Need help, not sure where to post this..how far is too far?

[Liquid_Niki]

Hi all, I have a very sincere question. (I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right place.) My husband and I recently re-commited our lives to Christ. He just told me that he will quit his job in the future so that he can go out and preach. I asked how would we pay the bills, and he said that as long as he is doing God's will, he doesn't need to work, that God will make sure our needs are met. Is this biblical? Is this even right? (Bear in mind that neither one of us will be holding a job if he does this, as per his wishes.)
May be I am way off base, here. It's just that in two day's time, he has informed me that I can no longer watch TV, only praise CD's are to be played in our home 24 hours a day, nothing else, and I can't turn off the music, ever. Now, considering that I am in the worship ministry and generally love tons of music, this is even too much for me.
Should I just be a good wife, and let him do as he wishes? And are these ideals right in line with scripture? If he is right, then I will bow out, and discontinue having an opinion. Thanks guys! niki rae

 

[Ben_Hur]

Of course husbands and wives are to submit to on another. I would do a bit of study on legalism and then, lovingly, bring this to his attention. However, it could very well be that God is preparing him for something. You may want to find out where he thinks this "calling" is coming from.

 

[FatherApe]

To say the least, your husband's fanaticism doesn't follow the Christian walk of any Christian I've ever heard of. God would also have your husband be a good provider for his family, and to take care of his financial responsibilities. While God is certainly capable of providing for your soon to be full time minister, how will your husband react if he finds himself unable to make a living? Will he reject God then? Lots of considerations...

 

[Reformationist]

My husband and I recently re-commited our lives to Christ. He just told me that he will quit his job in the future so that he can go out and preach. I asked how would we pay the bills, and he said that as long as he is doing God's will, he doesn't need to work, that God will make sure our needs are met.

First off, congratulations on your recommitment to obeying the Lord. Secondly, find a stable Pastor that you and your husband trust and get him (your husband) some counseling, QUICK!! Your husband sounds as if he is seeking for a way to become a more faithful Christian with a desire to make that Lord a more influential part of your lives and the lives of others. I would strongly suggest, once again, that you both seek counseling from someone trained in the Word. Oftentimes people, albiet for noble reasons, look beyond the provision that the Lord has ALREADY given them in an effort to make God a bigger part of their lives. The family that the Lord has given us is our very focused opportunity to live godly lives. Your husband's first order of business should be to make sure that he is being wise with your finances. Quiting your jobs is NOT the wise thing to do. People make the false assumption that doing that type of thing is "trusting in God to provide" which is more a case of "missing the forest for the trees." God has ALREADY provided you and your husband with a means of ministering to others. It's called a job. Many people, for many different reasons, assume they know better than God so that are constantly "seeking the will of God" and striking out in unthought out directions in an effort to further the Kingdom of God. The truth is that this is NOT a godly path if it puts your family in jeapordy. It's one thing to take steps to prosper financially so that you may offer financial help to others. It's a whole different thing to handle your financial system in an ungodly way, WHICH INCLUDES QUITTING YOUR JOB WITH NO OTHER SOURCE OF INCOME, because you think that's what God wants. Now, if your husband's job involves doing something sinful then it would be obedient to find another source of income. If that is not the case then I would strongly suggest you and your husband find other ways to minister to God's creation. Perhaps some time spent volunteering at the local outreach ministry, the soup kitchen, visiting with the elderly, tutoring youths, etc.

Is this biblical? Is this even right?

Do you mean is this behavior found in the Bible or are you asking if this is the biblically obedient thing to do? If you mean the latter I would offer a resounding NO!! This behavior, while seemingly noble in intention, is most definitely NOT the biblically obedient path. Your husbands primary role in your family is as spiritual head of the household, which does include putting God at the center of your family's life, but it also includes being a godly in considering your family's needs. If he quits his job he will be putting your family at the mercy of a harsh and cruel world on the ASSUMPTION that it is God's will that you do so. Here's a good test when trying to determine whether the Lord wants you to something. Ask yourselves if you will need to be ungodly along the way to do what you THINK is the will of God. So, in your situation, will you need to be ungodly to go and preach the Word to others? Once again I will assure you that quitting your job and placing your family in financial jeapordy IS NOT the godly thing to do. In fact, it's sinful. That, right there, should tell you that this is NOT God's will. You should first seek to put yourselves in a position where you can minister to others without being a financial burden upon others, which is what you will most assuredly be if you have no income. Look at Paul's ministry. When he went throughout his travels he, as a respected Apostle of God, would have been well within his rights to expect total financial support from those he preached to. Despite that, he worked so that he would not be a financial burden upon others.

