Need good advice from all you 40 somethings

[JulieMarie]

My heart is extremely troubled by a work situatiuon. I like and have become attracted to a co-worker over the past two years. I believe he feels the same about me but we both work in a christian work place. I know we both know this is wrong because we're both married and any contact beyond just friendly co-worker stuff could cost us our jobs . I know just thinking about this person has become sinful and each and every day I pray that God would put these thoughts out of my head. I have a very difficult but loving husband that has a bad temper. It seems whenever we have problems I find myself thinking of my friend at work. Yes my hubby and I are trying to work things out. I can't get over how nice this man at work has been to me and the nice things he has done for me. Maybe he's just a nice guy and I have a hard time with that. I love my job and my ministry and do not want to quit. How do I get these thoughts out of my mind. I pray every day for forgivness and help. Just this past week my co-worker got me a book for my birthday and incrcibed in it "Happy birthday with love your brother in Christ." This bothered me since I am not used to the love thing except with relatives and close friends. Yet at the same time it made me feel good because I like the man. I know about all the bad stuff that comes with cheating and adultry. I feel like I have a real connection with this person and I know it is wrong to like someone else especially when we are working on the same staff. How do I create a clean heart within myself?

 

[MMXII]

Find another job.
Cleave only to your husband.
Ask your husband's forgiveness for thinking these thoughts about another man.

 

[Heart of a Seeker]

I think Dawn is absolutely right.

I've been in this kind of position. Above all things - guard your heart. Pray that God will show you the TRUTH in this situation. You aren't only in the position to hurt others - you will hurt yourself. I'll be praying for you.

 

[smiledaily]

Praying for you JulieMarie.

 

[porterross]

Will your husband go to couple counseling with you so you can tell him that you're feeling less loved by him than you need?
Maybe he doesn't realize that he might be taking things for granted. Many men are less complicated when it comes to reinforcement of emotional commitments I'm afraid. Your husband needs to hear that his lack of nurture is hurting you, but it may take some time to sink in. Pray that God will help him see you more clearly.