My husband..

[Gwen'sMom]

Hi everyone, I have posted here before as I have depression which is being controlled with meds. My husband is going through a horrible time with his work. He is in business for himself and things aren't going well. Normally he is very optimistic with everything but he has taken on an almost sinister and cold attitude with everything. He doesn't talk anymore. We have talked about separating. I guess what I'm asking is can a normally happy upbeat person become afflicted with depression? He won't accept any help from me or friends.

 

[bugs5]

I am kind of new at this and I feel funny giving people advice but I'm sorry that your going through this. I kind of know what you mean in that my dad has become sort of the same way since my mom has become ill and he is getting older now and cannot retire because of her medical expenses. I do feel that, and can of have noticed that being around people who are constantly in a negative light won't do anything for your emotional health. I play sports, so when one of my teammates is down aftering doing bad and she blows the rest of her team off that is trying to tell her hey, you know next time will be better, it kind of puts me in a bad mood because she did acknowlegde the fact that I cared enough to tell her that I thought she was a great player and she will bounce back. But you know what, I have been in her shoes too and it will only take time and effort from that person to get themselves out of the hole that their in. As much as you can I think you should stay positive and surround yourself with people who are positive and upbeat! It will keep your spirits high and hopefully he will catch on to the happiness that you exude God bless! Hope this helps a little

 

[bugs5]

P.S. Maybe you could look at my post and tell me what you think. Sorry about typos too, I don't really proofread these things hahaha

 

[Gwen'sMom]

Hi Bugs5 thanks for responding. I totally understand what you mean by surrounding yourself with postive influences in life. I know that I am going to be feeling really good soon. You see we have decided to separate. It really is for the best. Maybe on his own my husband can find himself again and start anew. I can't believe I actually wrote this. I only made the final decision last night.