I was my mother's carer for many years. I loved my mum. We were very close. She was in an Aged care facility these past months due to a fall she had. She was in respite care.
She passed 23 October into the presence of the Lord.
My sister was away on holiday overseas and arrived day mum passed.
My sister and her husband live 10 hours away (drive) so I understand they had a long journey. She told me they would drive, and not fly down.
At the funeral she was cold towards me. I don't know why.
After the burial we went back to my mum's place to pick up her neighbour as she is elderly and didn't drive. This was near my mum's home.(not aged care facility). When we got there we found my sister and her husband's ute in mum's driveway. We walked in to find them going through mum's belongings with a pile of stuff all over the floor. I said to my sister, "Don't you think you could come another time to do this?" She said No, they had to make the availability of coming now to pick up mum's things. After the memorial service, they came back to take mum's fridge and dining table and the next day the chairs. They took a lot of linen, my father's tapestries, furniture(they wanted the tv but knew that we had bought it for mum). They asked the executor and he said to take sentimental things.They took these for their son who is 22 years of age and just bought his first new home. I think what hurts is that they chose a day when mum was just buried and remembered. My sister had little to do with mum. She saw her once a year. Mum's home was how we left it before she went away and we (other siblings and I) didn't want to touch things just yet. I think my sister was bold to come into a home where her mum had lived and instead, of soaking up some warm memories, just invaded her cupboards. I have forgiven my sister and her husband but I am still hurt. I did share it with her and she hung up the phone. They sent a text message to say "that their conscience was clear and that they had hung it at the cross while they were there". I don't know what that means. My nephew(mum's grandchild) had no relationship with my mother and yet he phoned on the day she was dying. Then we heard nothing from him once my mum had gone home to be with Christ. Do you think it was appropriate for them to take the things while they were down? It is a 10 hour drive back. My sister said her husband couldn't take time off work to come down again. I guess my nephew is blessed now, he has a near-new fridge, near-new dining room suite and all the linen pictures to start his new life with his girlfriend but we are still sad.
She passed 23 October into the presence of the Lord.
My sister was away on holiday overseas and arrived day mum passed.
My sister and her husband live 10 hours away (drive) so I understand they had a long journey. She told me they would drive, and not fly down.
At the funeral she was cold towards me. I don't know why.
After the burial we went back to my mum's place to pick up her neighbour as she is elderly and didn't drive. This was near my mum's home.(not aged care facility). When we got there we found my sister and her husband's ute in mum's driveway. We walked in to find them going through mum's belongings with a pile of stuff all over the floor. I said to my sister, "Don't you think you could come another time to do this?" She said No, they had to make the availability of coming now to pick up mum's things. After the memorial service, they came back to take mum's fridge and dining table and the next day the chairs. They took a lot of linen, my father's tapestries, furniture(they wanted the tv but knew that we had bought it for mum). They asked the executor and he said to take sentimental things.They took these for their son who is 22 years of age and just bought his first new home. I think what hurts is that they chose a day when mum was just buried and remembered. My sister had little to do with mum. She saw her once a year. Mum's home was how we left it before she went away and we (other siblings and I) didn't want to touch things just yet. I think my sister was bold to come into a home where her mum had lived and instead, of soaking up some warm memories, just invaded her cupboards. I have forgiven my sister and her husband but I am still hurt. I did share it with her and she hung up the phone. They sent a text message to say "that their conscience was clear and that they had hung it at the cross while they were there". I don't know what that means. My nephew(mum's grandchild) had no relationship with my mother and yet he phoned on the day she was dying. Then we heard nothing from him once my mum had gone home to be with Christ. Do you think it was appropriate for them to take the things while they were down? It is a 10 hour drive back. My sister said her husband couldn't take time off work to come down again. I guess my nephew is blessed now, he has a near-new fridge, near-new dining room suite and all the linen pictures to start his new life with his girlfriend but we are still sad.