May be I am way off base, here. It's just that in two day's time, he has informed me that I can no longer watch TV, only praise CD's are to be played in our home 24 hours a day, nothing else, and I can't turn off the music, ever. Now, considering that I am in the worship ministry and generally love tons of music, this is even too much for me.

I think it's a good idea to filter what you let into your brain but I am also aware that taking such drastic measures is, IN NO WAY, a requirement to be obedient to God's Law. It sounds like your husband has become extremely legalistic in an effort to instantaneously cast off all sin from your lives. Once again, seek some face to face counseling from a trusted, TRAINED minister of God's Word.

Should I just be a good wife, and let him do as he wishes?

Blindly following your husband into a potentially financially dangerous endeavor is not being a "good wife," even if his reasons are selfless. The godly thing for you to do would be to encourage your husband to channel his desire to minister to others into a more focused direction that will enable the two of you to continue to be financially stable. You should be righteous in your actions and help to sanctify your husband by devoting some time outside of your work schedules to ministering to others.

Niki Rae, the best thing you can do right away is speak to your husband and encourage him that the first thing the two of you should do is seek counseling from a trusted minister.

Hope that helps,
God bless

 

[Svt4Him]

If your husband is called to ministry, first thing to do is get involved in a good church. I say good to warn about some that are terribly dogmatic in their extra-Biblical beliefs. Once you find a good church, go serve there for a while. If he wants to be great, be a servant to all. I recommend reading Purpose Driven Life, and, although I disagree with the theology, I don't find anything wrong with the tv and music thing from a Biblical point.

 

[Ben_Hur]

Oh, I forgot to mention. Legalism, IMO, is usually a sign of a LACK of faith.

 

[Lyle]

Of course husbands and wives are to submit to on another.

Where do you draw that out of? The wife is to sumbmit to the Husband, always (Unless the Hunsbands wishes are directly against God's law).

Hi all, I have a very sincere question. (I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right place.) My husband and I recently re-commited our lives to Christ.

Congrats *claps*

He just told me that he will quit his job in the future so that he can go out and preach. I asked how would we pay the bills, and he said that as long as he is doing God's will, he doesn't need to work, that God will make sure our needs are met. Is this biblical?

If it is God's will He's doing, then God will provide. Though it's not god's will for everyone to go out and preach, so if he is drawing it off of the fact that He thinks everyone is called to be a pastor, no it may not be God's will. You both need to follow God's leading. If you felt called to ministry, then go and don't look back. You will know if it's God calling you to something.

Is this even right?

If it's not God's will, I wouldn't think so. But if that's where he (You husband) feels led, or will go. I will not usurp the authority that he has given you husband by sayinf he's wrong to preach.

May be I am way off base, here. It's just that in two day's time, he has informed me that I can no longer watch TV, only praise CD's are to be played in our home 24 hours a day, nothing else, and I can't turn off the music, ever

The Bible says if that's what he wants, that what you should do. Remember, God has put him as your head, you are to obey and respect him, as the church does Christ, or Christ to the Father. To rebel, is to usurp God's will and plan for the family, and go against His cmmands..

Now, considering that I am in the worship ministry and generally love tons of music, this is even too much for me.

Go to him, and express the way you feel about it...

Should I just be a good wife, and let him do as he wishes?

It's kinda like an Oximoron. I'll answer this yes and no. As his wife you are to obey him. But also as his wife and helper you need to warn him of the dangers that may arise from such a move... Though if you and he are both sure it's God's will, then go for it. God will provide just as he did with Abraham...

f he is right, then I will bow out

Pray.....


