My prayers aren't being answered. Need help with unforgiveness.

[RadRave]

I've been praying to the lord for help for many years on many things. A lot of my prayers aren't being fulfilled when I ask.

I've been praying for work, money, a girlfriend and lots of many things, and all these requests have never been answered.

I don't know and understand as to why my requests aren't being fulfilled. I don't know and understand what evil it is I've done that offends God so much as to why my prayers are offensive to him.

I cried, begged, pleaded, everything. I confessed all my sins, but I don't know and understand why my prayers have yet to be answered.

I have anger issues and hold a lot of bitterness, grudges and resentment towards lots of people who have done me wrong. I keep trying to forgive them and I can't. I struggle with it. I don't know how I can forgive them and personally I don't want to.

I seek god to get revenge on all these people who hurt me. These people have done me wrong calling me wicked and evil. I try so hard to forgive these people but the anger and pain keep coming back.

I don't want to be friends with these people anymore and don't want them in my life. I left my church because of their gossip and lack of care or understanding. Not willing to help, call to see if I'm ok and even not willing to help with the financial struggles I deal with.

I don't know what evil I have done to offend god so much to not be willing to forgive me and fulfill my requests. I don't know what it is. I'm trying my best to forgive these people. I'm trying my best but I don't know how to do so and I'm not getting any clues in prayer or the Bible. The answer isn't clear to me and I don't know what it is that will please god to bless me like he does to his favorites who he does.

Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.

 

[Jeshu]

Please understand that your inability to forgive is based on lack of compassion and love in your heart. This is why you don't want to forgive them but wish them evil. Such forces inside of our hearts keep us from God's loving grace, as you can see for yourself.

It is best to ask God for love for His grace and an understanding of His punishments so that you don't wish them on those who have treated you badly.

Please bring all the bad treatment to Jesus. confess to Him how you feel about it and ask Him to change you. Each time you have unforgiving thoughts and feelings confess them to Jesus and leave them with Him and take Forgiving love back in to your heart.

It is really important that you hold onto His love and grow in His love. Perfect love lays down His life for His enemies and prays for them rather than condemns them or wants that to be the case. Cultivate such love in your heart, His loving truth will set you free.

Please learn to be like Him.

Matthew 6:14 "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."

 

[Kinable]

About 2 months ago one night when I was smoking marijuana (don't do it anymore) I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit pretty strong that night and the one before. I was thinking about something really bad I did to my cat back when I was a kid. I grew up with abusive parents, was beaten and called worthless by them many times. I was also bullied pretty much all throughout elementary school. Most people who are bullied can at least consider their home safe, I had no such safe place. All this physical, mental, and emotional abuse deteriorated my mental and emotional health. It made me hate the world and gave me serious trust issues. My lack of empathy and resentment towards the world as a result of the abuse and lack of a safe environment made me do what I did to my cat. In all honesty it wasn't that bad, I didn't cause any physical damage (pain yes but not damage that needed healing) or yell at her or anything but I'm sure it still hurt her.

As the thought of what I did to her entered my mind I started crying. I don't remember the last time I felt that much emotion before that but man did I feel something that day. I sat there looking down, crying holding my bong saying out loud "I'm so sorry Chowder (my cat's name), please forgive me. I'm not that way anymore, that's not me..." As soon as I said that I started getting clear visions in my head of all the people who've wronged me. I realized that they did what they did to me because they were also in a bad spot in their lives like I was when I did what I did to my cat. I realized if I could change, anyone can. I believe God put these visions in my head to help me realize the true concept of forgiveness.

I've held many grudges in my life but from that moment on they've all been forgiven. All my bullies, abusive parents, old employers that had it out for me, friends and family that have betrayed me, customers that lied or exaggerated complaints about me, people who've broken or stole my property, people who've ruined my life one way or another, everyone in my eyes is forgiven, no apology necessary. I'm sure you have done something in your past that you regret doing because you were stupid at the time, see how you've changed? If you can change anyone can. I hope to one day meet my bullies in heaven to meet the people who they would have been had they not been bullies, that's the real them. I hope this helps you realize the concept of forgiveness, I believe this is what is what is making your prayers only go as far as the ceiling because you hold this grudge in your heart.

"Therefore, God’s chosen ones, holy and loved, put on heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, accepting one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive." - Colossians 3:12-13

 

[Ricky M]

John 12:25

Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.


John 15:19

If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.


James 4:4

Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.


