my grandma...

[x.miranda.x]

Ok, so when I was little, me and my grandma got along great. I used to stay with her a lot, because she lives pretty close. Then, when I was 8 (I think?) We (my family) moved next door to her and my grandpa. It was fine for a little while. But she by nature, is a very controlling person. And she agreed that she would stay out of our business if we would love next door, and help her and my grandpa. So it got worse gradually. She started spying on everything we did, and was asking about where we were, what we were doing, etc. all of the time. And she even started coming in our house to "check" it to see if we were taking care of it. And we did (and do now to our house), but it's not her business. And nothing is EVER her fault in her mind. She blames and blames. And nothing is ever good enough for her. And she is negative all of the time. And she gets really angry really easily. Her temper is crazy bad. And she will guilt trip you over everything. And I feel awful all of the time, because she makes me feel like everything is my fault, when I know that it isn't. I am seriously an emotional wreck because of her. So I moved with my mom and little sister. We still live in the same town, but not next door anymore. So then she got even meaner and worse when we moved. Me and my little sister are stuck over there about 2 times a week. And I hate it. But I feel bad, because my grandpa is wonderful! He is the greatest guy ever!! But I never want to see her or talk to her, because it's usually not pleasant. And I get so sick of her, that I say a lot of things that I shouldn't. And we fight a lot. Like huge fights over nothing. And I try and calm it down, but then she basically bullies my little sister. She knows that my little sister is afraid o her, so when she's mad, she takes it out on her sometimes, and I will let her have a piece of my mind. And it's horrible. I'm not a violent person at all, but I have been ready to go punch her in the face (not that I ever would). And I try really hard to not get upset and be respectful, but it's really hard to be. And somedays, she fine to be with or the most part, and other days, she stresses me out so much that I get physically sick. I will almost puke (sometimes do), and I get shaky, and I get a headache. And I keep praying for her and this whole situation everyday, and it just seems to get better, then go right back. And I really don't think that I will ever to be able to forgive her, and it's a horrible feeling.... What should I do?

 

[Autumnleaf]

You are old enough you shouldn't have to go there if you don't want to.

 

[x.miranda.x]

I don't, but my sister kind of does, and I can't leave my grandpa like that

 

[texastig]

The Bible states that we don't wrestle with flesh and blood but against principalities and powers, rulers of darkness and spiritual wickedness in the heavenly places. Eph 6:12
Before going over there next time. Pray and ask God to bind up any spirits that are causing your grandma to do those things in Jesus Name. Then ask God to loose warring angels to battle for you and to send ministering angels to minister to your grandma in Jesus Name.
I'll guarantee you that you will see a change.

 

[DrFrank]

"Me and my little sister are stuck over there about 2 times a week." Miranda if you let your Mom read the message you wrote here I don't see why she would force you to spend any more time with your grandmother.You can not protect your sister or your grandfather from her so you really need to be primarily concerned about yourself in this case.

"I really don't think that I will ever to be able to forgive her, and it's a horrible feeling."Forgiveness is essential for Christians but you can't even begin to start that process until you have been away from her completely for some period of time.Get your Mom or if necessary your Youth Pastor on board for OPERATION PEACE SEPARATION!

 

[Samuel Coleridge]

Ok, so when I was little, me and my grandma got along great. I used to stay with her a lot, because she lives pretty close. Then, when I was 8 (I think?) We (my family) moved next door to her and my grandpa. It was fine for a little while. But she by nature, is a very controlling person. And she agreed that she would stay out of our business if we would love next door, and help her and my grandpa. So it got worse gradually. She started spying on everything we did, and was asking about where we were, what we were doing, etc. all of the time. And she even started coming in our house to "check" it to see if we were taking care of it. And we did (and do now to our house), but it's not her business. And nothing is EVER her fault in her mind. She blames and blames. And nothing is ever good enough for her. And she is negative all of the time. And she gets really angry really easily. Her temper is crazy bad. And she will guilt trip you over everything. And I feel awful all of the time, because she makes me feel like everything is my fault, when I know that it isn't. I am seriously an emotional wreck because of her. So I moved with my mom and little sister. We still live in the same town, but not next door anymore. So then she got even meaner and worse when we moved. Me and my little sister are stuck over there about 2 times a week. And I hate it. But I feel bad, because my grandpa is wonderful! He is the greatest guy ever!! But I never want to see her or talk to her, because it's usually not pleasant. And I get so sick of her, that I say a lot of things that I shouldn't. And we fight a lot. Like huge fights over nothing. And I try and calm it down, but then she basically bullies my little sister. She knows that my little sister is afraid o her, so when she's mad, she takes it out on her sometimes, and I will let her have a piece of my mind. And it's horrible. I'm not a violent person at all, but I have been ready to go punch her in the face (not that I ever would). And I try really hard to not get upset and be respectful, but it's really hard to be. And somedays, she fine to be with or the most part, and other days, she stresses me out so much that I get physically sick. I will almost puke (sometimes do), and I get shaky, and I get a headache. And I keep praying for her and this whole situation everyday, and it just seems to get better, then go right back. And I really don't think that I will ever to be able to forgive her, and it's a horrible feeling.... What should I do?

Forsake your sins and bring your deeds to the Light.

