Physical attraction aside, what makes you interested in a girl?
I get what you mean about body language but I think attraction should be more than the outside.
I would agree with you concerning inner qualities but given the current situation you're in at the moment, it's all outward appearance for now.
Until you get that first date, work appealing to his eyes. As a guy will not ask a girl out unless he see something he likes. The only other alternative would be to get to know him in a mutual environment for months or years as friends until you both find out each others inner qualities. However, for guys, this will take awhile to develop because guys fall in love with the eyes before falling in love with the heart.
God made guys visual for a good reason. We have to be that way in order for us to approach a woman and make something happen. He chose guys to be the pursuer and made women beautiful, Genesis 6:2. The males took the females as wives.
This is what happens in the begin. Two people on the street, a guy and a girl. Both see each other. All we see of each other are the outward appearances, we can't see their hearts or personalities, so we don't know the other's inner qualities.
Now, something has to happen in order for a relationship to begin. Since we cannot see each others inside yet, one of the two has to be attracted to the other person's outside. So with testosterone, guys are made to be visual. We're made to like what we see in females on first appearance, enough that it causes us to do something and initiate action. High testosterones can cause guys to fall in love with our eyes, everything at first is all about imagery. Women are visual too but nothing remotely close to guys.
Now look at this from another perspective. If guys aren't very visual and what attracts us initially are a woman's inner qualities, none of us would be able to find something attractive that would cause us to ask the other person out on a date since we can't see the inside. The world would stop going round and round.
Now once you get him to take you out on a date, then you both can talk about each other and find out each other's inner qualities.
Note also. Guys are very much attracted to a woman's entire body and not just the face, especially guys with higher testosterone. We look at everything, from the top of her head down to the end of her toes, even a woman's skin, which many guys don't seem to talk about. Her hair color, her hair length, and the hair style makes a difference. Her feet if she's wearing heels, does she have a nice pedicure, is it in a color we like, is it the right length, does she have a tan on her feet, or an anklet, or rings on her toes? So for the ladies out there that don't think they're as pretty in the face as the other girl, you can catch a guy with many other assets.
Keep this in mind. Generally this is how it works. Initially, we guys fall in love with our eyes, then months into a relationship, the woman begins to fall in love with the heart, then a year or years later, the guys begin to fall in love with the heart.
ChristTheRock, was this helpful in anyways or made any sense?
