My Husband is addicted, please help

[Lissababe]

My hubby who I love very much, is addicted to pot and when not high hes drinking, eating, or whatever to get a buzz. we have 3 kids under 4yrs. i cant live with this anymore, hes a really nice person before he got addicted, but now hes horrible. he says he is christian and even reads his bible daily, but he trys to quit and cant. i think he may have a demon as he hallucinates and has this imaginery "friend" who talks to him when hes high, he tells him disturbing things like dont worry about his family (me & kids) and the bible isn't true.
please pray for his release from satans bonds, i have been praying for so long and havent got anywhere, i go to baptist church & try to get him along, so far he didnt want to come. (he use to be Jehovahs witness who believe any other church is wrong)
any advice please?!

 

[AngelDove1]

sorry the word God,should say Go.....

anyways,
Al-anon helped me understand that what the addict/alcoholic
was doing was not my fault.And that i could live with this person
Al-anon gave me a different way of looking at life
(living with an addict) its a choise.

My mind is healthier,and stronger,thanks to God.

"I can do All things through christ Jesus,who gives me strenght"
Lean on the Lord,He will give you peace of mind.

 

[Chie]

My hubby who I love very much, is addicted to pot and when not high hes drinking, eating, or whatever to get a buzz. we have 3 kids under 4yrs. i cant live with this anymore, hes a really nice person before he got addicted, but now hes horrible. he says he is christian and even reads his bible daily, but he trys to quit and cant. i think he may have a demon as he hallucinates and has this imaginery "friend" who talks to him when hes high, he tells him disturbing things like dont worry about his family (me & kids) and bible isn't true.
please pray for his release from satans bonds, i have been praying for so long and havent got anywhere, i go to baptist church & try to get him along, so far he didnt want to come. (he use to be Jehovahs witness who believe any other church is wrong)
any advice please?!

Prayers for you, your children and your husband also.
Until he feels the need to change all you can do is pray for him, and let him face the consequences of his actions. There are support groups for family with addicts and please go to your pastor concerning this. The main thing is the well being of your children, much love and peace , I know what you are going through.

 

[Rynalee]

It could be a demonic thing, or perhaps he could even be developing schizophrenia - very common amongst pot smokers. My husband works in mental health, and says that the majority of scizophrenics smoke or used to smoke pot. Perhaps you might benefit from contacting your local mental health community support service? I really hope you can find some help because it sounds like you're carrying a very heavy load.

 

[BigToe]

Going to Al-Anon can help you learn things you can do to help you cope with this in your life. It can help you see how you aren't alone and find people who will be there to support you who cannot tell anyone else what you tell them.

Have you suggested to him that he get help?

 

[BigToe]

How are you doing? Are you alright? Any changes or updates?

 

[spiersdodgerblue]

My hubby who I love very much, is addicted to pot and when not high hes drinking, eating, or whatever to get a buzz. we have 3 kids under 4yrs. i cant live with this anymore, hes a really nice person before he got addicted, but now hes horrible. he says he is christian and even reads his bible daily, but he trys to quit and cant. i think he may have a demon as he hallucinates and has this imaginery "friend" who talks to him when hes high, he tells him disturbing things like dont worry about his family (me & kids) and the bible isn't true.
please pray for his release from satans bonds, i have been praying for so long and havent got anywhere, i go to baptist church & try to get him along, so far he didnt want to come. (he use to be Jehovahs witness who believe any other church is wrong)
any advice please?!

Sister, go online and type in "Celebrate Recovery". It is a 12 step Chirst base recovery program. Your church might be willing to start one up or you can order the books yourself. Some one else said to check with the mental health, I too think this might be good to do.

 

[wmc1982]

Trust God

 

[JacktheCatholic]

My hubby who I love very much, is addicted to pot and when not high hes drinking, eating, or whatever to get a buzz. we have 3 kids under 4yrs. i cant live with this anymore, hes a really nice person before he got addicted, but now hes horrible. he says he is christian and even reads his bible daily, but he trys to quit and cant. i think he may have a demon as he hallucinates and has this imaginery "friend" who talks to him when hes high, he tells him disturbing things like dont worry about his family (me & kids) and the bible isn't true.
please pray for his release from satans bonds, i have been praying for so long and havent got anywhere, i go to baptist church & try to get him along, so far he didnt want to come. (he use to be Jehovahs witness who believe any other church is wrong)
any advice please?!

I have read suggestions that I was beaten to.

Got to a support group.

Have your husband seek professional care to determine possible mental illness.

One more...

Even if you have to leave him live chastly and remember marriage is lifelong and even substance abuse and/or mental disorders are not usually cause for an anulment.

May God send angels to watch over you and your family through these times of trouble.

