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My Story .. Please Read and Help! (kinda lengthy)
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God bless you friend.
I am also very sensitive to others swearing. However, my mother always does and uses Jesus' name in it, and I never say anything.
See, Jesus said they can say anything they want about me, but not about the Holy Spirit.
Let God convict them; if you tell them not to swear around you, you are implying a little that you are better than them. If they know you are a Christian some will actually behave better and some worse around you. It all depends.
We are in the world, and we can't change the world. Only God can change a person's life on the inside. Trying to change someone on the outside is short lived.
Always remember who you were before Christ and how you would not want a Christian to treat you.
Just be your loving wonderful self, when people swear, give it to God right away, let Him take it from you.
Certain things do trigger us, and generally it's something that we ourselves struggle with.
Do you kind of see you saying that sometimes you swear also, and so by telling others not to, it wouldn't be right.
It is hard in public but it is the world, and in church we have a different world.
Being as real as you can be is the best thing you can do.
About feeling your salvation is secure, it's something you'll get by being in the word, since that is how we gain faith. Faith by believing and believing by the word.
Remember that once you believed, you were indwelled with the Holy Spirit as a deposit guaranteeing our redemption (salvation.) You can never lose your salvation. We don't have feelings about it, but faith about it.
Try to find some like minded Christian friends, some older men also that will mentor you. It's women friends that helped me a lot and still do, some 20 years later.
Remember that God does not get offended when people swear. If he did we'd all be dead. Jesus said they can say anything they want about me. Also he says they will say things about you, but they really hate me. If God zapped us for our sin, none of us would be alive.
So, don't take these things personal.
It's a spirtual battle you are in, not an earthly battle.
Really, it's important to get some friends and mentors in faith to help you. They can help you deal with every day issues that come up.
Thanks for writing that letter and sharing how you feel. You are an honest man, and that is admirable.
God bless you,
tapero
I am also very sensitive to others swearing. However, my mother always does and uses Jesus' name in it, and I never say anything.
See, Jesus said they can say anything they want about me, but not about the Holy Spirit.
Let God convict them; if you tell them not to swear around you, you are implying a little that you are better than them. If they know you are a Christian some will actually behave better and some worse around you. It all depends.
We are in the world, and we can't change the world. Only God can change a person's life on the inside. Trying to change someone on the outside is short lived.
Always remember who you were before Christ and how you would not want a Christian to treat you.
Just be your loving wonderful self, when people swear, give it to God right away, let Him take it from you.
Certain things do trigger us, and generally it's something that we ourselves struggle with.
Do you kind of see you saying that sometimes you swear also, and so by telling others not to, it wouldn't be right.
It is hard in public but it is the world, and in church we have a different world.
Being as real as you can be is the best thing you can do.
About feeling your salvation is secure, it's something you'll get by being in the word, since that is how we gain faith. Faith by believing and believing by the word.
Remember that once you believed, you were indwelled with the Holy Spirit as a deposit guaranteeing our redemption (salvation.) You can never lose your salvation. We don't have feelings about it, but faith about it.
Try to find some like minded Christian friends, some older men also that will mentor you. It's women friends that helped me a lot and still do, some 20 years later.
Remember that God does not get offended when people swear. If he did we'd all be dead. Jesus said they can say anything they want about me. Also he says they will say things about you, but they really hate me. If God zapped us for our sin, none of us would be alive.
So, don't take these things personal.
It's a spirtual battle you are in, not an earthly battle.
Really, it's important to get some friends and mentors in faith to help you. They can help you deal with every day issues that come up.
Thanks for writing that letter and sharing how you feel. You are an honest man, and that is admirable.
God bless you,
tapero
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sinneD
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I agree with the advice Tapero has given you. I would like to reiterate the fact that if you have claimed Jesus as your saviour, then you are saved.
I would recommend being baptized, if you have not done so. Baptism is not going to add to your salvation (or take away from it if you are not baptised), but I recommend it because it is a mark in time... it is a point in time that you can look back and say "yes, I know I am saved because on that day I publicly proclaimed Jesus as my Lord and Saviour, and no one can take that away from me".
As for your cursing, lusts, etc... unfortunately, it is a part of life. It is a process that each of us must go through as we grow in the Lord and we learn to walk spiritually.
And finally, although you are 17, you are mature enough and old enough to go to the Men's forum. There you will find a number of men dealing with these same issue, and encouraging one another.
If I can help you in any way, feel free to PM me, or my e-mail is on my CF profile page.
Dennis
I would recommend being baptized, if you have not done so. Baptism is not going to add to your salvation (or take away from it if you are not baptised), but I recommend it because it is a mark in time... it is a point in time that you can look back and say "yes, I know I am saved because on that day I publicly proclaimed Jesus as my Lord and Saviour, and no one can take that away from me".
As for your cursing, lusts, etc... unfortunately, it is a part of life. It is a process that each of us must go through as we grow in the Lord and we learn to walk spiritually.
And finally, although you are 17, you are mature enough and old enough to go to the Men's forum. There you will find a number of men dealing with these same issue, and encouraging one another.
If I can help you in any way, feel free to PM me, or my e-mail is on my CF profile page.
Dennis
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MyangelDems
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If God waited until each one of us was perfect to save us or made it a requirement that we were perfect in order to be saved... we'd all be in very big trouble and no one would ever get saved.
We are to come as we are so that Christ can purify us, so that we can be molded into the people God wants us to be.
So yes you may have problems in certain areas of your life...we all have difficult areas in which God is still working on us. There was but one perfect man and He died on the cross.
God doesn't require perfection of you, He requires a willing heart.
We are to come as we are so that Christ can purify us, so that we can be molded into the people God wants us to be.
So yes you may have problems in certain areas of your life...we all have difficult areas in which God is still working on us. There was but one perfect man and He died on the cross.
God doesn't require perfection of you, He requires a willing heart.
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Im not to far off with the exception of a few life differences and as you can see im pretty new here as well.
You question about you and God though, only you and God would know that answer because only you two know your heart.
And the thing with your friends...i have that struggle too, the worst part with me is i stood for Jesus and had all my friends either accept me for being on Jesus's side or leave and then i let it all go. (for nothin =\ ) I recently re dedicated my life to christ and i wanna do it right this time and stick with it fully. i just read a scripture in Ezekial that really touched me and it might help you as well it has to do with the friend part. In Ezekial 2:6-8...its a lot to type but i assume you have a bible.
But life aint easy bro...all we can do is pray to God and try our best for him daily and go by his word.
I hope anything i said made sense and hasany help
You question about you and God though, only you and God would know that answer because only you two know your heart.
And the thing with your friends...i have that struggle too, the worst part with me is i stood for Jesus and had all my friends either accept me for being on Jesus's side or leave and then i let it all go. (for nothin =\ ) I recently re dedicated my life to christ and i wanna do it right this time and stick with it fully. i just read a scripture in Ezekial that really touched me and it might help you as well it has to do with the friend part. In Ezekial 2:6-8...its a lot to type but i assume you have a bible.
But life aint easy bro...all we can do is pray to God and try our best for him daily and go by his word.
I hope anything i said made sense and hasany help
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Hi there precious. Your struggles are quite normal. We all have areas of weakness, it is what we do in those times that count. Do you have a plan for those times that you are pressed with these distractions from God?
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UnitynLove
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The world will hate you you have to accept that, but God is always for you. "What room does light have with darkness?"
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