1 John 2:15

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17 And the world passes away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abides forever."


1 Corinthians 4:11

Even unto this present hour we both hunger, and thirst, and are naked, and are buffeted, and have no certain dwelling place; 12 And labor, working with our own hands: being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we suffer it: 13 Being defamed, we entreat: we are made as the filth of the world, and are the off scouring of all things unto this day. 14 I write not these things to shame you, but as my beloved sons I warn you."


Matthew 5:3

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. 5 Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. 6 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. 7 Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. 8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. 9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. 10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11 Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.


Luke 6:20

“Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God. 21 Blessed are you who hunger now, for you will be satisfied. Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh. 22 Blessed are you when people hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man. 23 “Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, because great is your reward in heaven. For that is how their ancestors treated the prophets. 24 “But woe to you who are rich, for you have already received your comfort. 25 Woe to you who are well fed now, for you will go hungry. Woe to you who laugh now, for you will mourn and weep. 26 Woe to you when everyone speaks well of you, for that is how their ancestors treated the false prophets.


2 Corinthians 12:10

That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.


Matthew 10:22

You will be hated by everyone because of Me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved.


Philippians 1:21

For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. 22 If I am to go on living in the body, this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! 23 I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far; 24 but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body. 25 Convinced of this, I know that I will remain, and I will continue with all of you for your progress and joy in the faith


1 Thessalonians 3:7

Therefore, brothers and sisters, in all our distress and persecution we were encouraged about you because of your faith. 8 For now we really live, since you are standing firm in the Lord.


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That feeling that you don't belong in this world? It's because you don't belong to this world. Paul wanted to move on, but chose to remain. God says above all perseverance is the key. It's a war of attrition, with the benefit of knowing who wins in the end. May that be our strength in a life time of trial.

 

[Qwertyui0p]

I've been praying to the lord for help for many years on many things. A lot of my prayers aren't being fulfilled when I ask.

I've been praying for work, money, a girlfriend and lots of many things, and all these requests have never been answered.

I don't know and understand as to why my requests aren't being fulfilled. I don't know and understand what evil it is I've done that offends God so much as to why my prayers are offensive to him.

I cried, begged, pleaded, everything. I confessed all my sins, but I don't know and understand why my prayers have yet to be answered.

I have anger issues and hold a lot of bitterness, grudges and resentment towards lots of people who have done me wrong. I keep trying to forgive them and I can't. I struggle with it. I don't know how I can forgive them and personally I don't want to.

I seek god to get revenge on all these people who hurt me. These people have done me wrong calling me wicked and evil. I try so hard to forgive these people but the anger and pain keep coming back.

I recommend 'What's So Amazing About Grace' by Philip Yancey.
It might help to recognize that holding a grudge just extends the pain.

I don't want to be friends with these people anymore and don't want them in my life. I left my church because of their gossip and lack of care or understanding. Not willing to help, call to see if I'm ok and even not willing to help with the financial struggles I deal with.

That's understandable.

I don't know what evil I have done to offend god so much to not be willing to forgive me and fulfill my requests. I don't know what it is. I'm trying my best to forgive these people. I'm trying my best but I don't know how to do so and I'm not getting any clues in prayer or the Bible. The answer isn't clear to me and I don't know what it is that will please god to bless me like he does to his favorites who he does.

Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.

If you pray for something and your prayer isn't answered it doesn't necessarily mean that you've offended God somehow. Also, I think your falling victim to the idea of 'if bad things happen to you it must be because your fault and if you do this or that God will give you this or that'. Scripture does say that you reap what you sow but that doesn't mean that it must be your fault if bad things happen, and it doesn't mean that it everything will go well for you if you do the right thing.

 

[RadRave]

I pray that the curse be lifted from my life where my prayers for the things I ask for be fulfilled. I pray to forgive all the people I hate. I ask for help to receive revelation so this curse over my life may finally go away.

Please father, I want this curse gone from my life. I want my prayers to be answered. Let it be your will father, please. Please don't reject or deny me. I need your help.

 

[sea5763]

Nvm

 

[Tolworth John]

have anger issues and hold a lot of bitterness, grudges and resentment towards lots of people who have done me wrong. I keep trying to forgive them and I can't. I struggle with it. I don't know how I can forgive them and personally I don't want to.

May I suggestion, that rather than try to forgive people you resent etc, that you pray for them.

