Absolutely, mine is insured as well. We got engaged before either of us were Orthodox so I have the big honker LOL... actually my diamond came from my side of the family so hubs got off cheap LOL...
Upvote
0
-
Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
-
CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
Need advice from the ladies
- Thread starter OuterWater
- Start date
- Status
MariaRegina
Well-Known Member
I have one with the three different gold colors, not from that place and not as an engagement ring, but just as a regular ring that I wear a lot.
Doubles as a stress toy real well...
They look great, but don't they pinch? Are there three separate rings entwined?
Upvote
0
Rowan
You are my brethren ♥
- Apr 13, 2006
- 1,271
- 119
- 36
- Faith
- Eastern Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Private
- Politics
- US-Others
Upvote
0
No, mine don't pinch at least... It's three separate rings intertwined. They roll very smoothly...
Upvote
0
Xpycoctomos
Well-Known Member
But remember, you gotta make the proposal romantic... in some way. No, your future marriage doesn't depend on it... but women like this stuff... and men should learn to like it if they don't already. Do something cute/clever/etc...
If you feel pretty sure that she would say yes, and you are sure you want to ask her- get a ring FIRST. Make sure it is something that shows that you appreciate her and value her and her opinions (including not wanting a diamond). Get something of quality. That doesn't mean flashy. You want to make sure that this is something that, if she wanted to, she could pass on to her son to give to her daughter (if she wanted to) or be buried in or whatever. It should last. It's a symbol and as Orthodox symbols matter. If it cost a lot of money (like, more than 1000) consider getting it insured... it's not too expensive and if you can't... oh well. Not the end of the world.
Then once you have the ring... spring it on her in a way that would make her emotional. Somethingt hat she will always remember. Doesn't have to be exotic or like a plane flying a banner... but something that makes her feel special. It's not superficial to care about this stuff. Marriage is one of the most important steps you two will make in your life. So treat each step (including proposal) and symbol (including the ring) having to do with your marriage with great care and thought.
And have fun! Congratulations!
Xpy
If you feel pretty sure that she would say yes, and you are sure you want to ask her- get a ring FIRST. Make sure it is something that shows that you appreciate her and value her and her opinions (including not wanting a diamond). Get something of quality. That doesn't mean flashy. You want to make sure that this is something that, if she wanted to, she could pass on to her son to give to her daughter (if she wanted to) or be buried in or whatever. It should last. It's a symbol and as Orthodox symbols matter. If it cost a lot of money (like, more than 1000) consider getting it insured... it's not too expensive and if you can't... oh well. Not the end of the world.
Then once you have the ring... spring it on her in a way that would make her emotional. Somethingt hat she will always remember. Doesn't have to be exotic or like a plane flying a banner... but something that makes her feel special. It's not superficial to care about this stuff. Marriage is one of the most important steps you two will make in your life. So treat each step (including proposal) and symbol (including the ring) having to do with your marriage with great care and thought.
And have fun! Congratulations!
Xpy
Upvote
0
If you don't know it, enlist a friend of hers to find out her ring size...
I agree with Xpy, however, while it's awesome to have something special, be yourself. Women are not clueless... LOL... my husband wanted to take a walk instead of going to lunch when food is his number one thing in life... all those bells went off...
I agree with Xpy, however, while it's awesome to have something special, be yourself. Women are not clueless... LOL... my husband wanted to take a walk instead of going to lunch when food is his number one thing in life
... all those bells went off...
Upvote
0
F
fuerein
Guest
I've never understood the love affairs with diamonds. A typical preferred diamond (in other words: clear, no imperfections, etc) always seemed so boring to me when other gemstones and jewels are far more catching (IMO) with their colors and such. But, eh, I'm not a girl so what do I know about that.
Upvote
0
Philothei
Love never fails
....Xry I thought he wanted the LADIES perspective on that.... lol... And you are right personally I did not want attention to myself... like public places etc. BTW I never understood why they make it seem such a big deal... Popping the question that you guys already know it should not be difficult...
God bless,
Philothei
God bless,
Philothei
Upvote
0
MariaRegina
Well-Known Member
My husband really did not ask me in a planned romantic way.
We were talking about religious things relating to the fact that his dad had recently passed away. He was scheduled to fly home to visit his mom and family the next day.
Then he mentioned how he had hoped that his dad would have been alive to see him get married because his brother had never married and so there were no grandchildren to bear the family name.
I looked at him lovingly, because I knew he was still grieving for his dad.
Then he said, "I know that you want me to ask you to marry me, because I can see it in your eyes, but I had hoped to ask you by taking you to an expensive restaurant and proposing to you formally."
I told him that he didn't need to go to all that trouble, and that yes I would marry him.
You should have seen the smile that formed on his face.
He took me to dinner the next week after he had returned from the funeral,
and then we went shopping for the ring.
We were talking about religious things relating to the fact that his dad had recently passed away. He was scheduled to fly home to visit his mom and family the next day.
