Need some help, Dunno where to start.

[josh84]

Hey All,
My name is Josh, and I am not married YET.
My girlfriend and I are kinda planning for
the end of next year. Ill be getting my bachelors degree
next june. She is my pastors daughter and i know this will probably be a big wedding. The thing is that I wouldnt know where to start etcetcetce. I was hoping some of ya`ll could give me some pointers on how you planned your weddings. I will talk to my parents etcetcet but I just wanted some ideas and to know how you guys started planning. I am planning to propose to her in December of on her b-day in may. I really hope you " veterans " haha don`t mind helpin me out. God bless you all!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[snoochface]

You should probably ask in the Courting Couples forum.

 

[josh84]

Why would I do that? I needed advice from people who are already married. I just wanna get an Idea as to what steps other people took when planning their wedding.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

My DH and I had a small wedding. We had a lot of pressure to have a big wedding and we got sucked in to some of the hype but left other things just the way we wanted it. It depends on what things are important to you both. Good luck and God Bless!

 

[HeatherJay]

Hey All,
My name is Josh, and I am not married YET.
My girlfriend and I are kinda planning for
the end of next year. Ill be getting my bachelors degree
next june. She is my pastors daughter and i know this will probably be a big wedding. The thing is that I wouldnt know where to start etcetcetce. I was hoping some of ya`ll could give me some pointers on how you planned your weddings. I will talk to my parents etcetcet but I just wanted some ideas and to know how you guys started planning. I am planning to propose to her in December of on her b-day in may. I really hope you " veterans " haha don`t mind helpin me out. God bless you all!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're planning the wedding before asking the girl to marry you?!?

You rock, dude.

 

[josh84]

HAHAHA, No I am not planning it YET. WE talk about it alot. I know I am early but I am just looking into what steps people took to plan their wedding. I also hear it takes a long time to really plan a wedding.
We talk about it all the time and kinda " plan " things.

 

[jessesgirl]

My hubby and I got married in our jammies in his parents' living room (his dad is a pastor). We had a big reception about a month later. I wouldn't have had it any other way. Stress free! Plus, how comfortable are jammies???? lol

 

[cristianna]

Go buy a wedding planning book from your local book store. They are priceless.

 

[josh84]

HAHAHA Jessygirl. ARe you serious??? That actually dont sound like a half bad Idea !Her parents are pastors too . HAHA But I dont think we gonna do that but its deffenitely the first time I heard about that one !

 

[clycleader]

How are you going to propose? Any good ideas?
My husband did it while we were riding horses in the woods near my parents home. It was very romantic. Location was beautiful etc.
My friends hubby proposed at Halloween by putting the ring in a pumpkin, so when she carved it, she found it.
I love the creative stuff.

 

[desmalia]

My hubby and I got married in our jammies in his parents' living room (his dad is a pastor). We had a big reception about a month later. I wouldn't have had it any other way. Stress free! Plus, how comfortable are jammies???? lol

Excellent!!!!! That is by FAR the best one I've heard so far. I LOVE it! Good for you guys.
Man, if DH and I had thought of that we might have done it too!

I firmly believe that weddings are very personal and should not have to adhere to "society's standards" (which keep changing anyway). You guys need to plan a wedding that you will both love. No one else matters in this decision because it is your first big decision when you start your life together. To keep family happy, you may or may not have as much room to plan the numbers, but again that depends on your choices on the end. Just aim to make your bride happy and try to plan a day that you both will enjoy. There will be pressures from well-meaning friends and family. Listen, take their ideas under advisment, and then make your own decisions.

Focus on the vows. This is the purpose of the ceremony, so it should be the thing that gets more thought and prayer than any other part of the event.

DH and I were married this past summer. We had an evening beach wedding right where he proposed to me. The pastor is a friend of ours, and his wife was my room mate in college. Only immediate family attended (other than the massive number of beach-goers who were still suntanning at 8PM!!). We planned the entire thing in two and a half months. That was stressful, but it is doable. A wedding can cost anywhere from a few hundred to tens of thousands of dollars. Decide what your budget is, what kind of wedding you both want (eg, formal, casual, big, small, in a church, outside, local, tropical, etc. etc.), and go from there. Wedding magazines are helpful sometimes too.

And not to jump the gun, but Congrats!! That is really cool that you're starting your planning now. I went wedding dress shopping before DH and I got officially engaged, and was sooooo glad I did.

 

[Cordy]

It didn’t take us long to plan the wedding. We had the big things out of the way in the first week we were engaged, and the rest was just details.

Once you get engaged, set a date and book a church, reception hall, and pastor for that date. Those are the biggies. Then you just take things from there. Clothes, wedding party, decorations etc. Weddings can be as big or small, fancy or plain as you want them. I personally prefer simpler weddings, as I think they can sometimes be a little too commercialized, and all about the “stuff and things” rather than about the meaning of the occasion. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Just remember to make it about you two, and to reflect you two as individuals and your relationship.

 

[josh84]

Thank you so much for all your replies. I appreciate them alot. And yes I do have a wonderfull plan of how i wanna propose.

 

[Inperfected]

Heres my suggestion... Ask in the courting coupes room! Now I know you asked "why would you do that?" but is is where many of those either just married, getting married or wanting to hang out and talk about weddings (well at least in the wedding room there)...

I think you'd find it hel;pful.

 

[jessesgirl]

HAHAHA Jessygirl. ARe you serious??? That actually dont sound like a half bad Idea !Her parents are pastors too . HAHA But I dont think we gonna do that but its deffenitely the first time I heard about that one !

Yep very serious. I was having some medical problems and the stress of planning a wedding proved to be too much for me. So we went ahead and got married and then had our reception on the day that our wedding was gonna be. It was just our immediate families there and it was so much fun! We had a pizza part afterward!!!