My sacrifice....(is it worth it?)

[123Joseph123]

I am 25 years old and so far I have dated 2 girls. In my past relationships I have never engaged in sex activities (neither my past girlfriends). That’s because I have decided not have before marriage due to religion (I’ve decided to go for the right path). But today, I am seeing this girl. We stated going out two weeks ago. She had already seven boyfriends. Clearly she had a great sex experience so far. Recently I started to think that all my of sacrifice were useless, that I wasted my life so far. The fact that she has more experience than I do makes me feel like a looser. Also I can’t stop picturing her having sex with their old boyfriends. That also makes me think, sex is something you do with your true love (that would be your husband or wife) and sex is suppose to be something special. I am really confused and I don’t know what to think about it but I also I don’t want feel like a looser…I really like her and I know most people go for the sin...I don't know waht to do...

 

[Tsarina]

You're not the looser, you did a great thing, you stuck with your morals and keep sticking with them. Don't have sex before marriage, if that what you believe, i know that's what i blieved.

Trust me, you will know the importance the day you have a wife and she is the first one for you to do it with.

And guess what, you're right, sex is somthing special, so save it. The fact that the girl has sex in her past relationships bothers you because you know it's not right. Stick with your instincts and morals.

In addition, don't feel like a looser because she has more experience, you should feel even more proud knowing that you had moral standards and stuck with them. Now that's impressive!

 

[Tsarina]

You did the right thing, so don't feel like a looser. You stuck with your belief and it is the right way. I myself believe in sex after marriage, however, don't let someone with experience confuse you.

The reason why her past sexl life bothers you is because you know it's wrong, and that it's not right.

Why do you feel like the looser? You should be proud of yourself that you have a base, a strong standard that you believed in, derriving from faith, and you stuck with it. Now that's impressive!

Trust me, one day when you have a wife, and the both of you are in love. Then you will see the imporatance and all the reasons why you should save sex till after marraige.

Stick with your belief and instincts, because they're right. I myself don't think your a looser, i think it's pretty impressive that a guy in a sinful society has a right and moral perspective. Continue it.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

I would quit seeing the girl. You might be in it just because of your friends' pressure.

 

[123Joseph123]

Thank you everyone. I really spent lots of time reading your posts (a bunch of times really) and I conclude the following: I know that sex can be wonderful and I really want to have these experiences with a person that I like and that will be my wife. I believe we will have great sex. I am not saying that you can’t have great sex before marriage but doing this is clearly not right. I am not saying that if you wait you will have great sex (maybe yes, maybe no) but this is the right path to follow. Probably with this, if we get married, the sex will be special for me, but not that special for her because she will be used to it. And also, she can think that her husband is the best lover she had. How come? Married and thinking about your past lovers…those are problems that probably I will faced it. I have decided to talk to her about it, honestly. I will talk to her say everything, all my concerns and see what happens. Thank you everyone!!!