My Weight

[Broken Doll]

I'm a 17-year-old female who is 5' 4" and weighs about 105lbs (might be lower than that since I haven't weighed myself in a long time). I talked to my mom about my weight a few minutes ago and I suggested that we should go to the hospital to make sure nothing is wrong. The last time we went, we found out I was borderline hypoglycemic. She just said 'whatever' and accused me of wanting something to be wrong with myself. I can't seem to get my parents attention. I've tried cutting myself, but I couldn't do it. I can't smoke, use drugs or drink alcohol because they'd ruin my life. I just want a way to get them to realize that I'm hurting and I have been for a long time. School is only 7 or 8 days away and I'm afraid of being called anorexic/bulimic (I'm not) and people asking me if I'm going to throw up my food. What my mom said hurt me and now I'm crying and I don't know what to do.

Broken Doll

 

[crossrunner]

Sweetie, I am so sorry and I wish that I could reach across this computer screen and hug you and comfort you. My heart aches for your hurt. Please know that I care and I'm very proud of you for wanting to reach out for help and not engage in destructive behaviors.
If Mom is not listening..is there another relative that may listen? I see by your little brain under your name that you are an athiest...but if you do know of a church perhaps you can talk to a pastor or a priest...they will listen and may be able to help you. You say that school starts soon....talk to your teachers or guidance counselors...they can be of tremendous help and steer you in the right direction and help you get the help you need (I know, because I am a teacher in a middle school). Meanwhile...keep posting and keep me updated as to how you are doing. I care. Even though you don't believe in God....I will believe in Him for you and pray for you that you find healing and peace. God bless you dear.
cr

 

[goodoldboy]

Doll, you are about ten pounds underweight. You should be most concerned about your health (your high school mates will probably find you attractive). Talk to your school nurse when you start school. They deal with those issues all the time. But maybe you should get medical attention before then.

"Borderline hypoglycemia" may or may not be an indicator of trouble. Hypoglycemia is when you don't have enough glucose (sugar) in your bloodstream, which provides energy for your body and brain. Everyone has their ups and downs during the course of the day. If you feel like you have little energy, you have difficulty concentrating, and you get the shakes, then that is hypoglycemia and there is trouble.

Tell us about your diet, exercise, sleeping patterns, and anything else significant.

What do you eat? Do you eat until you are content? Do you feel fine while eating?

Do you exercise? Too little? Too much? How does it feel when you exercise?

Do you get enough sleep at night? Are your sleeping patterns consistent?

Do you ever get sick? Do you take any medication? Is there anything else you should tell us about your health?

Tell us how you are hurting.

And do not cut yourself! That was a bad idea. Don't do it again. EDIT: Or don't start if you haven't started.

 

[Godsgirl481]

I have been a cutter for 8 years now...not an attention getter but more of an emtional release. I have not cut myself in over a year now but it is an addiction very similuar to drugs. Makes me sad to think of someone wanting to hurt themselves to get their parents attention. I don't have advice as my parents hate me...but I just wanted to share that with you

 

[Kristi1]

Dear Broken Doll,

Hiya sweetie, I Love you and so does Jesus! You will be fine hon, sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders!! Remember God Loves you always and forever!

I have weight problems too, don't we all......


This is from Kristi Ann's Haven in "My Story" under the Disabilities Forum;

Not many people know that I also suffer from Bulimia / Anorexia Nervosa. I have had this for many years. It's Very hard to get over this too.

Here's a web site for more information;

Center for Change

I don't do this everyday, though I think about sometimes and sometimes I don't, it just happend's.

I am mess emotionally from not having any income for over a year now, I am Very upset at the Social Security Administration for not helping put my Disability Claim go through..

I had to take a Vicodin today, I had forgot to eat something before hand, I got a tad sick, and very nauseous. Pain is Not relative, I live with it all of my life. I just wonder sometimes why I have had to suffer so much pain since my birth in 1960, it don't seem fair sometimes..



Christian's are Not Perfect, Just Forgiven!


*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

I will Pray for you sweetie!!! \o/

Love Always,

KristiAnn
AKA
MsGuidedAngel

 

[Dae911]

IIm so sorry that your Parents wont listen to you. Ive had the same problems, though i went so far as to suicide attempts. Beleve me when i say you dont need to hurt your self in order to get ther attention. Talk to them. if that doesnt work bring in an adult you trust. It really helped me.

God bless you,
Dae

 

[Broken Doll]

If Mom is not listening..is there another relative that may listen? I see by your little brain under your name that you are an athiest...but if you do know of a church perhaps you can talk to a pastor or a priest...they will listen and may be able to help you.

I don't have any relatives I can talk to. Most are in the United States and some are in Europe. My dad's family lives in New York and Palermo, Sicily and my mom's family is in Pennsylvania, Wisconsin and Germany.

