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My worst enemy is my mind

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Hey I'm shai and I could use some help I'm only 17 years old but for the last 4 to 5 years I've struggled with envy and lust envy I don't understand why I live a good life I have a nice family and good friends but yet whenever I see someone else whose smart or has girlfriend I feel lower than low and I can't shake it with lust I'm constantly attracted to girls but to afraid to talk to hem and no matter how much I try to improve on it I fail and now it just hurts that when I see a pretty girl I know I can't get her and I try to let The Lord lead me to one but I don't know who it will be and finally I my mind keeps me up at night sometimes I question everything around me and it wears me down and I tried so many times to pick myself back up but i feel myself getting closer to just giving up entirely I don't deserve the lords love never will thanks for reading sorry if I annoyed you
 

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Hey my friend many people struggle with the same things as you including me. First take it easy and know we all fall short of the glory of God. Stay on the path of truth and love and the Lord will lead you to peace through faith.
 
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You should try to practice acceptance. When you don't accept your present circumstances you are opposed to reality, leading to envy and depression. On the other hand, when you accept whatever situation you are in you are always at ease in a room.

To reduce the constant stream of thought, focus your attention on the breath going in and out of your nostrils. This will divert attention away from useless thought and the accompanying fear.
 
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Well, to begin with, you may want to speak to a therapist if you aren't already. Sometimes, they can be helpful in talking to you about social anxiety. Also, as nebulaJP said, you need to accept things as they are. Remind yourself that you're seventeen and have plenty of years ahead to find love. And, of course, God always loves you.
 
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