my mother

[Etienne]

My mother and I have always had a strange relationship. Since before I could remember, I have always lived with my dad, and that has been what I have wanted. But I still saw my mom normally more than once a week. But in March of 2003 my grandmother died, and things happened, and we just got closer apart. The last time I saw my mom was at the beginning of July in 2003. So it has been over a year.

What I am wondering is, is this un-Christian like? I know it says "thall shalt honor thy mother and father." Would this be not honoring my mother?

 

[L2006]

Well, it does say to honor your mother and father, but I (just my opinion) also think the parent has to take a responsibility and talk to their child.

 

[crossrunner]

You are still a minor. It is the parents' responsibility to parent you. She is apparently not living up to her responsibility and I'm so sorry about that.
You can honor her by being kind and loving to her and supporting her even if you don't get the same from her. Meanwhile, get her a card, write how much you love her in it and send it to her.

 

[fishstix]

My mother and I have always had a strange relationship. Since before I could remember, I have always lived with my dad, and that has been what I have wanted. But I still saw my mom normally more than once a week. But in March of 2003 my grandmother died, and things happened, and we just got closer apart. The last time I saw my mom was at the beginning of July in 2003. So it has been over a year.

What I am wondering is, is this un-Christian like? I know it says "thall shalt honor thy mother and father." Would this be not honoring my mother?

It depends on just why you're not seeing her. If there is an underlying reason that involves unforgiveness or bitterness or resentment or something like that then it's a problem. And it may be your mother's problem or your problem or both of your problem depending on who it is who has that sort of attitude. Of course either one of you could take steps to solve the problem, even if it exists on the other side. But if it's just a case of people growing apart over the years then it isn't as big of a deal. In either situation, I would recommend taking steps not to grow apart from one's immediate family except in very exceptional circumstances. Perhaps you could give her a call on the telephone and try to work things out?

 

[Etienne]

Thanks for your advice. I think that I may write her a letter. I am not sure that I am ready for talking to her just yet.

 

[Melody42]

Honor is a spiritual surrender to authority. It is not something you can "do", it is something you display through understanding God's character and design.

 

[TheMainException]

I don't believe it is dishonoring your mother...you haven't really done anything wrong.