Need advice!
My friend son when he was 10 or 11. [Now 25] Had touched his sister in a privet place on her body when she was 6 or 7. And the girl [now 20] has told her pastor and the pastor knows about it for 7 months and never tells the father of the children. But the father finds out from the daughter 7 months latter. What should the father do? Hes very anger at the pastor for not telling him. The father has spoken to the assistant pastor who says its there decision as leaders to not tell the father. Should this father be anger at the pastor & assistant pastor? He wants to leave the congregation saying he cant trust the leadership.
I dont know how to advise this friend. Can you help?
Im sorry pleas forgive me. Let me tell you what he told me. My friend said that his daughter was delivered from guilt and oppression from this act against her, at a youth confronts that the pastor son had helped in praying for his daughter. This is how the pastor found out about it. She finely told her father 7 months latter. He said [the father] his daughter said it has never happen again. All so, the father does not know if he should talk to his son about this, being it happen when they were kids. Or if he should just let it go. ????? What do I tell him?
PS, He said he and his daughter had a long cry and preyer, And he said he had to ask her forgiveness for not being there when she needed him. She forgive him.
PS, PS, He [the father] said that the pastors son misunderstood the girl as she was crying, and told his dad [the pastor] that the father had touched her. This was not cleared up till 3 months latter when the assistant pastor wife asked his daughter if it was her father that touched her. She said no. This man was also a deacon of our church, and it was about this time they ask him to steep down. When ha asked why? The pastor told him his family was not in order. But would not give him specifics for the reason. Just step down.
My friend son when he was 10 or 11. [Now 25] Had touched his sister in a privet place on her body when she was 6 or 7. And the girl [now 20] has told her pastor and the pastor knows about it for 7 months and never tells the father of the children. But the father finds out from the daughter 7 months latter. What should the father do? Hes very anger at the pastor for not telling him. The father has spoken to the assistant pastor who says its there decision as leaders to not tell the father. Should this father be anger at the pastor & assistant pastor? He wants to leave the congregation saying he cant trust the leadership.
I dont know how to advise this friend. Can you help?
Im sorry pleas forgive me. Let me tell you what he told me. My friend said that his daughter was delivered from guilt and oppression from this act against her, at a youth confronts that the pastor son had helped in praying for his daughter. This is how the pastor found out about it. She finely told her father 7 months latter. He said [the father] his daughter said it has never happen again. All so, the father does not know if he should talk to his son about this, being it happen when they were kids. Or if he should just let it go. ????? What do I tell him?
PS, He said he and his daughter had a long cry and preyer, And he said he had to ask her forgiveness for not being there when she needed him. She forgive him.
PS, PS, He [the father] said that the pastors son misunderstood the girl as she was crying, and told his dad [the pastor] that the father had touched her. This was not cleared up till 3 months latter when the assistant pastor wife asked his daughter if it was her father that touched her. She said no. This man was also a deacon of our church, and it was about this time they ask him to steep down. When ha asked why? The pastor told him his family was not in order. But would not give him specifics for the reason. Just step down.