 

[serephim01]

The Bible states that we don't wrestle with flesh and blood but against principalities and powers, rulers of darkness and spiritual wickedness in the heavenly places. Eph 6:12
Before going over there next time. Pray and ask God to bind up any spirits that are causing your grandma to do those things in Jesus Name. Then ask God to loose warring angels to battle for you and to send ministering angels to minister to your grandma in Jesus Name.
I'll guarantee you that you will see a change.

LOL Oh my.


In real advice I would say just try and find her some help, she needs meds if she's going off the handle like that. Normally I would say not to go back there but your grandpa sounds like a real nice guy. I think you should just try and avoid her at anytime.

 

[jkryle]

LOL Oh my.
In real advice I would say just try and find her some help, she needs meds if she's going off the handle like that. Normally I would say not to go back there but your grandpa sounds like a real nice guy. I think you should just try and avoid her at anytime.

That's not nice to LOL.

 

[r035198x]

Many people grow more irritable as they get older. It has even been suggested that their temper is not their fault.
Try to be mature beyond your years and love her just the way she is. Very difficult yes but that is what true love is all about.
Pray that God helps you to avoid getting into arguments with her and that God shows you a lot of her good side too.

 

[serephim01]

That's not nice to LOL.

Really cause I thought it was not nice to tell people to ask god to bring warring angels down upon people.

 

[jkryle]

Really cause I thought it was not nice to tell people to ask god to bring warring angels down upon people.

You can ask God to send warring angels to fight the enemy not people.

 

[serephim01]

You can ask God to send warring angels to fight the enemy not people.

What is the enemy in this situation tho? I think meds would be better in this situation imo.

 

[Capuano231]

She just loves you.

If love bothers you, move.

 

[DoctorJosh]

Ok, so when I was little, me and my grandma got along great. I used to stay with her a lot, because she lives pretty close. Then, when I was 8 (I think?) We (my family) moved next door to her and my grandpa. It was fine for a little while. But she by nature, is a very controlling person. And she agreed that she would stay out of our business if we would love next door, and help her and my grandpa. So it got worse gradually. She started spying on everything we did, and was asking about where we were, what we were doing, etc. all of the time. And she even started coming in our house to "check" it to see if we were taking care of it. And we did (and do now to our house), but it's not her business. And nothing is EVER her fault in her mind. She blames and blames. And nothing is ever good enough for her. And she is negative all of the time. And she gets really angry really easily. Her temper is crazy bad. And she will guilt trip you over everything. And I feel awful all of the time, because she makes me feel like everything is my fault, when I know that it isn't. I am seriously an emotional wreck because of her. So I moved with my mom and little sister. We still live in the same town, but not next door anymore. So then she got even meaner and worse when we moved. Me and my little sister are stuck over there about 2 times a week. And I hate it. But I feel bad, because my grandpa is wonderful! He is the greatest guy ever!! But I never want to see her or talk to her, because it's usually not pleasant. And I get so sick of her, that I say a lot of things that I shouldn't. And we fight a lot. Like huge fights over nothing. And I try and calm it down, but then she basically bullies my little sister. She knows that my little sister is afraid o her, so when she's mad, she takes it out on her sometimes, and I will let her have a piece of my mind. And it's horrible. I'm not a violent person at all, but I have been ready to go punch her in the face (not that I ever would). And I try really hard to not get upset and be respectful, but it's really hard to be. And somedays, she fine to be with or the most part, and other days, she stresses me out so much that I get physically sick. I will almost puke (sometimes do), and I get shaky, and I get a headache. And I keep praying for her and this whole situation everyday, and it just seems to get better, then go right back. And I really don't think that I will ever to be able to forgive her, and it's a horrible feeling.... What should I do?

It is better to live in an attic than with a nagging woman. Your grandma is just a natural nagging woman, but you can still Love her and it won't be long (a couple years) before you are out on your own. However, it is time to just ask her why she is so upset all the time and what makes her feel so unhappy. Perhaps if she is willing she will share her sadness and what upsets her within herself that she takes it out on everyone else.

I say to people like that, "Why are you so upset about everything?" and "Why are you so hard on yourself and others who love you?" and "Did Jesus ever do that to the people He Loved?" and "Who made you God?" and "Look in the mirror and take the thorn out of your own side before you start to try and correct others."

Oh yes, expect arguments, expect to be told you are not respectful, but say she is not respectful and she is not Loving when she does those things. In order to find happiness, one must love themselves, but letting them know you still Love them and are willing to do things with them, even visit them is crucial, but also let them know they have to do something about their situation to make them feel better about themselves. Plus as a last resort, tell her you Love her and give her a big Hug and she what she does. She may leave the house for hours. haha.

Then again, it can be just she is going through the mid life crisis that most go through. Oh gosh, I have lived my entire life and have not done anything with it. Oh gosh, I am this old and going to die soon and I didn't see Paris. Oh gosh, I am watching everyone else around me be happy and I am miserable with my life and I am too old to do anything about it now. Oh gosh, how about we just help them get a life. haha. Grandma needs a vacation to 6 flags or Disney Land and put her on every ride and she will forget her worries. haha.

Truly, some just will never change and we still Love them, but it is hard being around them. We just have to find that happy place in our minds that we can escape to when the nagging never stops and just ignore it and them, just go about your play and or work and don't let it get the best of you.
God Bless. Never give up.