Need Help With Something!!

[cnkk44]

My mother is crazy....she is a 14 year old girl in a 43 year olds body... Ever since i was little she has gone from one man to the next. I have moved over 40 times and gone to 13 different schools before i actually graduated...I have seen her raped, beaten, thrown from one end of the room to the next, black eyes, bloody face and all. Her latest boyfriend put a gun to her head. I am 24 now and learned it would be best to stay away from her because she just doesn't learn...She cares more for men than she does for her three girls...my youngest sister she sent to boarding school, the middle one moved 18 hours away, and i am royally confused but still live close by. Now that my mother is single again...i am important to her. I feel bad that she asks me to hang out and do things with her and i blow her off. But that is what she has done to me her entire life. She has left me homeless, sold my things behind my back, stolen from me, lied to me. I just don't know what to do....she is my mother??? I am trying to be a good person, a believer. How do i deal with my own mother though...i can't even trust her....yet she makes me feel bad and doesn't understand why i am so distant....How could i possibly explain to her what she has done to me...I don't want to upset her...but she is the reason i am depressed and stressed and the reason i don't trust people???????????????????????????????????

 

[Hackdaddy]

This is a difficult question. Have you talked to a counselor?

For your sake, you might have to maintain a healthy buffer between her and yourself until you can find a qualified professional or clergy to help you.

Parents should be coaches and capable of taking care of themselves. But we all know our parents fail us in one way or other.

I pray that you find the balance you need in this situation. I pray that God will give you wisdom and strength to deal with your broken heart.

Amen.

 

[Linus]

Dear Almighty Father in Heaven, I lift up our beloved sister in prayers to You. Lord, You are the Best Knower and Planner, guide everyone involved and bless them with wisdom and strength to deal with this in the best way. Thank You Lord for listening to this prayer!

 

[Avidan]

I pray that you find the balance you need in this situation. I pray that God will give you wisdom and strength to deal with your broken heart.

Amen.

Amen.

 

[SAVEDBYGRACE2]

even though she is your mother and she has hurt you, you are to forgive her just as Christ forgave you,but you do not have to live in her practicing sin,the bible says we are not to be unequally yoked, and right now if you are walking in spiritually as a christian and she is not then you 2 are unequally yoked, you can still love her but i would avoid her when she is in practicing sin,that does not mean do not visit her or spend time with her but to set some boundaries do not let the enemy come at you in this way. i know it will not be easy but i pray that GOD would give you the courage needed to stand in this situation and i pray that GOD would give you guidance and peace. HOLD ON TO JESUS AND WALK RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR MOM AND EVENTUALLY ON THE LORD'S TIME SHE WILL REPENT AND ACCEPT JESUS IN TO HER HEART,i hope i have not offended you and i hope that you will stay strong in JESUS for your mom. i love you sweetie and i will be praying for you. keep us updated and hang in there GOD IS ON YOUR SIDE!!!! (((hugs))))

 

[covenantwmn]

I would agree with others here and say that you need to forgive her, because that is what the Bible teaches. That doesn't mean you are condoning her behavior, just that you forgive her. It also doesn't mean letting yourself in for more. It can be just between you and God, I doubt if she realizes she needs forgiveness. I pray that the LORD will guide you, give you wisdom and be your closest confidant through all these things. Lean wholly on Him, stay in His Word and in church, He will help you. Blessings.
in Him, Leslie

 

[TammyInChrist]

I cannot begin to imagine what you have been through ....I pray that God mends your broken heart and shows you how to forgive your mother....I also agree with another poster that said get counsel and pray that someone would be a help while you are with her, someone to go along with you to help keep things in perspective. I also pray that God gets a hold of your mom and shakes her world, that he would bring her to her knees in repentance and send labourers around her to share with her the love and acceptance of Jesus no matter what lifestyle she has lived...In Jesus Name

 

[Im-revived]

First of all love you need to forgive her, its not her fault shes like this.

Your mums ill, I'm a counsellor and I work with people with Mental Health Problems, this is what your mums suffering, she has a severe personality disorder and needs help if she'll let you talk to her about it. You mentioned a couple of ages ie a 43yr old women in a 14 yr olds mind, if shes acting like this it sounds like shes in some kind of time warp were she has been hurt, damaged, suffered severe lonliness or let down at a younger age. This has affected her so badly that she is still stuck with those same feelings, i.e needing attention and love, until she gets help this may not improve. Try and encourage her to see the doctor or you go on her behalf and explain how worried you are, then take it from there, but this is definately a personality disorder brought on from her past. If she gets help, yes she'll need your support, but don't put yourself in a situation were you are stuck with her 24/7, just love her and you also ask for advice on how to help from your doctor wether she gets and wants help or not.

Lord I pray for this situation and ask you'll give her mum the want for help, in the meantime I pray that cnkk will try to understand the deep rooted feelings of her mum without feeling angry, hurt and upset with her. Amen

Im-revived

My mother is crazy....she is a 14 year old girl in a 43 year olds body... Ever since i was little she has gone from one man to the next. I have moved over 40 times and gone to 13 different schools before i actually graduated...I have seen her raped, beaten, thrown from one end of the room to the next, black eyes, bloody face and all. Her latest boyfriend put a gun to her head. I am 24 now and learned it would be best to stay away from her because she just doesn't learn...She cares more for men than she does for her three girls...my youngest sister she sent to boarding school, the middle one moved 18 hours away, and i am royally confused but still live close by. Now that my mother is single again...i am important to her. I feel bad that she asks me to hang out and do things with her and i blow her off. But that is what she has done to me her entire life. She has left me homeless, sold my things behind my back, stolen from me, lied to me. I just don't know what to do....she is my mother??? I am trying to be a good person, a believer. How do i deal with my own mother though...i can't even trust her....yet she makes me feel bad and doesn't understand why i am so distant....How could i possibly explain to her what she has done to me...I don't want to upset her...but she is the reason i am depressed and stressed and the reason i don't trust people???????????????????????????????????

 

[pyroqueen2423]

i will pray for you and your mom

 

[njcl]

sorry to say this but your moms an idiot,a silly woman laden with sins,its lucky none of her b/f have raped you or your sisters,seen this before and thats what usually happens

she needs true conversion before she ends up being hospitilised by those men she services or worse murdered,call on the christ to drop her

p.s this is not a prayer reply just general advise

 

[JPPT1974]

Dear Almighty Father in Heaven, I lift up our beloved sister in prayers to You. Lord, You are the Best Knower and Planner, guide everyone involved and bless them with wisdom and strength to deal with this in the best way. Thank You Lord for listening to this prayer!

Help our sister to lean on you
That you know what is best for her
And that she will know what to do next
In your name & will, amen.