What do I mean:-
Well tell God about each situation, each incident, who did/said what, how it hurt you and your reaction to these words and acts etc.
Then having told God ask him to take charge of the incidents, the people and your feelings about it.
You then pray for each person, asking God to be with them, their families, to watch over them and to bless them with salvation etc etc etc.

Why:-
If one is praying for someone and praying regularly for them it is impossible to gate them, feel resentment towards them when one is expressing love for them.

You want God to bless you, start imitating Jesus and seek blessings for those you dislike.

 

[LoricaLady]

Unforgiveness can be a huge impediment to our prayers as you seem to understand. How do you forgive? It is very easy and very hard. It is very easy because all you have to do is stop thinking about how those people have hurt you and put your mind on other things "Be transformed by the renewing of your mind." The best thoughts are Biblical thoughts, maybe through reciting Bible verses. See what Psalm 1 has to say about how to be successful.

It is very hard because the mind can be so ingrained in bad habits, and generally is. It takes practice to let go and turn your mind away from all those negative thoughts. If you do that - and I have experienced this myself, definitely - the anger will go and the forgiveness will come without you even struggling for that.
It feels so much better to be free from anger and resentment!

Now if you try this way you have to keep it up. If you have some success, wonderful. But be on guard. Those thoughts will try to come back later because, I believe, they are driven by the devil and he doesn't want you free. So just push him away with Bible verses as Messiah did in the desert. This takes a lot of practice and a lot of persistence but is so worth it.

I pray for your freedom.

 

[RadRave]

What you should pray for is my prayers to be answered and fulfilled.

 

[LoricaLady]

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[Vieste]

I've been praying to the lord for help for many years on many things. A lot of my prayers aren't being fulfilled when I ask.

I've been praying for work, money, a girlfriend and lots of many things, and all these requests have never been answered.

I don't know and understand as to why my requests aren't being fulfilled. I don't know and understand what evil it is I've done that offends God so much as to why my prayers are offensive to him.

I cried, begged, pleaded, everything. I confessed all my sins, but I don't know and understand why my prayers have yet to be answered.

I have anger issues and hold a lot of bitterness, grudges and resentment towards lots of people who have done me wrong. I keep trying to forgive them and I can't. I struggle with it. I don't know how I can forgive them and personally I don't want to.

I seek god to get revenge on all these people who hurt me. These people have done me wrong calling me wicked and evil. I try so hard to forgive these people but the anger and pain keep coming back.

I don't want to be friends with these people anymore and don't want them in my life. I left my church because of their gossip and lack of care or understanding. Not willing to help, call to see if I'm ok and even not willing to help with the financial struggles I deal with.

I don't know what evil I have done to offend god so much to not be willing to forgive me and fulfill my requests. I don't know what it is. I'm trying my best to forgive these people. I'm trying my best but I don't know how to do so and I'm not getting any clues in prayer or the Bible. The answer isn't clear to me and I don't know what it is that will please god to bless me like he does to his favorites who he does.

Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.

Many times we don't get an answer from God for what we want because it isn't in God's plan for us. That's a difficult concept to accept, but once we do, we start praying to God, "Thy will be done, not mine." Then, we wait until He sends us all the wondrous gifts He has planned to give us - which are many. Keep your prayers simple - ask Him to choose what is best for you, and you'll be surprised at what great things He will send your way.

 

[RadRave]

Many times we don't get an answer from God for what we want because it isn't in God's plan for us. That's a difficult concept to accept, but once we do, we start praying to God, "Thy will be done, not mine." Then, we wait until He sends us all the wondrous gifts He has planned to give us - which are many. Keep your prayers simple - ask Him to choose what is best for you, and you'll be surprised at what great things He will send your way.

Thanks. I'll do the best I can to take that to heart. It's difficult to accept. It's not easy being humble and wind up showing false humility. Sometimes my emotions get in the way and it affects the way I think. I don't know, I just don't know. I try not to let my anger and pride get the best of me, I really do. But sometimes, I just can't help it and accept what's before me lots of the times.

I feel like I'll be very upset if I didn't get into graduate school after all the hard work I put into school trying to get in for a long time.

I don't know. It's just that sometimes, I'm not content and happy with what the lords choices are for me in life. Most of the time, I feel like I run into disappointments than enjoyments. I don't know, I just don't know.

But thanks anyways. I'll see what I can do and see what I can probably get in prayer.

