Need prayer... for my personality

[blerg1234]

Ok, well basically I'm gonna quite my girlfriend (who I agree with) on this.

"When I first started going out with you, I thought you were a nice, caring, understanding Christian and a nice guy. I was wrong."

and the sad thing is that I completely understand why she said that. We're not breaking up, she's stuck by me for the last six months. We both really love each other and I really need to get my act together.

Here's I suppose a little summary of my problems:

1. I'm too stubborn

2. I'll argue the point if I don't quite realise I'm wrong (even though she usually knows better!!)

3. I'm intolerant of others' problems, even though I try to be it doesn't show and this is something I really hate about myself. It's really frustrating both for Nicole and myself and I really want to make this better.

4. I don't think before I act - I don't consider other people, I don't consider the consequences of my actions, I don't think about what I say before I say it. These are the major points in this regard. It's something I really need help with.

5. I spend too much time blaming my problems on being stupid and having a short attention span (which in my opinion, both are real problems). I really need to work at not allowing these things to cause problems instead of just blaming them for the problems all the time.

6. I get myself into situations that I lie to her about. I'm too weak to admit that I'm lying and that I'm getting things wrong. I just can't bring myself to admit it, so I really need to stop getting myself into those situations in the first place.

My life is REALLY starting to frustrate me at the moment! I love Nicole with all my heart and I know that I need to treat her better. The only reason we're still together today is because she really truly loves me (even though I don't deserve it, and I know it). I want to change to keep us both happy. She doesn't feel sorry for me - and she's not afraid to tell me what she thinks. She simply says that it's no longer her problem and I need to get these things straight myself since she's tried to help and tolerate it in the past but I haven't gotten very far.

Thanks guys!

 

[JillLars]

I'll pray for you

Just remember that no one can make you change except for you.

My advice to you would be to take it one step at a time, if you try to change all at once, you might fall hard and give up completely, pick one small thing that you want to do, like next time you want to argue with your girlfriend, bite your tongue, even if you know you're right, just bite your tongue, change the subject of something, eventually you will get better at learning to pick and choose your battles. This is something my fiance and I both have a problem with so we've both been working on it because fighting over stupid stuff gets really old after a while.

 

[Mike_41786]

God Bless you in your time of need, may God expand you territory with him. May he bring you peace and spiritual maturity in your needy state. We can't change anything, give it to him. Be still and watch God work! Trust and believe that you are being changed!