My GF wants me to change jobs. Need help!

[James of Arc]

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[blackribbon]

OP's girlfriend is either just a bit paranoid because she isn't a good driver so cars scare her....or she just wants him home an hour earlier at night and thinks this job gets in the way of their relationship.

 

[blackribbon]

You need to teach your woman who the man of the house is.

Since they are not married nor engaged, he isn't the man of HER house and they each should be considering the other's requests on their merit but making their own decisions.

 

[MehGuy]

You need to teach your woman who the man of the house is.

 

[ReesePiece23]

You need to teach your woman who the man of the house is.

And then train her to catch a Frisbee with her teeth, and chuck her a treat when she does good.

Hmm... My mind is wandering to dark places now. I need to distract myself.

 

[Servant68]

I have a good job that is low stress and lets me have four days off one week and three off the next. My recently ex-girlfriend works for the same corporation in the division I came from a year ago.

She kept encouraging me to apply for a managerial position in her department and I kept telling her that I left that department for a reason. It was run by sociopaths and hamstrung by HR. But she kept bugging me about it. Funny how most of the stress in her life was work related and she would tell me all these stories of how awful her job can be, then ten minutes later tell me I should apply.

Women want motivated workaholic men that are advancing in their careers.

Why do you think the question, "How ambitious are you?" is on so many dating profiles right after smoking or non-smoking and height?

After seven years in a high-stress, high-paying position (that I also drove 75 miles one way to get to), I am no longer "ambitious". All the money and toys were taken in the divorce and all that was left was gray hair and a gut.

 

[Sketcher]

I would only consider a job that would be a distinct upgrade, while ignoring the girlfriend factor. In other words, she should come up with a truly superior job offer in terms of pay, benefits, room for advancement, work environment, and location rather than just location. That would be worthy of consideration. An equal or worse job that is closer doesn't benefit you outside of the gas and commuting time that you save.

 

[blackribbon]

Women want motivated workaholic men that are advancing in their careers.

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This is NOT true. SOME women may want this...just like some men want women who will pay their own way so they can spend their money (the men) on their hobbies only.

I asked my husband what his dream job was and did my best to help him make that come true because a person spends too much time at their job to waste life at one that you hate. If he had chosen ditch digger...as long as he liked it and did it to the best of his ability, I would have happily been the wife of a ditch digger.

 

[CCHIPSS]

Thanks for all your replies guys! =)

I read all of them. An update. We agreed that I can stay in my job in the near future, for the next 1 or 2 years. After that I have to consider leaving.

I think this is fair. We will reassess the situation in 1 or 2 years.

 

[Toro]

Thanks for all your replies guys! =)

I read all of them. An update. We agreed that I can stay in my job in the near future, for the next 1 or 2 years. After that I have to consider leaving.

I think this is fair. We will reassess the situation in 1 or 2 years.

Do you own a house? If not why not move closer to your job then she can stop worrying and you can stay at the job you enjoy?