my relationship

[gospelgangsta]

Hi everyone!
I need some comments on my situation.I have been dating my girlfriend for over 4 months now.Things have really been going great lately with us.We just have one major problem.......sex.We started off just "fooling around" and I felt really bad about it,because last year I rededicated my life to the Lord,and hadn't really done a lot of anything like that since then.I was actually on fire for Jesus last year and could not be moved on issues like sex and things like that,and I felt my spirit was so sensitive and I was so close to God.But then we got to the point where we had sex in the spurt of the moment.Then there was one time where we actually premeditated that we were going to have sex.Well,she has struggled with this issue since she was 15 years old and has had multiple partners,but I have seen a really big change in her life since we have been together.The only thing in our lives we need to get out is this,and I really feel like we would both really be ready to take the next step with God.We have been doing a little better lately,but have still have not stopped completely and have fallen into temptation less than a week ago.I really want this to stop because I have grown to love this girl and I know she loves me.I also know that our hearts really are for Jesus,he is #1 in my life.I just feel so hypocritical in my heart sometimes,and especially at church and stuff like that because we both deal with youth a lot and I feel like crap trying to tell everybody to follow Jesus when I have this secret sin in my life.I want it gone.Anybody have any suggestions or helpful advice?Thanks ahead of time.

 

[BeautifulDestiny09]

Wow...I am unsure of what to say, so I'll wait until someone else posts...

 

[seehimcoming]

That's pretty hard mate. I am going through something similar but i try keep my self control. I pray really hard in the nights. Spend more time with my mentors at church. I just ignite my self with fire for God and she tries really hard too. I just pray we end up in the right end. If my standards are not met then i will leave her as i dont want anything to affect my relationship with God. Have a look at Billy Graham's website , it helps a lot. Cheers

 

[princessellie]

i know how you feel (to a point) my partner and i go through fazes where we are really strong and dont let anything tempt us but then there are other times where we can be moments from falling into a place we cant come back from

my only advice is dont spend too much alone time together, try stay in places where there are other people or plan activities so that you are busy and dont have a chance to think about it

stay strong and god bless

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

First, make a commitment to each other, and to God, that you are going to stop having sex. Then try to find a pastor, or someone like that who can help to keep you accountable but won't judge you if you stumble.
Secondly, you said you work with youth, and that you feel guilty. We all deal with struggles, and honestly, many of the youth you deal with are probably going through the same thing. You don't need to come across as perfect to be an example to the people you are working with. Showing them you're not may make you more on their level, and make it so they feel you can talk to you more.
Sorry if any of this sounds judgmental, it's not. We all make mistakes, and if we ask for forgiveness we're forgiven.

 

[gospelgangsta]

First, make a commitment to each other, and to God, that you are going to stop having sex. Then try to find a pastor, or someone like that who can help to keep you accountable but won't judge you if you stumble.
Secondly, you said you work with youth, and that you feel guilty. We all deal with struggles, and honestly, many of the youth you deal with are probably going through the same thing. You don't need to come across as perfect to be an example to the people you are working with. Showing them you're not may make you more on their level, and make it so they feel you can talk to you more.
Sorry if any of this sounds judgmental, it's not. We all make mistakes, and if we ask for forgiveness we're forgiven.

I know we all make mistakes,I just feel that if you are being a leader in church you really need to make sure your life is right...I don't know,I hope we can overcome our struggle...I have had a friend say to get out immediately if anything interferes with your relationship with God...like I said I love this girl and plan on staying with her,but changes must be made.Thanks everyone for the comments.

 

[Stolic]

i know how you feel (to a point) my partner and i go through fazes where we are really strong and dont let anything tempt us but then there are other times where we can be moments from falling into a place we cant come back from

my only advice is dont spend too much alone time together, try stay in places where there are other people or plan activities so that you are busy and dont have a chance to think about it

stay strong and god bless

Totally agree - definitely the best idea to steer clear from being in situations where you guys could be tempted.

I know we all make mistakes,I just feel that if you are being a leader in church you really need to make sure your life is right...I don't know,I hope we can overcome our struggle...I have had a friend say to get out immediately if anything interferes with your relationship with God...like I said I love this girl and plan on staying with her,but changes must be made.Thanks everyone for the comments.

I pray God will grant you the strength and discipline you need. In Jesus' Name

 

[gospelgangsta]

thanks very much Stolic

 

[mezyel]

hi i know how you feel iam in the same situation right now you need to pray and confess to some one about it that someone must be from the church.... Iam here praying for you. its really hard i know if you want you can pm me if you have other questions im very much willing to help God bless