my wife and i

[manytrailsonepath]

recently told my wife that i wanted a divorce, over the years she became more and more withdrawn. i questioned her why and guessed that she had feelings for a co-worker. sure enough she did, this was three years ago. last july, about 2 1\2 months ago, it had gotten so bad i broke down and asked for divorce thinking she wanted it, but would not ask for herself. i thought i could get over her if i just got mad enough at all the problems we had. it did not work, 6 weeks after that i told her i still loved her, which i did and still do, and she agreed to work on it. we're currently separated and i feel i'm coming apart at the seams.
she does not want to be married to me, is not sure if she ever will, has feelings for her co-worker and has dated him during the six week period mentioned earlier. i guess the problem is that, a week after telling her i wanted a divorce she told me she was dating 'him' which really solidified my suspicions, however she has promised monogamy. furthermore she doesn't want a divorce, at least not yet, but i am unsure of what i'm supposed to do with all of this. i don't mean to whine and ramble, i just want my wife to come back home, or at least give me closure that she does not want me.(some background: she's currently living 250 miles away, we're going to counselling bi-monthly,we were married for 7 1\2 years, both christians, dated for 2 years before marriage, i guess that's enough )
anyways i would just ask that the people of this forum pray for us, as i am not really sure what specifically to ask for in prayer on my own. Lord help!
p.s.
moderators feel free to move this post, not really sure where to put it

 

[newbeliever02072005]

Dear Lord....Please be with this couple. Lead, guide and direct them according to your will. Grant strength to them so that they can work on healing the wounds that hurt this marriage. Open their hearts and minds to all that you want for them.....In your name I pray...Amen!

 

[AlaskanAngels]

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, I did go threw somthing kind of like that with my ex-husband so i know it is hard, By the way welcome to CF!

 

[Honibee]

Manytrails,

So glad to have come upon your post. My heart goes out to you in
your situation. And you WILL be in my prayers.

I'd like to refer you to a website that would be VERY helpful for you.
I know the founder well, and know he has a heart for where you're
at. The site is: www.marriagedivorce.com.

Stephen Wilcox is available to talk to you personally via phone, if
that would help. Let me know in my guest book if you'd be interested
in talking with him, and I'll forward his number to you.

Much love and prayers,


Honibee

 

[JesseRaymondBassett]

I am praying for you. Divorce is not good and I pray that the Father's will be done.

 

[bethdinsmore]

I am so sorry for all your pain. I will pray for you both. I am sure this waiting period is especially hard to bear.

You might also be interested in reading some of the posts in the Christians-only forums/life stages/marriage ministry. Also, I have some insights gained from being in a troubled marriage, in "Marriage" in my website listed on my profile page. Please pm me if I can help. God bless you both, friend.

Aloha in Jesus.

 

[dodad91]

I believe that if she really wanted to get back together, then she would end her "dating" with the co-worker, and if the two of you are going to Christian counseling then that is indeed the forum to air out differences, and draw to a conclusion based on where bith of you stand spiritually. Sometimes only through prayer and fasting that both of you can come to realization that it's God that established marriage, and it's Him that can out you back together...IF...and only if both of you are willing to seek God's face!!

 

[NewSong]