Then he mentioned how he had hoped that his dad would have been alive to see him get married because his brother had never married and so there were no grandchildren to bear the family name.
I looked at him lovingly, because I knew he was still grieving for his dad.
Then he said, "I know that you want me to ask you to marry me, because I can see it in your eyes, but I had hoped to ask you by taking you to an expensive restaurant and proposing to you formally."
I told him that he didn't need to go to all that trouble, and that yes I would marry him.
You should have seen the smile that formed on his face.
He took me to dinner the next week after he had returned from the funeral,
and then we went shopping for the ring.
Upvote
0
Orthosdoxa
Happy wife and mommy
- Feb 11, 2003
- 5,665
- 520
- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Eastern Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Married
Upvote
0
KatyaMartinka
Active Member
sounds similar to my husband and me. he never did the whole "romantic, formal proposal" thing. we'd talked about marriage, and kinda just agreed that we knew we'd get married. it was just one of those things where we both just knew.
and we picked out rings together, matching silver bands with Celtic knots.
Upvote
0
Dorothea
One of God's handmaidens
- Jul 10, 2007
- 21,649
- 3,637
- Country
- United States
- Gender
- Female
- Faith
- Eastern Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- US-Others
Hmmm....well, I'd suggest a simple gold or silver band with a small area where a few very small gems could be (flat against the ban, not protruding)...like saphires or something, since she doesn't want diamonds.
Upvote
0
-Kyriaki-
seeking answers in stillness
- Sep 30, 2002
- 6,181
- 388
- 37
- Faith
- Eastern Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Single
I am the girl that doesnt wear jewelry too...and I love my ring I also hate diamonds, partly for that reason and partly because they're my birthstone and I'm sick of them.
Ask, first. Let her help you pick, if she wants one I'm glad for mine, because we're having a loooong engagement, so it's good to have there as a symbol for the time being.
We broke the rules He never formally asked me, we just talked about it lots and he asked my dad and then we picked a ring. Mine's an oval sapphire with two tiny diamonds either side, australian diamonds They're little hearts, kind of cute.
I still think, ask her. Then go from there.
I also hate diamonds, partly for that reason and partly because they're my birthstone and I'm sick of them.Ask, first. Let her help you pick, if she wants one
I'm glad for mine, because we're having a loooong engagement, so it's good to have there as a symbol for the time being. We broke the rules
He never formally asked me, we just talked about it lots and he asked my dad and then we picked a ring. Mine's an oval sapphire with two tiny diamonds either side, australian diamonds They're little hearts, kind of cute.I still think, ask her. Then go from there.
Upvote
0
Saint Melania
The Church is Christ with us.
My husband took me shopping for a ring. He ended up mail ordering it, and so therefore got a larger one for less.
He was in the Air Force just before that, so didn't have a lot of money to spend. That was fine with me. Later, he bought me a plain band which was better when we had babies.
He was in the Air Force just before that, so didn't have a lot of money to spend. That was fine with me. Later, he bought me a plain band which was better when we had babies.
Upvote
0
Xpycoctomos
Well-Known Member
Oh!!! Hey! great to see you Inner! i missed you! Where've you been?
Upvote
0
MrJim
Legend 3/17/05
- Mar 17, 2005
- 16,491
- 1,369
- Gender
- Male
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Married
the plain mennonite folks around these parts don't "do" the jewelry thing~my old boss gave his fiancee a grandfather clock for an engagement present.
I asked him about the jewelry thing~he said he really didn't have a problem with wedding bands. He was a pastor, and it turned out once that he was visiting a lady in the hospital and she sorta took a shine toward him and he explained that he was married. She was embarrassed about it and said since he wasn't wearing a wedding band she figured he single
I asked him about the jewelry thing~he said he really didn't have a problem with wedding bands. He was a pastor, and it turned out once that he was visiting a lady in the hospital and she sorta took a shine toward him and he explained that he was married. She was embarrassed about it and said since he wasn't wearing a wedding band she figured he single
Upvote
0
the plain mennonite folks around these parts don't "do" the jewelry thing~my old boss gave his fiancee a grandfather clock for an engagement present.
I asked him about the jewelry thing~he said he really didn't have a problem with wedding bands. He was a pastor, and it turned out once that he was visiting a lady in the hospital and she sorta took a shine toward him and he explained that he was married. She was embarrassed about it and said since he wasn't wearing a wedding band she figured he single
I actually kind of like the way the Amish do the "you have to grow a beard when you get married" thing. You can take a wedding ring off and put in back on, if you shave your beard the wife would notice.
Upvote
0
Heh. I'm still trying to recover my old info so this name should be temporary but yea it's IP. I've been doin ok. Had some stressful times lately trying to build our new church and having the finances almost fall out halfway through. Lots of tempers flaring everywhere. Thank God it's almost finished! Pics can be seen at ww w.orthodoxchurchinsafetyharbor.org
Upvote
0
- Status
Similar threads
