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Need help with mom

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I would like to first start off with a little about me. I have been a "sleeping Christian" for the last three years give or take a few months due to some extreme mental trauma I experienced. Over the last few months I have been trying to reconnect with God and get back on track, still haven't found a church. At times I feel numb and uncaring and have difficulty having faith, so, yes I am depressed but was getting better. In my path to reconnect with God I have been getting attacked by Satan almost in every which way, from problems at my job, to my ex, my pets, and now to my mom.

My mom and I are/were very close and talked to each other several times a day, she is my best friend. She was the only person I could go to for sound advice and reasoning. She has been going through some things herself over the last two years. Her sister and brother assisted in the literal murder of her great uncle by refusing him treatment for an illness he had. All for money. When my mom tried to do the right thing and confront her sister about these wrong doings, her sister turned on her and also turned much of the rest of the family against her (too long of a story to post here). This sister continually causes problems for my mom and the injustice of the whole situation has quickly compromised my mom's health.

The stress of it all has been eating away at her for two years and she can't seem to put it behind her. She now suffers from fatigue, many of the bones in her feet are breaking when she barely does anything, she is angry all the time, threatens suicide, running away, and has a tendency to take simple things very personally (even if no harm was meant). She won't go to the doctor due to financial reasons and no health insurance. She thinks none of us want her, which I tell her we do all the time. I know she is depressed and I have been praying with her and for her, trying to be the one person she can get through this with.

Friday, this sister of hers had the nerve to call my dad and ask him if he wants a guitar, he told her no and that was about the extent of the conversation (keep in mind none of us have spoken to her in two years). He was around his co-workers and admitted to my mom that he had to be nice to her because they were there. (If it were me I would've went somewhere out of earshot and told her to never call me again). Anyway, my mom is now leaving my dad, a marriage of 32 years because he didn't yell at her or hang up (or in other words, support her as a husband should). In her defense he has not supported her about other things either. so it is a combination of things.

I do think, the sister should be confronted about all the damage she has caused, but also believe there is a time and place for it and this was not it. I tried to reason this with her and that maybe my dad made a mistake. So, with that being said, my mom now refuses to talk to me (or him) because I was not supporting her well enough either (and not mad enough at my dad), and I feel she has disowned me, which is killing me and she knows it.

So, here I am, she and I need prayers, logical advice as what to do next. Please, please tell me if you see something I have done wrong, should I have went totally against my dad instead of giving him the benefit of the doubt? She threatens often not to talk to me anymore and that is not something I want, now it has happened and I don't know what else to do, there is no worse feeling in the world than your mom not wanting you anymore. I am afraid I am breaking from Satan's attacks again. I asked myself, what would Jesus do in this situation and I am pretty sure he would go and try to make things right, but I am out of words and she won't talk to me.
 
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It sounds like your in a bit of a mess. I smell the enemy dont you? :(

The enemy basically broke your entire family up from what I see. And I am truely sorry that happened. Its not over yet dont give up.

While I do not have too much to say say as far as advice, know that God hears your prayers and if anyone can help fix this mess its gonna be Him. It might take time, its not just one thing its a whole mess of issues I see. Keep the faith that God will help you. Of coarse they are gonna give in a little.

Keep in prayer:pray: And I will be praying for you as well :hug::hug:

Many blessings to you :holy:
 
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My dear sister, how I wish I could be there for you. Your family life is no different to millions of other Christian's lives.

Yep, Satan and his forces are in onto the act, and they are working behind the scenes all the time.

My dear sister, as much as you dislike those other members of your family, we have to forgive and love them.

Our Lord said to me to pray for those who I dislike and pray for those who dislike me.

Now that's the start point.

Your mum needs help, but because of finances and no insurance, then she is in a Catch 22 situation.

There is nothing you can do about the speparation of your father and mother, but you have to love them and forgive each other for what part they have contributed to their separation.

Spiritual Warfare is the answer to all satanic harassment and getting in your face.

Authority is our as a Child of God. You are the only one who can take that action.

There is no "quick fix", and no doubt your mum needs medical help.

I live in Australia and our health system is totally different to yours.

To right any wrongs that you may feel you have done, is to reconcile those wrongs with the person concern. Confess and repent your wrongs with our Lord Jesus Christ, and ask HIM for forgiveness. Also ask those who you have offended for forgiveness.

The simple commandments given to us by our Lord Jesus Christ is LOVE and FORGIVENESS.

Be blessed in Jesus' Name.
 
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In order for you to do anything, you need a healthy direction to work in. i know you know this, and is probably the reason your here. The problem is there are too many unknowns for anyone of us to accurately help your family situation, other than offering prayer. Your Parents need family or marriage counseling, if she won't agree to that then there is a good book outlining Healthy, biblical boundaries pertaining primarily to mothers. Although some of the changes that may need to happen can be tough for someone personally satisfied with there life. If your mother is suffering with depression then she may need to get personal help first before trying to "push" a bunch of new changes on her.. That is something your family and your mother will have to work out first.

Here's the book info:
The Mom Factor by John Townsend, Henry Cloud, and John Sims Townsend (Paperback - Oct 1, 1998)Buy new: $12.99 $10.39 51 Used & new from $3.22Get it by Tuesday, Aug 19 if you order in the next 22 hours and choose one-day shipping.Eligible for FREE Super Saver Shipping. (14) Books: See all 1,418 items
 
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