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I live in Colorado Springs, Colorado. In November of 2011, I let a "friend" move into my apartment. He stated that he worked for a civilian contractor in the intelligence industry and could not live with any law enforcement or military due to "a conflict of interest."
While I was skeptical of his reasons, I figured I could trust him enough and I let him move in. He occupies an air mattress in my living room (I live in a one-bedroom apartment). He was supposed to actively look for another place to stay and was going to be living with me for only a month or two.
In late December, he was involved in a car accident as a passenger. His injuries prohibited him from working, and so I allowed him to stay in my apartment (a stupid thing in retrospect since I'm violating my lease by allowing him to stay longer than a week without notifying the leasing office). He has had to get a lawyer to fight the insurance company, and has just now received his "release papers" to go back to work.
During this time, he has become increasingly hostile toward me, and I've caught him in blatant lies. However, whenever I even hint at the idea that he's lying to me, he becomes extremely belligerent and threatens to hurt me (though he tries to play it off as though he's just joking). He also often brags about his father (a supposed retired "Spec Ops" warrior with a plethora of security clearances and power) and uses him as a scare tactic when I oppose him.
I have only hinted at the idea of kicking him out. I've issued no notices, and I've given him no direct indication that I want him to leave. Due to his hostility, I've absent-mindedly listened to him as he drones on about how much life sucks (though if I have a bad day or get depressed I'm told to "suck it up").
Now that he has his work release papers, he has talked about getting a job at the fast food joint near my apartment. He can walk there, since his drivers license has been suspended until the end of the year. He was initially helpful (last November he gave me $600 toward my rent and has since used money provided by his girlfriend/ex-girlfriend/lover/fiance/whatever depending on what hour it is to provide me with things like food and supplies for my disability).
Every time he's talked about getting his own place, something has changed (conveniently while I'm in the bathroom or across the street at the grocery store). He goes outside the apartment to take all of his phone calls and won't talk to people who come by to visit him in front of me. I can't get a straight answer from anyone.
Long story short:
There was no lease agreement between me and him. Neither of us signed anything as far as a rent agreement, and I have never charged him rent since it would only introduce stress between us (he has no job). I am on the lease with my apartment complex and am violating it by letting him stay here this long without being on the lease.
He supposedly worked in intelligence and has security clearances (along with his father). He has used these to threaten me vaguely for accusing him of lying to me (i.e., "I'll ruin your life in ways you can't imagine and no one would ever be able to catch me"). He claims to have a DOD-issued firearm in the apartment but has told me I'll never see it; I'm beginning to believe that it does not exist.
As far as he knows, I'm friendly toward him. If I issue him an eviction notice, I am concerned he'll hurt me physically (he's 6'1" and 295 pounds to my 6'0" and 140 pounds and has repeatedly, "jokingly" threatened to paralyze me). If he doesn't hurt me, I know for a fact he has friends who will try to "defend his honor" and they would retaliate against me.
He claims that I cannot just "dump his stuff on the lawn" (so to speak) due to Colorado law; he claims that since he receives his mail in my mailbox, I must issue a thirty-day written notice of eviction. This has come up as he and I have discussed his previous living situations.
What can I do?
I live in Colorado Springs, Colorado. In November of 2011, I let a "friend" move into my apartment. He stated that he worked for a civilian contractor in the intelligence industry and could not live with any law enforcement or military due to "a conflict of interest."
While I was skeptical of his reasons, I figured I could trust him enough and I let him move in. He occupies an air mattress in my living room (I live in a one-bedroom apartment). He was supposed to actively look for another place to stay and was going to be living with me for only a month or two.
In late December, he was involved in a car accident as a passenger. His injuries prohibited him from working, and so I allowed him to stay in my apartment (a stupid thing in retrospect since I'm violating my lease by allowing him to stay longer than a week without notifying the leasing office). He has had to get a lawyer to fight the insurance company, and has just now received his "release papers" to go back to work.
During this time, he has become increasingly hostile toward me, and I've caught him in blatant lies. However, whenever I even hint at the idea that he's lying to me, he becomes extremely belligerent and threatens to hurt me (though he tries to play it off as though he's just joking). He also often brags about his father (a supposed retired "Spec Ops" warrior with a plethora of security clearances and power) and uses him as a scare tactic when I oppose him.
I have only hinted at the idea of kicking him out. I've issued no notices, and I've given him no direct indication that I want him to leave. Due to his hostility, I've absent-mindedly listened to him as he drones on about how much life sucks (though if I have a bad day or get depressed I'm told to "suck it up").
Now that he has his work release papers, he has talked about getting a job at the fast food joint near my apartment. He can walk there, since his drivers license has been suspended until the end of the year. He was initially helpful (last November he gave me $600 toward my rent and has since used money provided by his girlfriend/ex-girlfriend/lover/fiance/whatever depending on what hour it is to provide me with things like food and supplies for my disability).
Every time he's talked about getting his own place, something has changed (conveniently while I'm in the bathroom or across the street at the grocery store). He goes outside the apartment to take all of his phone calls and won't talk to people who come by to visit him in front of me. I can't get a straight answer from anyone.
Long story short:
There was no lease agreement between me and him. Neither of us signed anything as far as a rent agreement, and I have never charged him rent since it would only introduce stress between us (he has no job). I am on the lease with my apartment complex and am violating it by letting him stay here this long without being on the lease.
He supposedly worked in intelligence and has security clearances (along with his father). He has used these to threaten me vaguely for accusing him of lying to me (i.e., "I'll ruin your life in ways you can't imagine and no one would ever be able to catch me"). He claims to have a DOD-issued firearm in the apartment but has told me I'll never see it; I'm beginning to believe that it does not exist.
As far as he knows, I'm friendly toward him. If I issue him an eviction notice, I am concerned he'll hurt me physically (he's 6'1" and 295 pounds to my 6'0" and 140 pounds and has repeatedly, "jokingly" threatened to paralyze me). If he doesn't hurt me, I know for a fact he has friends who will try to "defend his honor" and they would retaliate against me.
He claims that I cannot just "dump his stuff on the lawn" (so to speak) due to Colorado law; he claims that since he receives his mail in my mailbox, I must issue a thirty-day written notice of eviction. This has come up as he and I have discussed his previous living situations.
What can I do?
