Need Christian Advice really Bad!

[Gatorgal]

To make a long story short... This past summer my husband and I took in 4 children. We had them for 6 months then we had to let them go back into the states custody. The oldest made some threats and it was not possible for us to continue the care. I have not spoken with the kids since Oct. Day before yesterday the oldest calls me and says that the courts approved it for her to come over Spring Break. I was just floored!!!!! I spoke with the foster mom and she said that it was all true, she could come. I just can not have her in our home. My boys will be home from college for their spring break. I did tell them that I would come and pick her up and that she could stay with her sister, but now I am having second thoughts about even getting involved in any way. Please send some Christian advise my way.

 

[Father Rick]

As the former foster parent of 18 kids... and the former manager of a children's home... let me throw in my $0.02.

First, before you do anything, contact the children's case manager and find out what kind of guidelines they require for any children under to state oversight to stay with you. Usually, there are very strict rules about not only the people who are providing care (yourself) but also the location.

For instance, if your home has an approved homestudy on file then the children can stay there. If it is at another home, even if you are the one supervising, they may not be able to stay. This is especially true if there is an existing court order regarding placement of the child. That court order may have very narrow allowances for the child's location.

 

[rushingwind62]

To make a long story short... This past summer my husband and I took in 4 children. We had them for 6 months then we had to let them go back into the states custody. The oldest made some threats and it was not possible for us to continue the care. I have not spoken with the kids since Oct. Day before yesterday the oldest calls me and says that the courts approved it for her to come over Spring Break. I was just floored!!!!! I spoke with the foster mom and she said that it was all true, she could come. I just can not have her in our home. My boys will be home from college for their spring break. I did tell them that I would come and pick her up and that she could stay with her sister, but now I am having second thoughts about even getting involved in any way. Please send some Christian advise my way.

My sister was a foster oparent and she just had to let the child go back. The child lied constantly and kept getting into trouble. It is not easy to let the child go and one struggles with unecessary guilt.

You were threatened. If I were you I would not take this child back or have anything to do with them. Obviously this child has no respect for you.