You say that school starts soon....talk to your teachers or guidance counselors...they can be of tremendous help and steer you in the right direction and help you get the help you need (I know, because I am a teacher in a middle school).

I could do that. I think I'll talk to a nurse this time. I talked to my guidance counselor one time about depression and my mom took me to therapy. The second time I went is when she started ignoring my problems. She seems to think just because I went to therapy for a month that I'll never be depressed or have problems again.

Meanwhile...keep posting and keep me updated as to how you are doing. I care. Even though you don't believe in God....I will believe in Him for you and pray for you that you find healing and peace. God bless you dear.
cr

Thank you!

Broken Doll

 

[Broken Doll]

Doll, you are about ten pounds underweight. You should be most concerned about your health (your high school mates will probably find you attractive). Talk to your school nurse when you start school. They deal with those issues all the time. But maybe you should get medical attention before then.

Yikes! I knew I couldn't be normal weight.

Tell us about your diet, exercise, sleeping patterns, and anything else significant.

Not really any exercise. I do stay up late a lot, but I'm trying to get back on my regular sleep schedule. I did for like two weeks, but then I slipped up.

What do you eat? Do you eat until you are content? Do you feel fine while eating?

I love eating, especially when I feel bad. I eat until I'm full and I drink a lot of soda.

Do you exercise? Too little? Too much? How does it feel when you exercise?

I did aerobic exercise at the beginning of summer vacation, but I stopped when I really looked at myself in the mirror and realized how thin I was. I do like exercising

Do you get enough sleep at night? Are your sleeping patterns consistent?

Probably not. That'll change when school starts.

Do you ever get sick? Do you take any medication? Is there anything else you should tell us about your health?

I get headaches frequently. I used to be on celexa for depression and I took birth control to regulate my period. My mom is going to take me in to take the Depo-Provera shot so that we don't have to keep coming back to the hospital. I really don't take any medication recently. I do get sick when I have my period. I usually get a headache and throw up.

Tell us how you are hurting.

I feel depressed. I have been for a long time. I thought I was doing better, but then I realized I didn't weigh as much as I should and now I'm obsessed with it. It's more than my weight too, it's how I look. I have really low self-esteem and zero confidence.

And do not cut yourself! That was a bad idea. Don't do it again. EDIT: Or don't start if you haven't started.

I didn't and I won't. I couldn't do it. I knew it wouldn't help anything. I just wanted a way to get the attention of my mom.

Broken Doll

 

[HumbleBee]

Broken Doll,

Call on Jesus...He said...Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Tiz His wisdom from above that is preserving you from doing drugs, alcohol, and other bad stuff. Especially since your Mom nada really helping, Jesus be your refuge and ever present help in trouble! His joy be your strength! Ask Him to be your Lord and Savior! He will give you a joy that will not fade, as you keep your eyes on Him!

Jeremiah 29:11-14 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. You will seek Me and find Me when you seek Me with all your heart. I will be found by you," declares the LORD...

 

[Reepicheep]

I am 5'8 and I am 105 pounds, meaning I am also underweight. I eat and eat and eat, yet I do not gain pounds quickly. Being underweight hasn't affected my life very much, but in your situation, I will pray for you. Remember, Jesus is always with you. If you don't think your parents care, JESUS DOES! God bless you, Broken Doll.

 

[goodoldboy]

Yikes! I knew I couldn't be normal weight.


Not really any exercise. I do stay up late a lot, but I'm trying to get back on my regular sleep schedule. I did for like two weeks, but then I slipped up.

I love eating, especially when I feel bad. I eat until I'm full and I drink a lot of soda.

I did aerobic exercise at the beginning of summer vacation, but I stopped when I really looked at myself in the mirror and realized how thin I was. I do like exercising

Probably not. That'll change when school starts.

I get headaches frequently. I used to be on celexa for depression and I took birth control to regulate my period. My mom is going to take me in to take the depo-provera shot so that we don't have to keep coming back to the hospital. I really don't take any medication recently. I do get sick when I have my period. I usually get a headache and throw up.

I feel depressed. I have been for a long time. I thought I was doing better, but then I realized I didn't weigh as much as I should and now I'm obsessed with it. It's more than my weight too, it's how I look. I have really low self-esteem and zero confidence.

I didn't and I won't. I couldn't do it. I knew it wouldn't help anything. I just wanted a way to get the attention of my mom.

Broken Doll

Here is my advice:

1) Stop drinking so much soda (is it diet or regular?). Eat wholesome food that focuses on meats, fruits, and vegetables.
2) STAY OFF THE DRUGS! Do NOT take birth control pills to regulate your periods. Don't you know they have side effects? Do NOT get a Depo Provera shot. Why do you need that? Are you having unprotected sex? Birth control medication is not for regulating periods, but for preventing kids, and even then I wouldn't recommend it because of the side effects.
3) Stop getting depressed. I know that sounds like worthless advice, but I believe that depression is a conscious decision more than anything. Recognize your good qualities so you can feel proud, not ashamed, when you look in the mirror.
4) Get whatever medical help is available. I am not a doctor.

