My fiance's problem

[Music4Hym777]

Hi,

I guess I thought that this would be the approproate place to ask for advice. My fiance is a "recovered" alcoholic and drug addict. He doesn't like to talk about it though, I know that he has had one relapse since he was in all the groups, but recovered quickly.

I just dont really know how to go about dealing with it, I am working sooo hard to get over my Eating Disorder before our wedding, and he appears to be over the addictions, but I guess I am asking, is there any way I can get him to open up about it? I am very open when it comes to my struggles with my ED, but he isn't about his addictions unless it is to help me.

Any advice?

 

[luv4godremains]

some people are naturally open where as others never have been and may never be. I'm not saying that he won't ever open up to you, but it will take a long time for him to open, it may just hurt too much for him to even think about the path he used to be on, the one that has destroyed his health soo much, even if no one can see it just by looking at him!

it's probably not the best thing to push it, I know that if anyone pushed me to talk about my past, I'd probably just turn around and hit them, not matter who they are.

Give him time to get used to the idea that you are his fiance and are not gonna get angry at his past, and then, if and when he's ready to open up, he will do. God will take him to that place in His time, not your fiances or your time.

I know it sounds harsh and hard to deal with and all, but it will be easier if you wait till he's ready, well, that's my personal opinion on it, I am only 15 at the end of the day, but, yer, also pray for him, lots, that he would learn to deal with his past and open his heart more to you and God.

 

[madison1101]

It is very difficult for some people to open up about their weaknesses, especially people who have dealt with addictions. I would just pray for him. You might want to read "The Power of a Praying Wife," since you are going to marry him.

 

[greenonion]

Music4Him- I understand how you are feeling. You are marrying this man, and you want to know everything about him, especially something as important as this.

But I wouldn't stress about it. When he is ready to share, he will. Until then, just continue to be available for him if he ever wants to talk, and keep praying for each other.