- Feb 20, 2007
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We spent the weekend at my Aunt and Uncles 65th wedding anniversary party. It was really important to my mom that we came out East for the event as I had never met most of my cousins and their kids. The reason for this is because my mom was disowned by her Catholic parents when she married my southern Methodist father when she was just 18. As I found out this weekend, my grandfather didn't know my mother had gotten married until he read about it in the newspaper. My cousins also told me that it was my grandmother's most fervent wish that someday my mother might return to the Church. Like myself, my grandmother was a convert.
For those of you who don't know, my mother was welcomed back into the Church on the Ash Wednesday of the year after I was confirmed. Besides my wife, my mother is the only other person I know who I have helped influence their return home.
This just makes me reflect on how much pain my mother must have felt as a young woman and mother. It's no wonder we never got to know her side of the family.
My Aunt and Uncles wedding album was on display. My favorite photo was of them kneeling before the altar, with one of the bridesmaid's kneeling at the altar rail and my mother in one of the front pews, a young teenager, her white gloved hands prayerfully pressed together and of course, her head properly covered with a dainty white hat. (she tells me she really liked that hat, it had a cherry on top)
I'm just glad that I could be part of her healing. She's not a morning person, but she was out the door early enough to make it 7:30 am mass. I think it's weird that something that is so precious to me, caused my mother so much suffering. I know if I were a parent, I would want my child to marry a Catholic, but there's a lot of mixed marriages on my wife's side of the family and everyone seems to get along fine.
Like my MIL, I wonder if it was my Grandmother's prayers from Heaven which led to my conversion which led to my mother's return to the Church. This is such a great mystery to me. What is going on on the other side of that veil?
For those of you who don't know, my mother was welcomed back into the Church on the Ash Wednesday of the year after I was confirmed. Besides my wife, my mother is the only other person I know who I have helped influence their return home.
This just makes me reflect on how much pain my mother must have felt as a young woman and mother. It's no wonder we never got to know her side of the family.
My Aunt and Uncles wedding album was on display. My favorite photo was of them kneeling before the altar, with one of the bridesmaid's kneeling at the altar rail and my mother in one of the front pews, a young teenager, her white gloved hands prayerfully pressed together and of course, her head properly covered with a dainty white hat. (she tells me she really liked that hat, it had a cherry on top)
I'm just glad that I could be part of her healing. She's not a morning person, but she was out the door early enough to make it 7:30 am mass. I think it's weird that something that is so precious to me, caused my mother so much suffering. I know if I were a parent, I would want my child to marry a Catholic, but there's a lot of mixed marriages on my wife's side of the family and everyone seems to get along fine.
Like my MIL, I wonder if it was my Grandmother's prayers from Heaven which led to my conversion which led to my mother's return to the Church. This is such a great mystery to me. What is going on on the other side of that veil?