My friend David

[Princess Leia]

Hi everyone
I have a friend named David, we've been friends for four years.
About ten months ago or so he told me that he's gay. This morning I got a text message from him saying that he is no longer capable of being in my life because we want two different lifestyles.
He knows that I am against him living a homosexual lifestyle, but I've done my best to be there for him and not judge him.
However, I've failed, and I've lost one of my best friends.
My heart is breaking, but I have no tears left. All I can do is say Jesus, he's still Your child, please take good care of him.
Could I ask you to please pray for him, that he will know he is loved and cared about?
Thank you
God bless
Princess Leia/Kendra

 

[Historicus]

I'm praying for you both.

 

[Johnnz]

He is so lucky to have a Christian friend who are stuck with him.Can you write to him and tell him that one aspect of his life, his sexuality, is not big enough to override all the other things you enjoy about him?

Over the years I have maintained really good relationships with couples who are living together. They know my views on that, but they also know that I love them and care for them, and that I don't reject them on the basis of a single issue of morality.

John
NZ

 

[Princess Leia]

He is so lucky to have a Christian friend who are stuck with him.Can you write to him and tell him that one aspect of his life, his sexuality, is not big enough to override all the other things you enjoy about him?

Over the years I have maintained really good relationships with couples who are living together. They know my views on that, but they also know that I love them and care for them, and that I don't reject them on the basis of a single issue of morality.

John
NZ

He already knows that I made sure to tell him that I love him for who he is, not for who he has sex with.

Princess Leia/Kendra

 

[apologia25]

Dear friend,
I will be praying for you and him. I would say though it will be important for you to show him 1 corinthians 13. In this verse we learn that no sin is uncommon. Secondly show him 1 cor 6:9-11. Notice how the verse speak of just about every sin with homosexuality included. One of the key ministry tools of witnessing to gay people is to level the playing field. Help him to understand that you struggle with sin to and even though you do not struggle with the sin of homosexuality, God hates sin all the same. Putting key reference on the verse such were some of you but you were cleansed and washed. It is important to understand that being gay is just a sin, but an entire identity and sub-culture which is truly addictive. As a christian and a friend you need to show him he can receive the Love of Christ in a christian environment. Yes, church at first may be a bit tough for him to go to. I would say gather some real mature Christians and hang out one night along with your friend without any condemning words start talking about the way you used to live and how now you live a pure and holy life, all of the people should do it(please discern how he is feeling through it all). Also before you attempt any of this pray hard and with diligence. I am here if you need to send a personal message or anything
and I will be praying

 

[KindGuardian]

You're doing the right thing. Showing love for him lets him experience Christ and some way and gives him a glipmpse of what God is like through your unconditional love for him. I do like one part of the last post. Showing him you deal with sin too. Now, this may sound menial and stupid to us a Christians, many non-christians will few us as big headed super beings who never do anything wrong and believe ourselfs to be perfect. I honestly do think it would help him if you showed you weakness, and showed him how you slip, and how you know you do wrong and you don't think your perfect. Now, that part is akward, not-fun, and humbling; but I do believe that will help. I'm praying for you both. Prayer is power through God.

 

[2401 Penitent Tangent]

Don't judge him, but make sure he knows its wrong. If you want to have him come back he must understand that homosexuality is wrong and he must fight it. You can provide support and love throughout his struggles but he must take that first step, admitting his problem. You can help convince him of this, but he must come to this conclusion

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unfortunately. Praying for both of you

Michael

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[hithere]

your a great friend i will pray for ur friend and u so u can be an influence to him

 

[RemainFaithful]

Hi everyone
I have a friend named David, we've been friends for four years.
About ten months ago or so he told me that he's gay. This morning I got a text message from him saying that he is no longer capable of being in my life because we want two different lifestyles.
He knows that I am against him living a homosexual lifestyle, but I've done my best to be there for him and not judge him.
However, I've failed, and I've lost one of my best friends.
My heart is breaking, but I have no tears left. All I can do is say Jesus, he's still Your child, please take good care of him.
Could I ask you to please pray for him, that he will know he is loved and cared about?
Thank you
God bless
Princess Leia/Kendra

I would recommend you to ask him to join us here in this forum and try to get his struggles and frustrations out here. This community of various Christians helps a lot, specially knowing that there are others who are going through the same struggles too.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Don't judge him, but make sure he knows its wrong. If you want to have him come back he must understand that homosexuality is wrong and he must fight it. You can provide support and love throughout his struggles but he must take that first step, admitting his problem. You can help convince him of this, but he must come to this conclusion

himself​

unfortunately. Praying for both of you

Michael

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Hansel
Hamel
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Hmm ... is it possible to tell a well-indoctrinated homosexual that his/her religion (homosexualism) is wrong, without that person thinking you are judging them? I do not think so. In all my experience, any attempt to tell a homosexual he or she is wrong about some point of what he/she believes is considered judging and offensive to them. You're probably better off praying for them before you talk to them each day.

 

[silverserfer]

I will def. be praying for you
Love David

 

[Cristiano]

Hi everyone
I have a friend named David, we've been friends for four years.
About ten months ago or so he told me that he's gay. This morning I got a text message from him saying that he is no longer capable of being in my life because we want two different lifestyles.
He knows that I am against him living a homosexual lifestyle, but I've done my best to be there for him and not judge him.
However, I've failed, and I've lost one of my best friends.
My heart is breaking, but I have no tears left. All I can do is say Jesus, he's still Your child, please take good care of him.
Could I ask you to please pray for him, that he will know he is loved and cared about?
Thank you
God bless
Princess Leia/Kendra

Just love him--period. If he is not a believer, you have a duty to love him no matter what, not letting your faith taint your love for him. If he is a believer, steer clear because he wants to follow his will, not God's and that can only hurt your walk with the Lord. I am hoping he is not a believer. If this is the case, let him know that you love him no matter what. If he pulls the "You don't accept my lifestyle so you don't accept me" card, let him know that you are sorry he feels that way, but it doesn't stop you from loving him as he is, even though you do not have that lifestyle in your life. I always bring up that I have friends that have premarital sex (which for much of society is okay but for which I completely disagree with) and that I still love them no matter what. It doesn't matter. The logical response by him will be that you are equating his behavior with "bad" behavior and therefore you think he is bad. Then you can say, "Well, I have atheist friends, buddhist friends, Islamic friends, Jewish friends--all of them are in disagreement with Christianity--and I don't "agree" with what they say, but it doesn't mean I love the people any less." This is my experience. Hope it helps.