Need advice from the ladies

[OuterWater]

Hey everyone. Lost the login info for my old account and dont use the email addy i had registered anymore so I'm back with a different name.

Anyhoo need advice. Let's say you're going to ask your lovely girlfriend to marry you. Let's say that your lovely girlfriend has made it clear from the beginning of your relationship that she hates the fact that our society makes it seem like men must buy jewelry for their women to be happy with them and also has stated that she will never wear diamonds because of the people who die in africa to get them and because she thinks that spending huge amounts of money on a shiny rock is an irresponsible waste of money.

What the heck do you do as far as engagement rings go for such a woman?

 

[Saint Melania]

a plain gold or silver band, hopefully ... that would do ...


for the wedding

 

[MariaRegina]

I have seen some women who are wearing another precious or semi-precious stone instead of a diamond.

Some like their birthstone (unless she has the diamond as a birthstone).


Then there are those man-made diamonds.

 

[tekiahteruah]

If she's concerned about unfair labor practices, maybe getting her a less expensive stone (not a diamond) from a fair trade jeweler like this one (as an example)?: http://www.leberjeweler.com/index.php3

 

[Thekla]

my "engagement" ring is a "silver" band from Woolworth's with a bandaid to make it fit. I think its beautiful


(I don't wear it, though, 'cause the "metal" its made of smells odd)

 

[OuterWater]

Awesome I'll check out that site. Her birthstone is Aquamarine....

 

[Orthosdoxa]

Lost the login info for my old account and dont use the email addy i had registered anymore so I'm back with a different name.

Who were you?

A plain band or fake jewels is fine.

I once saw a wedding ring that was just the letters of the name "JESUS" formed in a circle.

My engagement ring, which I picked out, had a ruby in the middle, a sapphire on either side, and two tiny (I mean miniscule) diamonds on either side of that. It was $110 on clearance. Could have gotten something just as pretty with fake jewels for even less.

OR.... If you're anywhere near Arkansas, take her to that diamond park where you get to keep what you find, and whatever you find, have it set on a plain band, so she knows that no one in Africa had to suffer to get the ring made.

 

[Monica child of God 1]

Hey everyone. Lost the login info for my old account and dont use the email addy i had registered anymore so I'm back with a different name.

Anyhoo need advice. Let's say you're going to ask your lovely girlfriend to marry you. Let's say that your lovely girlfriend has made it clear from the beginning of your relationship that she hates the fact that our society makes it seem like men must buy jewelry for their women to be happy with them and also has stated that she will never wear diamonds because of the people who die in africa to get them and because she thinks that spending huge amounts of money on a shiny rock is an irresponsible waste of money.

What the heck do you do as far as engagement rings go for such a woman?

An antique, simple ring might be an option to avoid conflict diamonds. Another bonus is that there was more variety in gems for engagement rings in the past. A man-made gemstone ring is another option. They've gotten really good at replicating what nature does to make diamonds.

M.

 

[MariaRegina]

I don't wear my engagement ring either.

On the other hand, I also wear a wedding band.

So, I have a plain gold band on my right hand, and a gold band with a row of 12 small diamonds on my left hand.

This happened when I sprained my right ring finger and could not wear that ring on my left finger. My priest told me to wear the wedding ring on my left finger, so we got a new ring for me.

Then I went to church and a guy thought I was unmarried because there was no ring on my right finger.

As soon as my right finger had returned to its normal size, I slide on my old wedding band.

So, now I sport a wedding ring on both hands.

 

[Tsarina]

Hey everyone. Lost the login info for my old account and dont use the email addy i had registered anymore so I'm back with a different name.

Anyhoo need advice. Let's say you're going to ask your lovely girlfriend to marry you. Let's say that your lovely girlfriend has made it clear from the beginning of your relationship that she hates the fact that our society makes it seem like men must buy jewelry for their women to be happy with them and also has stated that she will never wear diamonds because of the people who die in africa to get them and because she thinks that spending huge amounts of money on a shiny rock is an irresponsible waste of money.

What the heck do you do as far as engagement rings go for such a woman?

I told my husband when we were just dating that I personally find it a big waste of money if he were to buy me a big shiny rock. First of all, I hate wearing more than two pieces of jewelery, and second of all, a huge engagement ring is a waste of money, lols.

Therefore, my hubby got me a small white gold band with a tiny diamond in it... and that was perfectly fine with me! All that really mattered that the ring would stay intact and not turn into rust within the next few years, and that it would be blessed with Holy Water during the Bethrolment service.

Perhaps you can get her something small and doesn't cost an arm and a leg, and make sure the ring is good quality so it will last a lifetime.

 

[Khaleas]

I love the rolling rings...

http://www.rollingring.com/

 

[Xpycoctomos]

Outer... who were you originally?

 

[MariaRegina]

I love the rolling rings...

http://www.rollingring.com/

Do you have one of those?

 

[OnTheWay]

Don't know, my wife said the same (well except for the whole blood diamond thing). Went with my mom's advice on the subject and bought the ring anyway and she's still thrilled to death with it.

 

[Philothei]

I agree... with your girlfriend. I lost my diamond ring (my hubby throw it by accident down the garbage disposal ...sign). But that was agift from his uncle who was a Jeweler... The second time he bought me a ring... cubic zarconia... I only wear it rarely... I am not into jewerly as I lose stuff... I liked Khaleas idea of the triband ones... those are great ...

God bless,
Philothei

 

[Rowan]

I asked my roommate, since she IS that girl. The impression I got is ask first, ring later (if you really really want her to have a ring).

 

[Xpycoctomos]

I think it is awesome that your gf doesn't want one. I agree that the politics and humanity and abuse behind many of these diamonds is a good reason to nto want one. I think some people here have made many great suggestions.

 

[Khaleas]

Do you have one of those?

I have one with the three different gold colors, not from that place and not as an engagement ring, but just as a regular ring that I wear a lot.
Doubles as a stress toy real well...

 

[Xpycoctomos]

just a quick note... my wife's ring is insured and I am a tightwad and even for ME the price of insuring it is QUTIE insignificant for anyone with a semi-decent job. It's about 70 bucks a year. Not bad.

 

[MariaRegina]

I asked my roommate, since she IS that girl. The impression I got is ask first, ring later (if you really really want her to have a ring).

Hi, Mary

Have you been baptized yet?