 

[skylark1]

Broken Doll,

I am about the same height as you are, and when I was your age, I weighed the same as you (unless you have lost weight since you last weighed). People used to make comments about my weight, but I was eating and felt fine. If you are eating normally, not dieting, and not bulemic, and feel ok, I wouldn't be concerned too much about your weight.

But if you are having symptoms of hypoglycemia, that is cause for concern. The symptoms include feeling shaky, nervous, tired, sweaty, cold, hungry, confused, irritable or impatient.

I hope that helps.

 

[fragile one]

Do NOT take birth control pills to regulate your periods. Don't you know they have side effects? Birth control medication is not for regulating periods, but for preventing kids.

Actually, that's not true. My gynecologist has regulated my period using birth control pills and the pills have worked wonders. He tried several different types of drugs before BC (since there is a family history of blood clots) but nothing worked until Lo/Ovral. Now I take that and an aspirin regimen (to prevent the blood clots from forming). The only side effect I've noticed is losing weight (I always heard that you'd gain weight from BC, but it wasn't true in my case, I lost most of my appetite).

 

[Archangel590]

well there is nothing I can say but Im praying for you Broken Doll

 

[Justin Horne]

You aren't THAT underweight. Some people are just small... If you are getting your nutrition, I doubt you should worry. (But i'm not a doctor either...)

 

[LibertyChic]

Broken Doll,

I'm sorry you are going through this, but I do think the "talk to the school nurse" advice is rather sound.

I would also like to stress do NOT get on the Depo Provera!! I have never heard of one person who was on it that had a positive experience. I, too, was on it for nearly a year and it was one of the worst things I could have done for myself, on many different levels. Also, unless this doctor is trying to prevent you from having too long/too many menstrual cycles, then the Depo will not regulate your periods. They generally STOP a woman from having monthly cycles, not kick-start them.

At any rate, continue to seek support and help from others. I also grew up in a non-supportive enviroment, so I know a little what you are going through.

Hugs, prayers and positive thoughts,

LC

 

[MLynn]

Broken Doll, it's so hard to be young and going through hormonal changes. It would be easier if parents remembered they went through it too, but I won't go into that. I would say that because you are still growing, your weight may be temporarily low due to growth spurts. Also, if you think you are a borderliine hypoglycemic (I am one), then eat meals that are low in sugar, but high in fiber and protein; eat 5-6 small meals a day instead of 3. If you can, get some walking in. Don't do anything drastic.

You must really be hurting to want to cut yourself, but I can't help you there. As far as low self-esteem goes, I decided a few years ago that it was BS and that I had value. Low self-esteem "paralyses" us so we can't function - oops, I'm rambling.

Please be sure that there are people here who care about you. You can always express yourself here. Hug, hug - Mik

 

[TheMainException]

Man, let me just say...that su-ks royal...from where I stand...the only person I know who can help you is Jesus...I love you and I know he loves you a gazillion times more than I ever could. Whether or not your mom loves you, Jesus loves you and knows your pain. If you turn to him, he will not let you suffer.

 

[Arkanin]

2) STAY OFF THE DRUGS! Do NOT take birth control pills to regulate your periods. Don't you know they have side effects? Do NOT get a Depo Provera shot. Why do you need that? Are you having unprotected sex? Birth control medication is not for regulating periods, but for preventing kids, and even then I wouldn't recommend it because of the side effects.

People get SICK, and I mean SICK off those birth control shots. I am not a doctor but unless your doctor is telling you to do this it is just about the last thing in the world I would suggest as a way to make your period less bad. I agree 100% here, in fact I was going to suggest that it might be your birth control making you ill

I wish I knew what you should do. Your parents love you, even if they aren't showing it well. I know that you are desperately trying to get their attention somehow. I understand why you would try to do that, and it's okay. I think you should really go into counseling, find some way to do this. And talk to your nurse or HS counselour very honestly about what is going on in your life. They will probably be sympathetic and have good advice.

 

[tinkerbell]

I'm so sorry to hear all of that. I know that has to be really hard for you to go through. I want you to know that I am praying for you! One thing that I would suggest for you is finding a mentor or a counselor, someone you can really talk to, someone who can give you support. Do you know anyone like that? If not I'm sure there is someone here on CF that would be willing to take that kind of role for you if there is noone around where you're from, but if not, I would be willing to. I will continue to pray for you. If you ever need anyone to talk to, send me a PM. I will continue to keep you in my prayers!