Hello, i could really benefit from Godly counsel. I am currently dealing with an internal struggle that has me feeling defeated. I am a male that struggles with looking at females. I rarely allow the looking to turn to sexual thoughts, but i feel the looking is just as bad. I feel the holy spirit convicting me every time it happens. I am particularly drawn to curvy women that dress trendy. I have read many articles by Godly men that seem to accept that as long as you don’t allow sexual thoughts to happen you are just having a normal reaction as the creator intended. I just feel as if the war for my soul has reached a fever pitch and i want to be sure that I surrender to the will of God and not my flesh. Any help is greatly appreciated.
Girls are especially sore about the way men look at them, because of what the world has become in that way. Even if you say that you don't have sexual thoughts, but you say you are particularly drawn to look at curvy women, that you are looking at what they are for the purpose of physical beauty .. and that's not so bad by itself, as though a person who drives a fancy car gets people looking at their car. That's natural. But it's not natural for guys to be looking at girls as though they are cars that they would like to drive, it is rather sinful, because we are all people and the girl has a natural right to be valued as the person she is, regardless if she is curvy, tall, short or whatever.
So, what happens in the girl's mind when she is walking around, and people are looking at her that way.. it feels as though the world doesn't see her for the person she is, and they all are secretly enjoying her looks, and she thinks that they are going to be thinking of her later on that day. Plus, there is something a bit filthy about the spirit in guys who look at people that way, and if she is seeing that lust spirit in every guy, that's a bit of a filthy world she has to live in.. she isn't seeing the kind, caring image of God that we are made to be .. and you are contributing to that.
So you can imagine that might be uncomfortable for her, and I would even say that if you do have honest intentions, there is an opportunity for The Holy Spirit to convict her when she makes that judgement. But, there also is something else going on within your conscience that is telling you that the way you look at her is unhealthy - that is because you don't understand that, and because you are being convicted by your conscience, she is being justified in her objection.
You still are looking at the body and not the soul.
