand what was going on.

And I got signed up for the setting captives free yesterday. Unfortunately I haven’t gotten to view much of it….I only have net access at work. So my plan is to print off each day’s workthrough, that way I can finish the weekend ones as well at home.

Thanks again you guys for all your help. I still have questions and would like to continue chatting w/ you through pm.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Your struggle is beyond my experience. I can only imagine how hard it is. I can't in good conscience judge someone whose shoes I have never walked in.
You're my bro and always will be no matter what.

In spite of the things we all struggle with, we are, in the meantime, still the lights of Christ shining in the darkness. Your life is unique. God is able to use you in a way that he can use no one else because there is no replacement for you. So remember that. It can help combat discouragement.