My Unique Problem

[inchristalone221]

I think you know what you have to do (or should I say, not do).

Yeah I'm trying really hard. As long as she's happy and God does what's best for her, I don't care what happens to me. I mean, I would be honored and thrilled to play a big part in God's plan for her, but if I don't I'll just have to trust that God has better plans. Pray for me though please, this is killing me.

 

[Carri20]

That's exactly how I know your love is true--it's selfless--and God rewards that kind of love. Keep loving like that and seeking God's will, and He'll either bring Jane to you in the future or provide you with someone who is even better suited for you, believe it or not. Don't forget that while He's taking care of Jane, He's taking care of you too.

Lord, please comfort this young man and give him the strength he needs to get through this painful ordeal. Give him the guidance and wisdom that can only come from you, and remind him always that he is loved. And Father, when he's ready, please lead him to the woman you are preparing for him. I pray for her too, whoever she is and wherever she is, that you would keep her in Your perfect will and guide her life. Let them rest in You, in Jesus name, amen.

 

[inchristalone221]

Carri, do you have email or something I could talk to you privately about this?

 

[DeezyC81]

ummm wow... what a situation you have here. I've also been in this situation. And I'm here to tell you. The best thing to do is to sit back and let her do her own thing. She'll talk to you if she wants to but you need watch what you say and how you feel. (yes its going to hurt)... There are alot of girls out there and one of them might have their eyes on you. Do not put your all in someone elses relationship. Be there when she askes you to be there. You have to respect that relationship between them. Its a must... "what goes around comes arounds" and "you rep what you sowed." I tell you this from personal experience the "I'll just tell her how I feel card" is thee worst ever card to play in this situation. Its best that you go play cards elsewhere so that you can get your feelings straight and go on with your life. Cause I know you're probably seating by the phone or in bed constantly thinking about her. And sad to say you fell in love with her. But if she doesn't love you back or can't. There is no use in pursuing that relationship right now . It might happen down the road or you might find someone so much better. You will love them and they will love you back and will have nothing and no one holding them back.

 

[melandshanetria]

I would just continue to be there as as friend. Think about how it would feel with your friend Jake, knowing if you were to share these romantic feelings with her and somehow, he found out about it? The situation would not look good to him in the least bit. It's good to step back and let their relationship run its course and if it's meant for you two to be together it will happen in God's timing, and if not, then pray and ask God what his plan is for you concerning courtship and marriage and he will lead you in the direction that he wants you to take, right now, just continue to encourage this lady and keep your feelings to yourself because it will only confuse her if you continously share your emotions for her. I see that you have alot of love to give, and one day that love will be given to the right person or perhaps maybe to this young lady when God presents the time. "They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31 I thought I would share that with you, God have his perfect timing for everything.

 

[inchristalone221]

Thank you for the encouragement. I know God's in control (check the faith icon...Calvinist), and that's what's getting me through this.

 

[inchristalone221]

Hey, some new things have come up and I'd really like someone I can talk to about this privately. I've already talked to many of my friends from here in my hometown, but "in the abundance of counselors there is wisdom" and I'd like at least one more opinion, maybe two. Carri, any chance you have email or something? Anyone else?