God Bless,

Jack

 

[Lissababe]

thanks for your replies, ive been away from the computer for a while!! i looked at the 'celebrate recovery' as well, it looks great, thanks for that. i did get my hubby to come to church one time (a while ago now) but could not get him to come again, not sure why, he did enjoy it! maybe hes afraid of facing God with the changes he will have to make. hes been trying to quit and failing because hes trying to do it alone & his workmates & family are potheads, so he cant get away from it.
anyway its not looking too hopful. i know as a christian im meant to do my best to make my marriage work. and i feel i have. how long do i wait for him to change? (been waiting 7yrs so far) i definatly dont want our kids to grow up in this type of environment. my oldest is 4 already.
i have prayed incessantly for guidance but havent recieved any. god has spoken to me before but not about this. oh except for about 1yr ago: i was studying about saul who was persecuting christians, then Jesus spoke to him & he totally changed to follow Jesus(& became Paul). when i was reading this God said to me "and i can change (my hubby) too".....so what does that mean??? i know he can, but will he & when? what if hubby uses his free will and refuses to change?? does that mean i have to stay & put up with his addiction, or can i leave for a while until he grows up then come back to him?
please pray for me that God give me the answers. thanks for your support!!! sorry to blah on so much...

 

[Chie]

thanks for your replies, ive been away from the computer for a while!! i looked at the 'celebrate recovery' as well, it looks great, thanks for that. i did get my hubby to come to church one time (a while ago now) but could not get him to come again, not sure why, he did enjoy it! maybe hes afraid of facing God with the changes he will have to make. hes been trying to quit and failing because hes trying to do it alone & his workmates & family are potheads, so he cant get away from it.
anyway its not looking too hopful. i know as a christian im meant to do my best to make my marriage work. and i feel i have. how long do i wait for him to change? (been waiting 7yrs so far) i definatly dont want our kids to grow up in this type of environment. my oldest is 4 already.
i have prayed incessantly for guidance but havent recieved any. god has spoken to me before but not about this. oh except for about 1yr ago: i was studying about saul who was persecuting christians, then Jesus spoke to him & he totally changed to follow Jesus(& became Paul). when i was reading this God said to me "and i can change (my hubby) too".....so what does that mean??? i know he can, but will he & when? what if hubby uses his free will and refuses to change?? does that mean i have to stay & put up with his addiction, or can i leave for a while until he grows up then come back to him?
please pray for me that God give me the answers. thanks for your support!!! sorry to blah on so much...

prayers for you and your family.
God can change and do all for your husband. But until your husband feels the need to change and is wanting it, change will not come and stay for the long haul. So when you felt in your spirit God saying he could, believe me he can, but it is up to your husband, not you. There isn't a more helpless feeling than to know you can not save someone you love from destruction. Right now on his own, your husband is helpless but not hopeless in the Lord. Continue to pray for him. Some people have to hit rock bottom before they will cry out to God and for help. As long as we are there catching them, rescuing, and taking away their consquences of their actions they will have no deisre to change or ever be in a place where there is no other escape for them but to know they are powerless and need deliverence from their addiction, denial will resurface as long as they have not given it all to God.
God be with you and your children, prayers for your husband.

 

[Momtotwo]

I just wanted to tell you that I have been following your story, and as a mother of young children myself, I can only imagine how bad you must feel! I KNOW God can change him! And I know right now you must feel as if God has not "talked" to you or changed anything in your life because nothing seems to have helped but God works in many different ways and Believe me SILENCE from God is an answer from him!
What I mean by that is just because God has not done a miraculous change in your husbands addiction problems, his silence might just be the answer your husband needs to clean up his act. Perhaps God knows that if your husbands distructive behavior continues and you get feed up to the point you know it is time to leave, maybe that is the "rock bottom" your husband needs to change his life.
I know God dosen't want divorce, and i am not saying that is the answer, but God also dose not want your children growing up in an unhealthy enviorment. I turely believe that if it ends up as you needing to leave him, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, he already left your family long ago for the additions, it was his choice, not yours. And if it takes you having to stay with your mother (or someone else) for a while that may be the truth in his face that he needs. God works in so many different ways, and even when you feel that he hasn't answered your prayers, believe me the silence is a huge answer!
I think you should keep praying about this and truely do what God puts in your heart to do. God dosen't want you to be unhappy, he loves you and your family so much, if you feel like there is silence from him there is a reason for that. Do what you feel God wants you to do, and God wants the VERY best for you and your sweet little ones!

God Bless!

 

[Fable]

Hi Lissa,

My heart goes out to you because I've been there. I don't know your husband, so I can't offer a lot, but my first thought on reading your post was that he may be suffering from schizophrenia, which substance abuse easily sets off. There is a lot of good information about this on the internet. Of course you can't make your husband get help if he doesn't want it, but at least you can equip yourself with knowledge and information so that you can make good decisions for yourself and your family.

I'll send some prayers your way. Cheers!