My husbands dad

[Goobersmooch]

To a great Man, Husband, and Father. I grew up with a terrible father and when I got married at 20 I did not know what a functional father was. I met my father-n-law in October 1991. He was kind, funny, smart, loyal and VERY generous. When I married Allen I did not have a license much less a car. I got my license when I was 22. My father-n-law bought me my first car(not my dad) we paid him a 100.00 a month for about 6 monthes and then we did not pay him anymore because we were always in financial turmoil. so he bought me a 10,000 dollar car in 1994. he has helped us out of MANY messes we put ourselves in. Helped us pay taxes on our house so we wouldnt lose it. He was the father of 5 children. He would not hold back when it came to christmas. He and my mother-n-law spoiled ALL of us! including me. I felt like a princess. for the first time in my life there was someone out there who cared about me and showed it in a healthy way. He always celebrated my birthday every single year and he never forgot it. until last year when he died on May 4th. He had cancer. the most painful kind. he lived with it for a year and he even had to take care of my mother-n-law who could not move around on her own. she did not have a wheel chair at the time so he had to help her get up and walk her to the bathroom and back to her chair again. What a strong man. he was in so much pain but he carried that burden every day because he loved her. he did not tell her or anyone else in the family that she has Dementia. He did not want her to give up. He carried that alone. He was so scared last year around this time because he didn't want to die leaving his wife all alone. He always thought of everyone else and not himself. I have never known anyone like him in my life. My husband has some of his great qualities. Im so lucky to have a husband like this man.Im so sad for my husband. This was his best friend. He lost his father last year and he has to make it through this anniversary. It will be very hard. Thank you Harold for being such a great man.

Melanie