MY RANT

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Sorry I just need to get this out somewhere...

For those of you who don't know - my flatmate and I are currently undergoing some 'redefining the relationship' discussions - with the agreement that if all goes according to plan, we'll be considered a serious relationship in about August. We have kissed a couple of times, and he holds me a lot, but all this is in private, and only 2 people outside of us know what is going on.

Anyway, today, one of my married friends and I were talking, and I just made a comment about how a guy at work and I were joking, both trying to get details off of each other about our current loves, without success (basically, you tell me nothing, I tell you nothing, jesting). Anyway, after I told her all of this, she rolled her eyes, groaned and (half mockingly) said 'but you haven't got ANYTHING - you don't HAVE a love life!!!!'. I was soooo upset - even the comforting that my flatmate gave me later on didn't help.

I'm really sick of people making comments like this to me. Why do they do that? Why do they continually try to show their relationships up in my face, and make fun of my 'supposedly' single life. Even if I didn't have this kind of situation - why do they insist on joking about them being able to have sex, lie in their hubbys arms, having someone to come home to, and continually remind me that I don't... it's not fair! And it's not christ like?

How do I broach this - I want to say something but I don't know how...

Sorry about my rant,

Sasch

 

[mina]

I'm sorry that happened to you. People can be cruel and thoughtless. It was wrong of her to say that to you. I've had that happen to me before too. I don't know why people think it's ok to say snide remarks to singles or to anyone really. It hurts. Just remember that when people make a point to "brag" about their own life or point out others faults to make others feel bad, it's usually because they are unhappy about themselfs or in their own life. If it hurt you that badly, then I would say something to her. Maybe wait until anger subsides, but just let her know that what she said was hurtful and you would appreciate it if she didn't say things like that to you. Be honest if she's a good friend.

 

[JPPT1974]

Though I have never, ever had a real, really real-life boyfriend, it is good to show emotions if they are shown in a way that is not used as a "sexual object" nor to give up your virginity and what people say, just ignore them because they probably aren't Christians nor if they are they aren't acting very, very, Christ-like about it at all. But show your feelings without going over the limit not just for your sake and your boyfriend/girffriend but for God's sake.