Need Advice

[christiankate]

Hi all,
Is there anyway to make things not so awkward after a breakup. Because me and former bf are always in the workplace together, and it gets kinda awkward. I try to avoid him somewhat, but that isn't working too well . Any tips? Does it ever get less awkward? Thanks in advance

 

[Pope Gonzo]

Give it time, then talk to him about it. Don't be too forward, or it'll push him farther away and make things more awkward. If he's comfortable enough to talk about it, put it out in the open.

 

[Iceman_Aragorn]

yeah....i think no matter what you say, it's gonna feel awkward for a while anyways. It certainly will get less awkward, but not right away. The only thing you could do is act like nothing happened, and that you are friends again. The reason i say act, is because it would be an act, since you won't feel comfortable yet. But if you 'look' comfortable, he'll feel less awkward around you, and if he seems comfortable, you'll feel less awkward around him.

Or, if you prefer the non-overly-complicated method, as I'm sure anyone and everyone would/will say: Give it time.

 

[InTheFlame]

Practice and maturity are about all I can suggest. By maturity, I mean things like being polite and not shooting each other death stares during meetings It might help if you're both trying to give each other space, too. Sorry, that's not a great amount of help, is it? I've been there done that... it does get better (unless your ex is a psycho stalker who uses work time to get to you - and hopefully that's not the case!).

 

[Inperfected]

Mmm my suggestions are the above posts ones. It's hard... I was there and doing it last year
But it honestly does get easier.

 

[KristianJ]

Total avoidance could potentially be worse than just interacting with him in the sense that you are workmates. Could possibly affect your work performance too if you were in the future called upon to work in a situation where he was involved as well. The others have given plenty of good advice in terms of taking it slowly before you approach him again, but I guess it's up to you whether you decide to be focussed on your job or slightly distracted about the relationship you had.