My one wish....

[MikeMcK]

My one wish was to marry my one true love and now that will never happen.

I'm sorry. I know that hurts.

I know you don't believe this now (nobody at 16 ever believes this) but it's going to be OK. You'll hurt for a while, but you'll be OK.

Trust me, you're 16. You're going to have a lot of good things happen to you in the next few years.

It really makes me wonder about why people always act like God loves me if he never gives even the simple things that other people just happen to have every day...Oh well. I guess I'll never unerstand.

Maybe it's because God does love you that He doesn't give you everything you want. What we want isn't always good for us. I know this because I just ate several slices of pizza that I really wanted and now I'm about to be sick.

God sees the big picture. What do you think would happen if you were to marry this guy and then, a couple of years down the road, realized that the guy who was your "one true love" at 16 isn't your one true love at 25?

 

[Mskedi]

Hmm...

My parents met in high school and married shortly after. They have a great relationship, and I always admired that.

So growing up I thought I would want something similar. But there was definitely no one in high school for me.

And then every relationship I had in college was less than what I wanted.

I ended up in a relationship with a friend from high school toward the end of college. I thought that was it -- an old friend, someone I'd known for a good eight years. We were together for three years, and that last year was me just holding on to a dream. I broke it off. We're friends, and we're great at being friends, but that's all.

And now I'm with the person I will marry, who I met in the most random of ways, who had a completely different upbringing than me, but who I feel completely comfortable and happy with.

Things don't always happen the way you plan.

 

[Endure2]

^I kinda understand....actually no, I dont. sorry.

And I'm not too young to be thinking about marriage because according to the law I could get married if I wanted to be emancipated out of my house.

And the other problem I have is is if I give up on this relationship than its giving up on my dream. My dream was always to marry someone I met in highschool and now that can never happen. But I should have known dreams never come true.

see, im saying there are somethings that worrying about only tend to bring pain and more worrying and confusion, so its best to just turn and go the other way, even if it means going in a direction youve never gone before.

 

[dvd_holc]

Hello hopeless,

I can't image the full extent that you are going through. I struggled to find a love for many years. I wanted someone that I could embrace, and they could embrace me. Someone to pour my heart into. Someone to be there for me. Someone to love and take care off. I had many broken hearts trying to find my wife. But even after I found her, our relationship was full of many problems and struggles. I don't know what your true hope is...but I do know that you have hope because you are so crushed by the current pain....but your hope is not removed...you have just be running away from it. Don't escape your pain and struggle...Your life is worth more than dream of. You want to make a difference...Do you have a sense that pouring your love into a person and making a solid life rooted around a shared love is what you were meant for? You want your love to change at least one person...have loving children...experience all the joys of this life...Stop turning away from the hope that leads you to that joy and love. God actually resides in those moments. And he cares for you when you are cursing him...Stop cursing him when your ex-boy friend is the one who decided not to be with you. Work hard at school. Don't accept the position that people want to put in. You will find the strength to work through your problems. When the time comes you will be able to hold onto him more fully because you can work through your struggles instead of walking away or moving the blame around on other things.

 

[hoplessss]

yeah, I see what all of you guys are saying but I'm just gonna be frank. I HATE GOD's PLAN FOR ME!!

Trust me, I think I'd be sooooo much better off if I could just plan these things myself. I jsut wish God would go away. He's like the annoying parent you can't get rid of and I can't get rid of him. Sometimes I wonder if I'd rather just go to hell just to get rid of him because he's sooo friggin annoying!

And about this whole ex-boyfriend thing, he didn't necissarily decide that he didn't want me. I broke it off because I felt like we weren't ready and other smaller factors. But now he says hes moved on and that it was never necissarily part of the plan that we were supposed to get back together and now hes about to go out with this..."mean" girl who I think might partially only be into him because he's my ex and you know how girls are. It's always better when you take soemthing from someone else rather than jsut earning it yourself. BUT PLEASE make no comment on the whole exboyfriend thing because no one really knows what they're talking about and I don't think he even knows what he's talking about honestly and by people voiceing their negative opinons on the whole thing I get depressed and sucidal so PLEASE NO COMMENT ON THE EX-FACTOR!!!

But anyway, back to the whole God thing. I think I'm predestined to hell because I even went and heard Billy Grahm speak once with my church (yes I'm on of the hypocrites) and I almost fell asleep on his sermon...yet more than 75% of the stadium went down to accept christ. So I think christianity is just not my thing.

Anyway, I would talk more but I have to go. Be back in a few hours.

 

[dvd_holc]

I won't say anything about your boyfriend...How about you aren't predestinied for hell? How about you are actually in hell as a present reality? So what do you actually want?

 

[hoplessss]

^wait, am I leaving God behind or my life?

So is life basically hell anyway then, dvd_holc? So is this technically as bad as it gets? I'm confused. I always failed reading comprehension...

 

[dvd_holc]

^wait, am I leaving God behind or my life?

So is life basically hell anyway then, dvd_holc? So is this technically as bad as it gets? I'm confused. I always failed reading comprehension...

You tell me are you leaving God behind, out of your life?


Look, Heaven and Hell are actual places. However, they are also present realities. Jesus said to pray that His will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. So then when are living in the harmony of God, we bring about the actual sovernity and sustance that this world needs and feeds off of.

However when we do things like your father, we bring a bit of hell to earth. The ways of hell are disharmony that result in pain, suffering, and destruction of relationships and lives.

It is your choice which path you take, as it is everyone else. When you tell me of your pain in life, I can see how much misery you have...but is that who you are? Is that pain how you identify yourself? What is your core?

 

[MariaRegina]

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[s_gunter]

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[Endure2]

^wait, am I leaving God behind or my life?

So is life basically hell anyway then, dvd_holc? So is this technically as bad as it gets? I'm confused. I always failed reading comprehension...

hopeless,

goodluck to you.
i hope you do find some resolution to these things.

 

[Sharky]

Your motive for coming to Christ is important.

Did you come to Christ because He will give you a plan, a purpose and lasting fufilment. Wrong motive.

Did you come to Christ so that he can save you from your sin? Every lie you ever speak, every time you blaspheme or curse God, everytime you get angry without cause, hate others, lust, steal. Every time you break God's 10 commandments His just punishment is hell. Yet He still wants to save you from that and you still hate Him?

The only reason why people hate Him is pride. You need to humble yourself if you are to be saved and experience His amazing love.

 

[hoplessss]

pride of what? LIke, I think I'm too good for God? Is that what you mean?

 

[seamonster]

Did you come to Christ because He will give you a plan, a purpose and lasting fufilment. Wrong motive.

That's not a wrong motive at all because Christ DOES do that for us. If we're empty or unsure or searching for a purpose, Christ gives that to us so it's not wrong to want Christ because he gives us purpose.