 

[Vieste]

Thanks. I'll do the best I can to take that to heart. It's difficult to accept. It's not easy being humble and wind up showing false humility. Sometimes my emotions get in the way and it affects the way I think. I don't know, I just don't know. I try not to let my anger and pride get the best of me, I really do. But sometimes, I just can't help it and accept what's before me lots of the times.

I feel like I'll be very upset if I didn't get into graduate school after all the hard work I put into school trying to get in for a long time.

I don't know. It's just that sometimes, I'm not content and happy with what the lords choices are for me in life. Most of the time, I feel like I run into disappointments than enjoyments. I don't know, I just don't know.

But thanks anyways. I'll see what I can do and see what I can probably get in prayer.

You are very courageous at your age to be asking such insightful questions about your faith. God is listening and you will be blessed in time.

God's choices for us are difficult to accept - but I know now that His way is the only way. I look back and see how much better my life had been if only I had waited for God to tell me what I needed rather than going ahead with what I thought I needed. 'Pray without ceasing' is the best advice I ever received - and end your prayers with 'if it is your will God.' You will eventually hear and feel the direction you should take - it's hard not to be impatient when you're young - but you seem to want to follow His way and that is a blessing. Search the Bible for scripture that speaks about waiting on God and listening for that 'still small voice' from Him that will always lead you on the right path.

I have Proverbs3:5-6 framed by my front door and I read it each day before I go out. My prayers are with you and may God give you clear direction. Remember He loves you and only wants the best for you. Go to Him as your counselor.

 

[Rene Loup]

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[YeshuaBought]

I've been praying to the lord for help for many years on many things. A lot of my prayers aren't being fulfilled when I ask.

I've been praying for work, money, a girlfriend and lots of many things, and all these requests have never been answered.

I don't know and understand as to why my requests aren't being fulfilled. I don't know and understand what evil it is I've done that offends God so much as to why my prayers are offensive to him.

I cried, begged, pleaded, everything. I confessed all my sins, but I don't know and understand why my prayers have yet to be answered.

I have anger issues and hold a lot of bitterness, grudges and resentment towards lots of people who have done me wrong. I keep trying to forgive them and I can't. I struggle with it. I don't know how I can forgive them and personally I don't want to.

I seek god to get revenge on all these people who hurt me. These people have done me wrong calling me wicked and evil. I try so hard to forgive these people but the anger and pain keep coming back.

I don't want to be friends with these people anymore and don't want them in my life. I left my church because of their gossip and lack of care or understanding. Not willing to help, call to see if I'm ok and even not willing to help with the financial struggles I deal with.

I don't know what evil I have done to offend god so much to not be willing to forgive me and fulfill my requests. I don't know what it is. I'm trying my best to forgive these people. I'm trying my best but I don't know how to do so and I'm not getting any clues in prayer or the Bible. The answer isn't clear to me and I don't know what it is that will please god to bless me like he does to his favorites who he does.

Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.

I am in the same situation. i have been suicidal, for over one year, now.

 

[Michele D]

Forgiveness can be very tough. It took me years to forgive someone. I believe I did pray for all those years to be able to forgive that person. I think it took me so long because they were still around in my life. It’s very hard for me to forgive the person that continues to mentally abused me (at that time- very long time ago)
when I pray I ask the Lord the change me, to bring me peace, kindness, patience, gentleness, goodness, forgiveness, love. And to remove anything unholy inside my heart and my spirit. If any unforgiveness or bitterness is in me to take it out, take it Father it is yours. When I pray for other people I pray for what I pray for myself even my enemies. I had a male that stalked me for 3 years every day I prayed he would find happiness and Gods peace, that evil would be taken out of him.

I believe first you need to pray that God will change you and your heart.

 

[YeshuaBought]

Forgiveness can be very tough. It took me years to forgive someone. I believe I did pray for all those years to be able to forgive that person. I think it took me so long because they were still around in my life. It’s very hard for me to forgive the person that continues to mentally abused me (at that time- very long time ago)
when I pray I ask the Lord the change me, to bring me peace, kindness, patience, gentleness, goodness, forgiveness, love. And to remove anything unholy inside my heart and my spirit. If any unforgiveness or bitterness is in me to take it out, take it Father it is yours. When I pray for other people I pray for what I pray for myself even my enemies. I had a male that stalked me for 3 years every day I prayed he would find happiness and Gods peace, that evil would be taken out of him.

I believe first you need to pray that God will change you and your heart.

I know what, you mean. forgiving God, is even more painful. I love God, but I am angry with Him.