It's like with my parents. We lived in california at the time (I was about 2), my father worked in Wiston Cup and his boss wanted to move out to North carolina (some 3000 miles away). My mother was against such an idea, and didn't feel right about it. moving into a new land, where we didn't know anyone (even more so it was in the south).
This happened on three different occasions, until at loast my mother and father felt it was the Lord's will. So we packed up everything we owned, sold what we couldn't fit, and set out into a new land. The thing is we didn't have a place to stay, we didn't know anyone, had never been here, had very little money. It was more like blind faith, but it was the best move of our lives (my family)....

You have a role to play too, see what you are called to do in the Bible...

 

[Liquid_Niki]

Thanks for all the input, everyone My hubby and I talked, and he told me that the reason for not having TV was to keep his mind on good things, (which I do think is good), however, he agrees that some TV (comedies, etc.) is a good thing, so we struck a compromise.
Also, we talked about the not working thing, and after thinking on it and praying, he has realized that we do need a steady income (we are already very poor and struggling to make ends meet, and that's with each of us working).
I think also that he could feel that I was feeling very "controlled", for lack of a better word...We usually discuss things together, as a unit before making decisions, and I did really feel sorta left out on this one. Discussing it together and making our final decision together made me feel so much better than "being told" what to do. The ultimate decision still remained his, but at least I was included in it this time
Thanks to all of you, for all your info, and for giving me different angles to look at this from. I really appreciate it!

 

[Judilyn]

Reformationist had lots of good advice. Please follow it.

If this is God's will for your family then yes God will provide. BUt if not then you're headed for disaster. Also keep in mind that being in ministry is NOT an easy road it takes a lot of hard work and much sacrafice.

I for one believe that you cannot appoint yourself a five fold ministry gift, you have to have a calling on your life to do so.

On the other hand all of us are called to tell others about Christ but not as a pastor, evangelist, etc. Just as a witness for Jesus.

Please seek Godly counsel about this, it is a major decision.

EDIT
(Your last post and this one came in at the same time. Glad to hear that he is thinking more clearly now)

 

[colossi3]

Hi all, I have a very sincere question. (I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right place.) My husband and I recently re-commited our lives to Christ. He just told me that he will quit his job in the future so that he can go out and preach. I asked how would we pay the bills, and he said that as long as he is doing God's will, he doesn't need to work, that God will make sure our needs are met. Is this biblical? Is this even right? (Bear in mind that neither one of us will be holding a job if he does this, as per his wishes.)
May be I am way off base, here. It's just that in two day's time, he has informed me that I can no longer watch TV, only praise CD's are to be played in our home 24 hours a day, nothing else, and I can't turn off the music, ever. Now, considering that I am in the worship ministry and generally love tons of music, this is even too much for me.
Should I just be a good wife, and let him do as he wishes? And are these ideals right in line with scripture? If he is right, then I will bow out, and discontinue having an opinion. Thanks guys! niki rae

colossi3: Ap. Paul did a lot of preaching - traveling as well, yet he kept right on making tents for his own support - and to support others.
Another thing, a minister of the Gospel ought not be a novice - God does no send out people who don't know the difference between outward and inner worship. (The former leads to hypocrisy if he persists in it), and love of God and his word.
He must allow others to worship God in their your own way. In Mark 9:38, 39 John says to Jesus, 'Master, we saw one casting out devils in your name and we forbid him because he does not follow (with) us.' Jesus said, 'Forbid him not for no man who does miracles in my name, can lightly speak evil of me. He that is not against us, is on our side.'

Besides, as Paul says, "To his own master, each man stands or falls."
We don't all learn at the same pace; or in the same order; his kind of teaching turns people against God. THere is no tyrant like a religious tyrant. Speak to a pastor with a reputation of preaching the Gospel. May God be with you.

 

[Reformationist]

Reformationist had lots of good advice. Please follow it.

Thank you Erin. That's very sweet of you to say.

God bless,
Don