Need advice :o)

[Shulamite]

Okay, I've got a bit of a dilemma and need some advice! It's nothing heavy or serious, but it's a dilemma, nonetheless. I know this is rather off-topic from what we all usually discuss...but I just thought I'd post this here.

Most of you who know me, know that I subsitute teach for public school. Well, the other day, I received notification from the Spanish teacher at my son's middle school that she personally requested me in her classroom for 2 morning half days. (I speak Spanish fairly well and can carry out her lesson plans)... well.... my son caught "wind" of this news and is NOT happy. I am scheduled to teach the first 3 classes of the day and my son's class is the 3rd class of the day My son is begging me to cancel these sub jobs because of his worry that other kids in the class may tease him later. He's almost 13 and I can understand his feelings and don't want to dismiss them... however, the school system states that if you are requestd for a job and accept the job and then cancel, HR gets notified and it doesn't look good. My son was so sweet to sit me down and discuss with me how humiliated he'd be if I follow through with this.

I've prayed about it and I trust the Lord will guide me (He's never failed to!) If I go ahead and teach these spanish classes, it could open the door for more opportunities for me with this teacher through the school year... yet my son is really not happy!

ADVICE????? LOL

 

[Aimiel]

Your son will have to get used to seeing you in his Spanish class. If he's embarrassed by having his mother for a teacher, let it be no fault of yours. Be sure to let him know to be on his toes, because you CANNOT show him any favoritism whatsoever. I see no reason that you should change your job plans because he thinks he'll be embarrassed. I'm sure God merely wants to open his eyes to who his mother really is.

 

[Amylisa]

I would take the job and also let the staff involved know of your son's concern....if no one makes a big deal about it he shouldn't either. Tell him to just "play it cool" and not draw attention to himself or you and no one will think much of it! At least that's my 2 cents.

Has Yeshua told you if you should take the job or not?

 

[Shulamite]

Thankyou very much for your listening ear and giving me your POV on this.
It's appreciated!

 

[stormdancer0]

It is not your job to make your son happy. You have to be his parent. Part of being a parent is teaching them that there will always be things that make him uncomfortable. He needs to learn to get through it and get over it. It's a lesson my 21 year old is still learning.

 

[Sarah Louise]

Hello, how about giving it a trial run-your son might be pleasantly surprised at how you get on with the class-13 year olds don't know everything as they might think! x

 

[kisstheson]

I would take the job and also let the staff involved know of your son's concern....if no one makes a big deal about it he shouldn't either. Tell him to just "play it cool" and not draw attention to himself or you and no one will think much of it! At least that's my 2 cents.

Has Yeshua told you if you should take the job or not?

Sounds good to me.

 

[Shulamite]

Yeshua will make it clear to me..

I agree that parenting is not about always making your kids comfortable or making life easy. I have never done that. But what I do is pick and choose my battles.
I always ask myself, "Is this particular thing a sin? Is it a right or wrong issue?" before I lay down an ultimatum with my sons. They know they can communicate with me and because of that, they obey me when there is an issue that is demanding obedience.

Over issues like this, it's no biggie. I probably should not have even mentioned it

Whether I take it or not, there are other sub jobs! Always were and always will be. If my son had a rebellion problem or a sin issue in his life or a disobedient issue in the home, then that goes without question that it would be dealt with! Period! LOL But, this issue? Nah....not worth making issues over, and again I don't even know why I brought it up.

Yeshua will let me know what to do. Thanks again everyone for weighing in and listening!

 

[kisstheson]

awww...don't be so hard on yourself girlie girl... I likes ya!

 

[Shulamite]

awww...don't be so hard on yourself girlie girl... I likes ya!

100% back at ya, Amy....
I always thank the Lord for you and praise Him that our paths crossed!

 

[HOPEOF9]

"My son was so sweet to sit me down and discuss with me how humiliated he'd be if I follow through with this."

It bothers me that you felt it was sweet for him to say that you would "humiliate" him if you go. It was good of him to sit down with you nicely and discuss it, but to say it would humiliate him seems a bit harsh. Maybe he isn't looking at it as he should either. I think he should be proud of his Mother's talents and appreciate that his Mom can sub-teach. Not all people are bi-ligual...certainly not me...and that is something to be grateful for!

Be blessed and I hope it all works out!!

 

[kisstheson]

You BETTER thank Him Shuli!

Buy a painting? I make 'em myself. Gotta make a livin'!

 

[kisstheson]

"My son was so sweet to sit me down and discuss with me how humiliated he'd be if I follow through with this."

It bothers me that you felt it was sweet for him to say that you would "humiliate" him if you go. It was good of him to sit down with you nicely and discuss it, but to say it would humiliate him seems a bit harsh. Maybe he isn't looking at it as he should either. I think he should be proud of his Mother's talents and appreciate that his Mom can sub-teach. Not all people are bi-ligual...certainly not me...and that is something to be grateful for!

Be blessed and I hope it all works out!!

I'm not a parent but boys are funny like that. :o

 

[Shulamite]

"My son was so sweet to sit me down and discuss with me how humiliated he'd be if I follow through with this."

It bothers me that you felt it was sweet for him to say that you would "humiliate" him if you go. It was good of him to sit down with you nicely and discuss it, but to say it would humiliate him seems a bit harsh. Maybe he isn't looking at it as he should either. I think he should be proud of his Mother's talents and appreciate that his Mom can sub-teach. Not all people are bi-ligual...certainly not me...and that is something to be grateful for!

Be blessed and I hope it all works out!!

Let me clarify.... my son didn't say the exact words, "humiliate" to me. I should have worded that a bit more accurately. He sat down and tried to share his feelings with me that boys at 13 years of age in 7th grade find it a little embarrassing for someone's "mommy" to be in their class. Kids tease and unfortunately are a bit cruel at this age.

I feel that it IS important to let your children feel they can talk to you. It's part of being approachable as a parent. Being approachable and allowing your children to communicate with you does not in any way imply that you are a doormat as a parent... just my experience.

When it comes to "right or wrong" or "sin issues" against the Lord, there ARE NO compromises on my part. They have all been raised in the "fear and admonition of the Lord." and have a relationship with the Lord. But,the Lord has also given me the ability to sit down and have a heart to heart with my boys on issues and allow me to see things from how they feel as well. I think that authority should take into account those under that authority and be willing to listen, as long as it's not a sin issue you are compromising with.

Okay, parenting 101 done now..!
blessings

 

[Shulamite]

I'm not a parent but boys are funny like that. :o

Yes, indeed they are...
I hear the "oh, c'mon Mom.... try to understand it from my point of view"... and I look at his face emploring me to try to understand!
It's something.

 

[Shulamite]

You BETTER thank Him Shuli!

Buy a painting? I make 'em myself. Gotta make a livin'!

Believe me, I will be back for more paintings! Now.... I just need to get some income coming in and I will be back for more. Really tight on $$$ on my end at the moment too.. but, I will tell you this... As I was sitting on my couch the other night, I started thinking of the next picture I wanted you to draw for me!