I have been dating my non Christian boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and I believe that he is The One for me. However, i also wanted to be right with God and be close to him again. How is this possible if the two are opposites? Here is my testimonial on how i am overcomnig this struggle and getting rid of sexual desires.
God is soOo amazing. I couldnt express it enough. I have been so lost about God since after me my ex broke up. It has taken me this long and so many years to finally change back to how I was. Truly passionate and thirsty for God.
Talking to a Shaun*, I realised that I could talk to him about how deeply we have both been involved with our partners sexually and how far apart it has torn us from God. It had gotten to the point where we forgot that it was an act of sin and that God was no longer in control of the decisions that we make.
We both wanted and longed to be right with God again, but at the same time thought it would mean it be impossible to carry on our relationship with our partners. Because, both our partners are weak in Christ or non-believers, it would be hard for them to understand how we view things.
Whilst making love to my bf, I used to feel so guilty afterwards and tell myself that I would not let it happen again. However I never really focused on God and called on him for help, so struggling through it on my own, not being able to tell anyone who could help. Not my mum, sister, or any Christian friends thinking they will look down on me and judge me.
This year, I saw Shaun* more often and one night, we were with a group of friends confessing secrets and only then I realised that he too is involved sexually with his girlfriend.
After a few days, we realised that we both longed to make it right and dont want to carry on running down this path away from God. But it was such a struggle as our partners would not understand this and might even not accept our decision, and therefore would lead to a heartbreak. And if they did understand, it would firstly have to start from us changing ourselves. To get rid of all our sexual desires and cravings. All thoughts and anything which would lead us astray again. It is a lot to change, but for the sake of being right with God, and wanting to save our relationships with the ones we loved, not wanting to choose between the two, meant we would have to really give ourselves to God and commit ourselves to do the right things.
Giving up sex may be hard initially, as we are so used to the idea, but it will not be forever. God wishes us to save until marriage, and even though we have gone against this word, we are willing to change and God has forgiven us, delighted that we have the heart to live for the better. It would mean that we find other activities and entertainment to keep us both happy together, which may sound less appealing, but it would mean that our relationship would be less shallow and less sexually orientated, being able to get to know each other better in different ways.
I asked Shaun* where he would draw the line. He told me that it would be hard for him to touch and kiss anywhere other than his gf's lips without wanting it.and it is true when people say that one thing leads to another. EVENTUALLY it will.
For the past four years since my ex, I have been doubting God so much, and questioning so many things and disapproving of Gods ways of teaching. Only the other day I talked to KK* that I realised I needed to surround myself with a group of devoted Christian friends. Fellowship is what will encourage me to keep my hunger for God, and also prayer. I used to think why? If God already knows what we are thinking, why pray? Prayer to God is like talking to him and the only way where we will build that relationship with him and understand Gods will and what he wants us to do. In a relationship with your partner, you cannot expect to be happy and be so close to each other if you dont talk to each other. This is the same with God.
Therefore, even though I have done so much wrong in the past, God has forgiven me, and I am so grateful that he is so gracious, I have for the first time In four years, enjoyed praying to God. I felt so happy that I had talked to him again after so long.
I am thankful to God for blessing me with such great brothers in Christ who have talked me through so much.
I also thank him so much that he has given me this route to take where I dont have to give up my relationship with God, or my love for W*. I just pray that he give me time to change, and the strength to help W* to as well. My hope in the future, is to marry this amazing guy, and be able to share myself with him physically, emotionally, and most importantly of all, spiritually.For so long, i never thought I would get through this, but it is true, Anything is Possible, as long as you have FAITH!
Thankyou and i hope it has inspired you, i will update and post follow ups to this. God Bless x
God is soOo amazing. I couldnt express it enough. I have been so lost about God since after me my ex broke up. It has taken me this long and so many years to finally change back to how I was. Truly passionate and thirsty for God.
Talking to a Shaun*, I realised that I could talk to him about how deeply we have both been involved with our partners sexually and how far apart it has torn us from God. It had gotten to the point where we forgot that it was an act of sin and that God was no longer in control of the decisions that we make.
We both wanted and longed to be right with God again, but at the same time thought it would mean it be impossible to carry on our relationship with our partners. Because, both our partners are weak in Christ or non-believers, it would be hard for them to understand how we view things.
Whilst making love to my bf, I used to feel so guilty afterwards and tell myself that I would not let it happen again. However I never really focused on God and called on him for help, so struggling through it on my own, not being able to tell anyone who could help. Not my mum, sister, or any Christian friends thinking they will look down on me and judge me.
This year, I saw Shaun* more often and one night, we were with a group of friends confessing secrets and only then I realised that he too is involved sexually with his girlfriend.
After a few days, we realised that we both longed to make it right and dont want to carry on running down this path away from God. But it was such a struggle as our partners would not understand this and might even not accept our decision, and therefore would lead to a heartbreak. And if they did understand, it would firstly have to start from us changing ourselves. To get rid of all our sexual desires and cravings. All thoughts and anything which would lead us astray again. It is a lot to change, but for the sake of being right with God, and wanting to save our relationships with the ones we loved, not wanting to choose between the two, meant we would have to really give ourselves to God and commit ourselves to do the right things.
Giving up sex may be hard initially, as we are so used to the idea, but it will not be forever. God wishes us to save until marriage, and even though we have gone against this word, we are willing to change and God has forgiven us, delighted that we have the heart to live for the better. It would mean that we find other activities and entertainment to keep us both happy together, which may sound less appealing, but it would mean that our relationship would be less shallow and less sexually orientated, being able to get to know each other better in different ways.
I asked Shaun* where he would draw the line. He told me that it would be hard for him to touch and kiss anywhere other than his gf's lips without wanting it.and it is true when people say that one thing leads to another. EVENTUALLY it will.
For the past four years since my ex, I have been doubting God so much, and questioning so many things and disapproving of Gods ways of teaching. Only the other day I talked to KK* that I realised I needed to surround myself with a group of devoted Christian friends. Fellowship is what will encourage me to keep my hunger for God, and also prayer. I used to think why? If God already knows what we are thinking, why pray? Prayer to God is like talking to him and the only way where we will build that relationship with him and understand Gods will and what he wants us to do. In a relationship with your partner, you cannot expect to be happy and be so close to each other if you dont talk to each other. This is the same with God.
Therefore, even though I have done so much wrong in the past, God has forgiven me, and I am so grateful that he is so gracious, I have for the first time In four years, enjoyed praying to God. I felt so happy that I had talked to him again after so long.
I am thankful to God for blessing me with such great brothers in Christ who have talked me through so much.
I also thank him so much that he has given me this route to take where I dont have to give up my relationship with God, or my love for W*. I just pray that he give me time to change, and the strength to help W* to as well. My hope in the future, is to marry this amazing guy, and be able to share myself with him physically, emotionally, and most importantly of all, spiritually.For so long, i never thought I would get through this, but it is true, Anything is Possible, as long as you have FAITH!
Thankyou and i hope it has inspired you, i will update and post follow ups to this. God Bless x
