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broken_one

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I've seen photos of you on here before and you never came across as being overweight to me. Maybe these guys know that you are sensitive about your image and always worrying about not looking good, so call you overweight because they know it will get to you. Anyway, don't let immature people like them bother you, there are so many of them out there that you just have to learn to live with them and brush it off. :)

If they don't have healthy diets and exercise then you will be the one laughing later on! :thumbsup: Good on you for taking positive steps. I am trying to do the same. I cut sugar out of my diet for a few days and lost weight from that but unfortunately I had a few biscuits today. :doh:
I guess so. Today was not a good day on any level, even anxiety (somehow....no idea what happened).

Their dickishness continues today, of course.
I think you look fine, you have a nice picture. You don't look fat to me and even if others think you do just ignore what they are saying. Ignoring an unkind word will always make someone think why you didn't react to it. Make them think
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People who make fun of someone's weight is immature and are disrespectful people. I would talk with them about it. Also, I don't see how you are fat.
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When they say these things, what do you do?
I get upset, because it hurts! And now they see me as an obstacle to their ladies process. Apparently I'm too creepy or something. WTH.
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Kick them in the face. WAIT - get Ishida to come kick butt with his swords and other weapons of coolness.

Or, ya know - tell 'em to stop/get new friends/etc.
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I'm sorry, and just know that I know how you feel!

PS. You are not fat/overweight/etc by the way.
Thanks.
I hate it when people make fun of others for being fat. Most of the time, the ones who say that are no better off in terms of personality.
Yeah but they're guys....what am I supposed to do? I've got months, and then I'm done. Thank God.
 
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Everybody guy needs to get punched in the face once in his life. Maybe it's their turn for a hurting.

Otherwise there is nothing you can do. Any normal person knows not to do what they are doing. They feel powerless and need to feel powerful. Their life is painful so they need to make someone else feel pain. Just let them get their jollies because nothing you SAY can stop them.

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[Thank you Eyre. You are so right. There is nothing you can SAY that will solve this. Now the point I never got to: There is nothing you can DO either. Ignore them. That is what I thought I said in a round-about-way and now I realize I didn't. I really told you to punch their lights out. oops. Thanks again Eyre.]
 
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I get upset, because it hurts! And now they see me as an obstacle to their ladies process. Apparently I'm too creepy or something. WTH

I meant what sort of things do you do to help the situation? It's natural and ok to get upset, but that doesn't solve the problem you are facing. Talk with them.
 
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I meant what sort of things do you do to help the situation? It's natural and ok to get upset, but that doesn't solve the problem you are facing. Talk with them.
Actually, we talked a bit today but I'm not sure what to make of it. I'm seen as a liability but when I tried to ask why they really didn't know. The odd thing is that I usually have a better shot with women than they do, and they don't also have to work through a disorder while doing it. ;)
 
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Actually, we talked a bit today but I'm not sure what to make of it. I'm seen as a liability but when I tried to ask why they really didn't know. The odd thing is that I usually have a better shot with women than they do, and they don't also have to work through a disorder while doing it. ;)

Sounds immature to me. But them thinking you are a liability doesn't have anything to do with them calling you names. Instead of calling you names they could just keep their thoughts to themselves and live their lives.
 
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Another day, another round of aggravation....they broke into my room to start lifting my weights in the living room for when I got back from the store.

I really don't care about them using my stuff, but the fact that they're breaking into my room is making me uncomfortable. This time it was harmless, but what means that the next time will be?
 
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I've got people who make fun of me for being fat all the time, and they seem to think that acting like a bunch of idiots is cool. The second part I can always either shrug off or something, but the first part really hurts. How can I get them to stop?

Smite the sinners!
 
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Another day, another round of aggravation....they broke into my room to start lifting my weights in the living room for when I got back from the store.

I really don't care about them using my stuff, but the fact that they're breaking into my room is making me uncomfortable. This time it was harmless, but what means that the next time will be?


uh yeah thats not cool. Not only is that a serious invasion of privacy, it shows a complete and total lack of respect for you.

It may be time to start looking for a new place. If you're at a dorm, talk to whoever is in charge of housing to be found a new place. If you're renting, time to start pulling out the classifieds and look for something else.
 
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