My husband is driving me nuts atm

[suzybeezy]

Every have it happen when someone is doing a good deed for you but its not what you want or it causes more problems for you so you can't fully appreciate their efforts?

My husband is so sweet, he's cleaning the kitchen, prior to our holiday baking (which is a big undertaking around this house). Well he's turned it into a 2 day project, cleaning out cupboards, reorganizing, and everything! Yes I very much appreciate everything he's doing (to some degree), but he's keeping me from what I need to get done. I'm trying sooo hard to remember that what he's doing is a wonderful thing but its so hard when I know in the back of my head its only going to fowl up the precious time I have to get things done. Hard to be truly appreciative of someone's good deeds when your own wants/needs are being encroached upon. And it doesn't help that I'm not saying anything about it, cause I don't want to hurt his feelings as he's so proud of all the hard work he's done. I do appreciate what he's doing, but I want to go nudge him out of the kitchen so I can get busy with my work. I keep looking at the clock tick away and knowing any hopes of accomplishing what I needed to get done is becoming hopeless.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Bring it up. How is he supposed to know if you don't? The longer you take to do so, the more irritation is going to build up inside you.

 

[Niffer]

Lol! I know that feeling! Could you possibly do a: "Hunny I REALLY appreciate the cleaning you're doing for me; but I really need to get some more cooking/baking done and this is not a good time to decide to re-organize all the cupboards. Let's do that next week?/Month?/Feb?"

Good luck!
- Niffer

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I felt something like that this weekend. We were about to get in the car to head out on a long road trip. Then my wife decides that's the perfect time to clean the kitchen.

Lesson in patience!

 

[illudium_phosdex]

Heh, my husband does this kind of thing all the time. And I can't say anything at all. Even if I try nicely to say, "Sweetie, I love so much that you're helping me out. Is there any way that we could do this *next* weekend or some time that's not nearly so busy?" he still gets his feelings hurt and says that I only want things done on *my* time. It can be really frustrating.

 

[suzybeezy]

I did end up saying something, tried to be uber nice about it, but his feelings were still hurt. He takes any comment as a reflection of not being appreciated, which it isn't. I guess there's no real solution. The Lord must be trying to work on patience in me, but that's a lesson I never enjoy working on, lol. Thanks for the advice.

 

[true2theword]

Every have it happen when someone is doing a good deed for you but its not what you want or it causes more problems for you so you can't fully appreciate their efforts?

My husband is so sweet, he's cleaning the kitchen, prior to our holiday baking (which is a big undertaking around this house). Well he's turned it into a 2 day project, cleaning out cupboards, reorganizing, and everything! Yes I very much appreciate everything he's doing (to some degree), but he's keeping me from what I need to get done. I'm trying sooo hard to remember that what he's doing is a wonderful thing but its so hard when I know in the back of my head its only going to fowl up the precious time I have to get things done. Hard to be truly appreciative of someone's good deeds when your own wants/needs are being encroached upon. And it doesn't help that I'm not saying anything about it, cause I don't want to hurt his feelings as he's so proud of all the hard work he's done. I do appreciate what he's doing, but I want to go nudge him out of the kitchen so I can get busy with my work. I keep looking at the clock tick away and knowing any hopes of accomplishing what I needed to get done is becoming hopeless.

there's always the grocery store to buy cakes and cookies, save yourself the trouble, and if he complains about the bill, its his fault