Alright heres the deal..I have this friend she's 23 and is really attractive and is like the nicest girl ever, but were just friends. I know her from work. I wasn't really attracted to her before but once I got to know her well I found out what a wonderful and nice person she is and then I became attracted to her. We kind of sort of messed around in the past, not sex, but close even though still not right in God's eyes. She has a 2 year old son and a psycho babys dad (obviously ex boyfriend). I talk to her a lot now but I know God wants us to just be friends nothing more, because I am always there for her when she needs to talk or whatever. I have prayed and prayed and prayed about this and God has spoke to me to saying to be JUST friends. The best thing about all this is that I invited her to church with me and she has been goin with me non-stop for months now, she loves it, but I dont think she ready to give her life to Christ yet. Not only has God worked through me to change her life, this whole experience has magnifcently changed my life and my relationship with God also. Here is one example of God intervening between us......
"She was with her boyfriend for over 2 years and she was tired of being with him cuz he didn't treat her well and never spent time with her and talked down to her and never treated her with the respect she deserved. They would break up and get back together for the sake of the baby but she was so miserable with life down on her self doing poorly in school and always very sad, she didnt even wanna wake up in the morning because she didnt like what had become of their relationship not to mention having to deal with him for the rest of their life thanks to the baby. All her friends, her parents, her brother, everyone was telling her to break up with him for good. She still wouldn't because she kept on thinking that he would change and they would live happily ever after.....Then God intervened....working through me I started talking to her and being her friend and listening to what she had to say about everything and not once did I tell her to break up with her boyfriend...but for some reason after talking to her a lot for 1 week she broke up with him..now its been 9 months later and she couldn't be happier going to church and the way things were, the next semester was the best for her in school with all aces. God worked through me to change her and myself.....just AWESOME!!!!"
Well the advice I need is that I still tend to have this attraction to her physically and personally but I know God wants us just friends, what do I do about this feeling?!?! I have prayed a lot about this but I'm really not sure what God wants me to do about this...maybe just stick it out.. Because I just can't rid myself of it. (Keeping in mind I already have talked to her about this and she feels the same way in that we should just be freinds and nothing more.)
"She was with her boyfriend for over 2 years and she was tired of being with him cuz he didn't treat her well and never spent time with her and talked down to her and never treated her with the respect she deserved. They would break up and get back together for the sake of the baby but she was so miserable with life down on her self doing poorly in school and always very sad, she didnt even wanna wake up in the morning because she didnt like what had become of their relationship not to mention having to deal with him for the rest of their life thanks to the baby. All her friends, her parents, her brother, everyone was telling her to break up with him for good. She still wouldn't because she kept on thinking that he would change and they would live happily ever after.....Then God intervened....working through me I started talking to her and being her friend and listening to what she had to say about everything and not once did I tell her to break up with her boyfriend...but for some reason after talking to her a lot for 1 week she broke up with him..now its been 9 months later and she couldn't be happier going to church and the way things were, the next semester was the best for her in school with all aces. God worked through me to change her and myself.....just AWESOME!!!!"
Well the advice I need is that I still tend to have this attraction to her physically and personally but I know God wants us just friends, what do I do about this feeling?!?! I have prayed a lot about this but I'm really not sure what God wants me to do about this...maybe just stick it out.. Because I just can't rid myself of it. (Keeping in mind I already have talked to her about this and she feels the same way in that we should just be freinds and nothing more.)
Attraction does not automatically mean "we should be together as a couple". Given that it seems that you have invested alot emotionally into this, I'm not surprised. But sometimes, really caring for a person means doing what's best for them (even if it may not include you in the final outcome). One thing I've learned is that we can't nudge or push God's will to fit us or our feelings. 
