Need advice with this relationship??

[life&dreams]

Hello everyone. I posted a similar post of this before, but I am looking to get more opinions--(I'm 100% open to all suggestions! )

Anyway, here's the situation:
There's this girl---and then there's me... we are curious if it is the right thing to do to become entangled in a relationship. Also, we are both still teenagers. I am aware that the Bible doesn't say much on this topic. What are your ideas on this? All opinions (including Bible verses) would be appreciated.

Thanks!

 

[Alizera]

I think her not wanting to date until she's sure she wants to get married to you is a bit jumping the gun. Just because you date somebody does not mean you're marrying them. I think dating is a good way to prepare yourself for marriage so you can grow in a relationship.

Maybe she just doesn't want to date you because she's not attracted to you? And doesn't want to upset you? I dunno...hope you can figure it out.

 

[tessas212]

You are seeing this mindset more and more now... the idea you won't date someone until you are sure you will marry them.. when in fact, it is impossible to do that. Without spending so much time to them, without getting to know them in every way possible first, you won't know if you will marry them. That is why we date.

I had really really built a great foundation with my hubby before we started dating, and we started dating only because we both were very interest in a long standing, committed relationship that MAY lead to marriage,.. but that is no promise that you will get married. Just makes it more likely.. and maybe 'smarter' dating.

 

[life&dreams]

Thanks for your ideas so far!

Maybe she just doesn't want to date you because she's not attracted to you? And doesn't want to upset you?

No, I'm sure this is not the case.

You are seeing this mindset more and more now... the idea you won't date someone until you are sure you will marry them.. when in fact, it is impossible to do that.

How would you respond to people who say that they are waiting for God to reveal His plan to them?

 

[tessas212]

Exactly how I already have. You can think all you want that you will marry that person, but until you are actually married, and even after yuou are married... well.. divorce is by far NOT uncommon.

Basically society has defined marriage as no longer "until death do we part" but more of a "until we decided we can't stand each other any more or being together becomes inconvenient to our other goals do we part." Which as I see it means marriage is no more secure than dating. You tire of one, you move on to another. This is why I don't think the whole "security" argument is credible at all.

 

[ernest_theweedwhackerguy]

Hello everyone. I posted a similar post of this before in the Baptist section, because I was specifically looking for Baptist views on this, but I decided I would like to get more opinions--(I'm 100% open to all suggestions! )

Anyway, here's the situation:
There's this girl (and then there's me). We both have feelings for each other, but we (especially her) are curious if it is the right thing to do to become entangled in a relationship. Also, we are both still teenagers (although soon to be adults). She has told me that she wishes to be in a relationship, but that she just needs..permission (most likely in the Biblical sense). I am aware that the Bible says nothing against dating, as long as both are Christians, but so far it seems the advice she has received says it's best to be sure marriage will follow before dating. What are your ideas on this? Is it ok for us to develop into a relationship? I'd really appreciate some suggestions that might help rid her of her doubts, but again, all opinions (including Bible verses) would be appreciated.

And here's some background:
We're both Christians. She's Baptist, and I'm more Christian (nondenominational). I'm pretty new on the Christian scene (maybe a few years (6?)) but due to complications, I ended up turning away from God for some of those years. However, I feel I am beginning to pursue God again with a stronger determination. (I'll add more if needed)

Thanks!

Well, date her.
You won't know if you want to marry somebody until you've truly gotten to know them. This is what dating is all about.

Hold off getting married, and keep a relationship. You'll know if she's the one after 2 1/2 to three years in a relationship with her.

 

[christloved1122]

Having a relationship and Dating will help you both find out if your a true connection for each other or not. There is nothing wrong with entering a loving relationship, and its an absolute precursor to marriage. You need time to learn and grow together. Most people never find the one they love, or loose them and always wonder 'what if'. Give love chance my friend.

 

[life&dreams]

Well, date her.
You won't know if you want to marry somebody until you've truly gotten to know them.

Are there any verses?

Having a relationship and Dating will help you both find out if your a true connection for each other or not. There is nothing wrong with entering a loving relationship, and its an absolute precursor to marriage. You need time to learn and grow together. Most people never find the one they love, or loose them and always wonder 'what if'. Give love chance my friend.

thanks.