My Grandpa, who was Great

[BethMae]

My papa died today, well I guess it was technically yesterday, but it hasn't even been 12 hours so it still feels like today. I didn't know I would take it this hard. I have been helping my nana take care of him, he had alzheimers. He was really suffering. I am glad he is Home now, but I miss him. It's three AM and I can't seem to go back to sleep. I just want to go to my grandma's house and find him sitting in his lazy boy watching golf and drinking his ice tea so that he can tell me I have pretty teeth and ask to hold my baby again. I would make him a ham sandwitch with relesh and maybe we could play a game of tiles. We don't get to do those things for a while, maybe if I make it to heaven. At least I know he loved God. He is happier now.

-Beth Mae

 

[Anti Existance]

*hugs* much love, what you did n all for your grandpa was great. Take all the time to grieve and allow yourself all the time you need for this. Its important to understand that your grandpa will always be in your heart, and that you will always love him, and that he will always love you.

Imagine that if you died, would you love to see your loved ones to grieve,suffer and be in tears for many years to come over your death? Of course not you would want them to be happy and move on with their lives and live on.

This is important because ,your grandpa wants the same for you. For can you imagine being happy yourself, if someone you love is continuesly suffering because you miss them so much? Its much too early now, but gradually let your grandpa go, and focus your attention on your child who he would love to see grow up and be happy, as well as the childs mother being happy too.

Its important therefore that you talk talk talk about it, so that you can process your grieve , and find support with family and loved ones. We have to understand the natural cause of all things, we often have a bad view on death. But for people who are near the end and suffering its actually a gift from God. If you understand that, (although its much too early now) then you can let your grandpa go like water, for god is like an ocean that gives and takes, and Jesus said that none will get lost. *hugs much love*

 

[9T6]

My papa died today, well I guess it was technically yesterday, but it hasn't even been 12 hours so it still feels like today. I didn't know I would take it this hard. I have been helping my nana take care of him, he had alzheimers. He was really suffering. I am glad he is Home now, but I miss him. It's three AM and I can't seem to go back to sleep. I just want to go to my grandma's house and find him sitting in his lazy boy watching golf and drinking his ice tea so that he can tell me I have pretty teeth and ask to hold my baby again. I would make him a ham sandwitch with relesh and maybe we could play a game of tiles. We don't get to do those things for a while, maybe if I make it to heaven. At least I know he loved God. He is happier now.

-Beth Mae

Beth Mae, I thank you for your post. I think you show a truly healthy and loving response to the passing on of your papa. Rather than being angry with death you say: "I am glad he is Home now, but I miss him". This is (in my humble opinion) the way it should be. None of us would surely want to live forever in this world, and therefore we welcome the fact that at some point we will all return to God, but our love bonds inevitably mean that we hurt from the periods of separation that we have to endure in the meantime.

It is also right and healthy to think of the good times and experiences that we have shared with our loved ones. It is in the nature of life on earth that our experiences are not always good, even with those that we love. Humans are notoriously good at hurting each other! But if we can cherish the good from life and forgive the bad then the world becomes a much better place. You show a fine example of this.

I think Anti Existance offers you some sound thoughts and advice in the post above, so I'll stop here.

 

[AwesomeMachine]

I know I don't know you, but I have lived through much pain. Death of loved ones was part of that pain. Of the people who died, my Grandfather was the only one who cared about me. I cared about everyone, but my Grandfather really cared about me, too. My heart is with you. I share your pain. I wish there was more I could do for you; so much pain.

The days are clearer for me now. The pieces of my heart that died with my loved ones sprouted new life out of the old. My heart is better now, because I put my trust in God to grow me a new heart each time. The old one was in too much pain. Jesus gave me His heart. Now I can love again. Everything seems new. What was taken from me cannot be replaced, but I trusted God and He put something better in its place. If you trust God, He will always give you something better than what you have lost. You will come out happier, and instead of feeling pain when you think of your loved one, you will feel love. You will become a gift to others who suffer.