i became a member of this site in august 2005. my intention of finding this site was because i had found myself in a horrible situation. i was only 3 months into my marriage and was so heartbroken. we never had a chance. it was over way before it even started. of course i couldnt see that at the time but it was doomed and i was so lost, alone and severely confused. i searched for a place i could come talk to other Christians for support, advice and help. this site helped me a lot and i made some really great friends here.
my ex husband and i were both Christians and divorce never entered my mind. i dont believe in it. i believe in fighting for your marriage and putting your spouse first! of course after the Lord. years later, i have realized that unless there is a miracle, unless its Gods will, a marriage cant work if both people dont have the desire and determination to fight for it and make it work!
i found myself in denial and in a severe depression. i lost myself and i didnt know what to do with my situation.
i dont want to get too detailed about this but i was in an abusive marriage and i didnt know it until we were legally separated. i learned a lot about what i was really dealing with at that time. this was not only refreshing but a true breath of fresh air and i literally felt the weight lifted off of my shoulders. the abuse was so deep that i was brain washed into believing everything was my fault. it was a very confusing state to always be in and what a relief when i was able to let it all go and see everything for what it really was.
before i learned the truth about what was going on, i struggled with the thought of divorce but after a lot of prayer, reading and research, the Lord brought me a great peace and i believe with all my heart, this marriage was not His will for me.
i know God hates divorce but i do not struggle with being divorced. He has given me a peace and a justification on why this is where i should be now. i am happier now than i have been in a long time. i am finally finding myself again and learning so much. i feel a sense of peace and am so proud that i was able to get out of that, get through that long, miserable divorce process and come out stronger, healthier and better!
i was terrified wondering how i was going to even support myself. i live in southern california where the cost of living is outrageous. i was so scared at where this divorce would take me but the Lord continues to protect me and provide for me. i still live in the same area as i did before and am doing very well for myself. nothing is hard with God.
everyone has their own story and situation and no one can tell you whats right or wrong. only the Lord can really speak to you and tell you what is right for you and what you may be going through. outsiders may think they know and some Christians may be legalistic but i have learned to shut my mouth and not judge if i havent walked in others shoes.
i was encouraged to share my story by another person here on CF, i do hope it can encourage or help others in some way. if you have any questions, please dont hesitate to ask. God bless you!
my ex husband and i were both Christians and divorce never entered my mind. i dont believe in it. i believe in fighting for your marriage and putting your spouse first! of course after the Lord. years later, i have realized that unless there is a miracle, unless its Gods will, a marriage cant work if both people dont have the desire and determination to fight for it and make it work!
i found myself in denial and in a severe depression. i lost myself and i didnt know what to do with my situation.
i dont want to get too detailed about this but i was in an abusive marriage and i didnt know it until we were legally separated. i learned a lot about what i was really dealing with at that time. this was not only refreshing but a true breath of fresh air and i literally felt the weight lifted off of my shoulders. the abuse was so deep that i was brain washed into believing everything was my fault. it was a very confusing state to always be in and what a relief when i was able to let it all go and see everything for what it really was.
before i learned the truth about what was going on, i struggled with the thought of divorce but after a lot of prayer, reading and research, the Lord brought me a great peace and i believe with all my heart, this marriage was not His will for me.
i know God hates divorce but i do not struggle with being divorced. He has given me a peace and a justification on why this is where i should be now. i am happier now than i have been in a long time. i am finally finding myself again and learning so much. i feel a sense of peace and am so proud that i was able to get out of that, get through that long, miserable divorce process and come out stronger, healthier and better!
i was terrified wondering how i was going to even support myself. i live in southern california where the cost of living is outrageous. i was so scared at where this divorce would take me but the Lord continues to protect me and provide for me. i still live in the same area as i did before and am doing very well for myself. nothing is hard with God.
everyone has their own story and situation and no one can tell you whats right or wrong. only the Lord can really speak to you and tell you what is right for you and what you may be going through. outsiders may think they know and some Christians may be legalistic but i have learned to shut my mouth and not judge if i havent walked in others shoes.
i was encouraged to share my story by another person here on CF, i do hope it can encourage or help others in some way. if you have any questions, please dont hesitate to ask. God bless you!
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