- Feb 16, 2002
- 9,292
- 124
- 42
- Faith
- Non-Denom
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- US-Democrat
I want to keep honoring and respecting my father because I do not want to break the commandment, nevertheless I have a problem.
My father seems to be very easily angered anymore. Anything from one of our 6 cats playing with the cord to his TV headphones to dropping something to whatever can set off a tirade that lasts anywhere from 10 minutes to more than an hour if it was something really troublesome to him.
While he has never been physically abusive, he has cursed at me, my sister, and my mother. He has accused us of a myriad of things from lying to not caring about what he wants (though we do care, and I personally will try to walk on eggshells to avoid a shouting match), he has made all of us feel stupid or worthless at one time or another, and has made various threats (threatened to let all our pets out the door once, threatened to leave another time, and others). He even once got so mad earlier this year that I was almost sure he would become violent (though he didn't)
He also accuses me of being bossy, backtalking, lying, or other things, especially when there is no objective source to say that I did not do that or mean what I said in such a malicious way. Sometimes he will tell a situation in such a way that he looks like a hero and everyone else involved looks bad.
While he has always been somewhat of a grumpy type of person and never very able to control his anger, it seems to have gotten worse over the last few years, as has the lying
He claims to be a "Christian" and is a very moral person (never been involved in crime or sexual sin and is very conservative on many issues), nevertheless I have some severe doubts about his standing with God because of the fruit presented. I would like to ask, and I once tried to give him a tract called "Are You Born Again" by slipping it in his Bible a few years ago, but that got both him and my mother mad at me for questioning the veracity of his faith, and he never read it.
Please pray, and give any advice you think can help.
My father seems to be very easily angered anymore. Anything from one of our 6 cats playing with the cord to his TV headphones to dropping something to whatever can set off a tirade that lasts anywhere from 10 minutes to more than an hour if it was something really troublesome to him.
While he has never been physically abusive, he has cursed at me, my sister, and my mother. He has accused us of a myriad of things from lying to not caring about what he wants (though we do care, and I personally will try to walk on eggshells to avoid a shouting match), he has made all of us feel stupid or worthless at one time or another, and has made various threats (threatened to let all our pets out the door once, threatened to leave another time, and others). He even once got so mad earlier this year that I was almost sure he would become violent (though he didn't)
He also accuses me of being bossy, backtalking, lying, or other things, especially when there is no objective source to say that I did not do that or mean what I said in such a malicious way. Sometimes he will tell a situation in such a way that he looks like a hero and everyone else involved looks bad.
While he has always been somewhat of a grumpy type of person and never very able to control his anger, it seems to have gotten worse over the last few years, as has the lying
He claims to be a "Christian" and is a very moral person (never been involved in crime or sexual sin and is very conservative on many issues), nevertheless I have some severe doubts about his standing with God because of the fruit presented. I would like to ask, and I once tried to give him a tract called "Are You Born Again" by slipping it in his Bible a few years ago, but that got both him and my mother mad at me for questioning the veracity of his faith, and he never read it.
Please pray, and give any advice you think can help.
