need advice

[silvervanity]

when I was young, I got really really sick. my mom met a psychic person, and she told my mom that "the sick one(me) would grow up to be healthy, have a job related to helping people, have a very lovely wife and 2 kids". I'm also very selfless, if that helps or not. so I was at the airport yesterday and she told me the words that the psychic girl had said. for some reason it really bugs me because, I rejected a girl that i really loved - i don't even know why. I've achieved the dumbest act in history award.

so I was in the backseat of the car looking up at the stars (I'm not on good terms with god, but I have faith and rely on him a lot), and asked if this girl was the person I should marry. I know this might sound like I'm getting ahead of myself, but I don't want to throw away a golden opportunity again. so I begged him to tell me whether this is the girl I should marry/be with again or not, I begged for an answer or a sign. a few minutes later, I looked out the left window of the SUV and I saw a sign with her last name on it. I was driving in the middle of no where and I honestly believe this was god, not coincidence.

but, now the cards are different because she might not be interested in me anymore and she has a boyfriend. I can't believe I messed up so badly.

I need some help because I really dunno what to do. she stands out from any other girl i've ever met and I cannot compare her to other women. any advice would be helpful, or just a few words to put me in the right direction. also, any stories you people know from the bible that would help me out - please tell me them.

I really only want one thing in life, so please help me get it. thx, god bless.

 

[ModestGirlsRock]

I have two stories to share. They can both be found in the old testament, but, at the top of my head, I can't think exactly where these stories can specifically be found.

The first one is about Jacob and how he waited 14 years to marry the woman he loved, Rachel, as he signed onto a 7-yr contract to work on a man's field so he could marry the younger daughter. However, he was tricked into marrying the elder daughter, Leah, as it was customed anyway to have the oldest daughter married off first before any other daughter could get married.

The second story is about Abraham and trying to find a wife for his son Issac. He sent one of his servants in search of a proper bride. The servant prayed for specific signs that would signal the woman he was looking as "the one". That specific sign was the giving of water to the servant and his camels. As the servant approached a well and asked Rebecca for water, she offered the water to him and his camels.

What can we learn from these stories?

First, we learn that we must be patient. God will give us the right person to us when it is right for us because God knows what, when, and who is right for us. We may feel lonely at times because that person may not available at the time that we want them to be, but the wrong thing at the right time is still the wrong thing...or person. Have faith that God knows what He is doing when it takes time for the right person to come along, or for you to have the right time to pursue the "right" person.

We can learn from the second story is that we should, like the servant, be specific in our prayers about anything and everything. Now, we don't always know what to pray for, but thankfully, God already knows what we need. Personally, I think Christians should pray specifically so we're not left in confusion and more doubt than what we began with.

 

[Sketcher]

When you're looking for signs like this, you'll find them whether they truly are signs or not. Your judgment is not sober, so get rid of this sign stuff. God doesn't deserve the blame for our own foolish assumptions.

Give her a call. If it works out, it works out. If not, then it's time to move on.

 

[stephanieamber]

First: PRAY.
Second: be honest with her.

I like the above comment, about looking for signs. It's the same reason why scientists never have opinions; you can make truth out of anything.

 

[awakenurspirit]

I am going to be honest with you.

1. Do you believe in the devil? Most people think he comes at us and attacks us with evil... with a pitchfork and a red tail. That is not true. Satan can look like the most pleasing thing you have ever seen. He can easily fool you. He looks like an angel of light but in reality, he is not. He is patient and knows exactly how to fool you. He is the father of lies.
2. Do you know what the armor of God is? (Ephesians 6: 10-18) 10Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. 12For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. In order to understand and fight against the devil, you must have the armor of God on everyday and every moment. YOU MUST HAVE a relationship with Christ. There is NO OTHER WAY. You say your not in good terms with God. Well, turn around. Look up to Jesus. Ask for forgiveness. He will come to you with open arms. You may think he is not there, but he is. He loves you and wants you to follow him and rest under the shadow of his wings. It's your choice.
3. If you like this woman... pray that God's will be done. Not our own. Pray and ask God if she isn't the one (You must mean it), for him to remove the feelings from your heart. Don't trust a psychic (that is the devil lying) but what God says. HE ALONE controls all.
4. Also, God wants you to go to him in prayer. Speak to him as you would your best friend. Tell him how you feel. He is listening.
5. About the whole sign thing. (Matthew 16:1-4) The Pharisees and Sadducees came to Jesus and tested him by asking him to show them a sign from heaven.2He replied, "When evening comes, you say, 'It will be fair weather, for the sky is red,' 3and in the morning, 'Today it will be stormy, for the sky is red and overcast.' You know how to interpret the appearance of the sky, but you cannot interpret the signs of the times. 4A wicked and adulterous generation looks for a miraculous sign, but none will be given it except the sign of Jonah." Jesus then left them and went away.
6. (Luke 21: 34-38) 34"Be careful, or your hearts will be weighed down with dissipation, drunkenness and the anxieties of life, and that day will close on you unexpectedly like a trap. 35For it will come upon all those who live on the face of the whole earth. 36Be always on the watch, and pray that you may be able to escape all that is about to happen, and that you may be able to stand before the Son of Man." 37Each day Jesus was teaching at the temple, and each evening he went out to spend the night on the hill called the Mount of Olives, 38and all the people came early in the morning to hear him at the temple. You never know when Jesus will return. Be ready for his coming. Repent and give your life to God. Just believing isn't enough. Invite him to live in your heart. follow his will. Read your bible daily. Pray consistently. Pray and ask him to mold you and change you. be heaven bound.

I felt it in my heart to say these things. God loves you. Make peace with him. He wants you to.